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Newlywed Week in Review

DearSugar — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 04:00:00 -0700

If you missed any of my newlywed coverage this week, just check out my recap below!

First comes love, then comes marriage, but what comes next? Share with us how you and your spouse dodge those annoying questions.
Changing your name after marriage is a very personal decision so is it for you?
Find out everything you need to know about writing your many thank-you notes!
Getting ready to live together? Check out my eight tips for moving in with your new spouse.
Raising children in a two religion household can be a very challenging situation. Check out what people had to say on this serious matter and weigh-in with your own views.
Be sure to see my advice for combating your post-wedding blues.
What would you do if your new husband wanted you to be a stay-at-home wife?

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8 Tips For Newlyweds Moving In Together

DearSugar — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Deciding to wait until marriage to move in together is a choice that many couples make. And though any couple's move-in is a serious step, there’s something particularly significant about newlyweds starting a life together. It’s exhilarating, but certainly a little scary, so I’ve come up with some tips for moving in with your new spouse.

Talk money beforehand. Discussing and deciding who’s paying for what prior to signing a lease or shelling out a down payment will save you many potential headaches down the road.
Be prepared for an adjustment. Once you’re living together there are certain parts of your relationship that will naturally change. Whether those changes are good or bad will be determined based on your attitude toward them, so stay positive.
Figure out both of your expectations regarding cleanliness. And if they’re different, come up with a compromise you both can live with.

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It’s likely that you and your new husband don’t share the same style when it comes to household décor. Instead of battling it out over every piece of furniture, just come up with an entirely new style that can work for both of you.
As far as making your home habitable - signing up for utilities, fixing up the odds and ends, decorating, etc. - don’t make the common assumption that everything has to be done together. Let each of you take on a responsibility that you’re good at or have an interest in.
It’s OK to keep your own space. Everyone needs personal space, so don’t feel guilty or hurt if you and your husband want to have your own nook, drawer, room, cabinet, or area.
As with every aspect of a relationship, communication is extremely important. Talk about your needs, boundaries, and concerns before they become full-fledged issues.
Take a moment or two each day to show your appreciation to the other. Whether it’s an affectionate hug and kiss, or simple a “thank you,” it’s important to recognize everything the other person does - it will make for a more harmonious relationship in the long term.

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Where Do You Stand? Changing Your Name When You Get Married

DearSugar — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 07:00:00 -0700

I have a close friend who's getting married and she has an amazing last name. It's so awesome, in fact, that everyone refers to her by it. Her dilemma then is, should she change her last name and take on her husband's after saying I do? It's a tough decision for any woman: giving up your identity to take on your man's is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Some women may find comfort in the idea of becoming a family and both having the same last name whereas others prefer to hold on to her own family roots; and then there are those who stay safe somewhere in the middle. It's totally a personal preference, so where do you stand on this issue? After getting married, will you take on your partner's last name?

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Do Tell: How Do You Dodge Those Invasive Questions?

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:00:00 -0700

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage . . . or does it? While there's a natural progression in all relationships, it seems that people can't help but to meddle in your personal life. The questions start when you first meet that special someone: When are you moving in? And then once you move in together, it's when are you getting engaged? And once you're married, you then get asked about having kids. Of course those are questions that already have a place in the back of your mind, but warding them off when you're either not ready or too fed up with answering them can be hard to avoid. So for all you married women out there, do tell, how do you dodge those invasive questions about starting a family?

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The How-To Lounge: Combating Postwedding Blues

DearSugar — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 08:00:00 -0700

With all the excitement and energy leading up to a wedding, it's likely that the day after may seem a bit lacking. Add in the emotions, relief, and exhaustion from your big day, and it's a recipe for postwedding blues. But just because the wedding is over doesn't mean you don't have plenty to look forward to in your newlywed status. Check out my advice for combating postwedding blues, and read more.

Giving yourself something to look forward to after the wedding can make a big difference when easing yourself into the newlywed lