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Sunday Confessional - I Lost the Bracelet My Boyfriend Gave Me!

DearSugar — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

My boyfriend and I celebrated Christmas together for the first time last December. Though we are both watching our spending, we decided to go all out. I got him an awesome new suitcase that he had his eye on, and he got me a beautiful bracelet from my favorite boutique. I couldn't have asked for a more thoughtful gift - I absolutely love it and I wear it every day!

The other night, on our way home from drinks with friends, my boyfriend looked down at my wrist and asked me why I wasn't wearing the bracelet. My heart sank - I was wearing it - it must have fallen off. In an effort to not upset him, I told him that I had forgotten to put it back on after I got out of the shower.

First thing the next morning, I called the boutique where he got it and asked if they had any more left. They didn't, but the sales woman told me they could special order another one for me. I gave her the green light, but it won't get here for another two to three weeks. I don't know how I long I can make up stories before he finds out the truth, but since I lied to my boyfriend's face when he originally asked me where it was, I feel like I need to keep up the charade as long as I can. I don't condone lying and have made that very clear ever since we first started dating, so can I be forgiven for being a complete hypocrite?

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You Asked: Can I Exclude One of Our Friends?

DearSugar — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 12:30:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

I organized a Secret Santa among a group of friends this year. On exchange day, everyone received something and it went off well, however, one participant received a gift that she clearly didn't like. She complained publicly about every aspect of the gift and her Secret Santa was quite upset by this. I'll be organizing the event again next year and I wanted to ask you if it would be OK to exclude this girl. And if so, how would I go about doing that? - Poor Manners Molly

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Dear Poor Manners Molly,

I'm sorry to hear that your friend was disappointed in her gift; it sounds like she had a base case of speaking before thinking. While I'm sure her reaction made everyone at the gift exchange uncomfortable, I don't think it's your place to say anything - the woman whose gift she was bashing should let her know how it made her feel.

I don't blame you for not wanting to include her next year, but realize that leaving her out could hurt her feelings and possibly affect your friendship. Hopefully, after a little chat between your two friends, she'll realize how inconsiderate her words were and that it's really the thought that counts, not the gift.

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Sunday Confessional: I Hate the Gift My Boyfriend Gave Me!

DearSugar — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 09:00:00 -0800

My boyfriend and I spent our first Christmas together this year. I'm a big holiday person so I went all out, spending months racking my brain to think of the perfect gift for him: a ski jacket he'd had his eye on.

We celebrated on Christmas Eve, had a lovely home-cooked meal, and snuggled up by the fireplace - it was a perfect evening. When it came time to open gifts, I wanted him to go first. All my hard work paid off because he absolutely loved it. When it was my turn to open, however, I couldn't have been more shocked - it was like he didn't know me at all!

I get that Christmas isn't all about presents, but I can't help but feel disappointed that he got me such an impersonal gift - a gift certificate to a store I would never shop at! I faked it and thanked him, but I guess my feelings were written all over my face because he knew something was wrong. I hate lying to him so can I be forgiven if I tell him the truth? I just don't think I can keep it in much longer.

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Dear Poll: Would You Rather Give or Receive?

DearSugar — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 06:30:00 -0800

The older I get, the more enjoyment I take out of giving gifts verses receiving them. Sure, it's always fun to open presents of your own, but seeing the joy and excitement on your loved ones face when they see what you bought them is a feeling like no other. Especially when you've spent countless hours trying to find the perfect gift!

Since you're probably doing your fair share of both today, tell me, would you rather give or receive?

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Ask a Bad Boy: How Much Should I Spend on My Significant Other?

DearSugar — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 06:00:00 -0800

Steve Santagati, of BadBoysFinishFirst.com and author of the best-selling book The Manual, answers your burning questions when it comes to dating, love, and how men think. He's a veteran at giving street-smart, straight-to-the-point advice, so ladies, tell me, what do you want to ask Steve about men? This is your chance to get answers so don't hold back! Submit your questions here.

Since Christmas is here, Steve has some advice when it comes to holiday shopping for your significant other. Check out what he has to say below:

It's here, Christmas. After Christmas it will be his/her birthday or any number of "events" that require us to contemplate; "How much do I spend?" You don't want to seem cheap, but you don't want to make someone feel uncomfortable with your extravagance - like they will be expected to be equally generous. You want to show them you care - at least a little, but you want to be smart with your money, especially now. So here's your simple rule of thumb, broken down by economic status.

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If you're broke, spend $10 for every month you've been monogamously dating, or cook them something wonderful.
If you're sort of middle of the road (they killed the middle class but you get my point) you can jack that to $15-$20 for each month you've been dating.
If you're rich, then you can spend what ever you want. However, don't go crazy with the cash because it can make someone feel really uncomfortable (you know, like you think the relationship is further along than it really is). However, if you buy him/her a car and they don't flinch, you might have a gold digger on your hands.
If you're married or have been in a long relationship, have a solid discussion on a dollar figure you can both live with.

The most important thing a person can do is to buy their lover something that shows you've been listening and shows you understand what they like. It doesn't have to be expensive. In the end, we all want to think someone adores us and is paying attention. Guys really need to get a grip on this because most are clueless as to what to get their woman. It would help if they started paying attention the day they met you because that information will prove invaluable later on.

Now, here's my personal philosophy. I don't feel pressured to buy anyone anything just because Hallmark is slapping me in the face while I'm drinking a Budweiser and trying to get through A Charlie Brown Christmas special. What I do is simple; all year long I'm open to buying something for friends or paramours, regardless of the date. If I'm in a music store and I see an album I know she'll like, I get it. If I'm getting my oil changed and I see a gift certificate, I get it for her. I try to think of things that will make someone's life easier or bring a smile to her face.

Steve will be back next Monday to offer up some New Year's Eve advice so be sure not to miss it!

Check out his Bad Girls Finish First tee shirts and, for individual attention, visit Steve at BadBoysFinishFirst.com or email him at askstevesantagati@gmail.com

6 Gifts For Your Significant Other Without Spending a Dime!

DearSugar — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:00:00 -0800

If Christmas presents aren't in the cards for you this year, you're not alone. Since this is the holiday of giving, don't let the lack of excess funds make you a scrooge. Check out my six gift ideas that require little to no money at all. Enjoy, and if you have anything to add, please share your ideas in the comments section below! Source

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Do Tell: Who Do You Buy Gifts For During the Holidays?

DearSugar — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 10:30:00 -0800

Christmas is only 20 days away so if you haven't started shopping yet, you better get to it this weekend because according to Glamour magazine's December issue, 38 percent of women spend 10 or more hours shopping for holiday gifts! That seems a bit excessive to me, but I guess it all depends on how many people you're shopping for. So ladies, whether you're scaling down your celebration this year or going all out, do tell, who are you buying gifts for this holiday?

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Yum Market Finds: Bring The Beach To You

partysugar — Fri, 25 May 2007 13:58:19 -0700

As much as I love going to the beach, sometimes the horrendous San Francisco fog prevents me from being able to enjoy a little sun and surf. When this happens I like to bring the beach, with the salty smell, windy waves and cool breezes to me. I do this by incorporating beachy themes into my everyday life by using things like these serving platter fish plates. According to crispet1, who found these bright babies, you can use them to serve up grilled goodies.

Want more beachy fun for your land-locked kitchen? Then read more

Make your cake look like a castle in the sand with this bundt pan mold saved by Hollywoodjess. Sprinkle brown sugar around the cake to make it look like it's really in the sand.

Hollywoodjess was on a bookmarking roll and even saved these silver starfish and shell napkin rings. Thanks for finding these rings that you can use all summer long.

Found a cool kitchen tool, outdoor appliance, or chic cooking accessory? Share them with us in the Yum Market! To learn how to do so read geeksugar's guide.

Which of these foodie gifts do you want for Christmas?

YumSugar — Tue, 19 Dec 2006 15:08:24 -0800

Fab Gift Guide: Gorgeous Grandmas

FabSugarUK — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:00:26 -0800

I know it's only November, but it's never too early to start planning your Christmas gifts. Buying for Grandparents can be tricky, but I'm here to give you some tips and ideas for surprising your gorgeous Grandma.

Accessories make great gifts and you'll probably find that your Grandma wears more than you think. I think that a Radley handbag (£150) is a timeless piece that she'll love and use time and time again. The cute Scotty dog tag adds a quirky edge although it can easily be removed to suit taste.

See below for more suggestions for the holiday season.

Susan Caplan Vintage Multi Strand Faux Turquoise & Pearl Necklace - £115.00	Olive Imran Silk Twill Scarf, Liberty of London - £95.00
Totes Suedette Mule with centre seam slipper - £16.00	Red 'Filey' Tote Bag - £150.00
John Lewis Hestra Suede Gloves, Black - £30.00	Crystal Bow Brooch - £22.00
Mcleod Cashmere Cardigan - £449.40	Purple zip up coin purse - £45.00
Footglove™ Leather Stitched Bow Pumps - £35.00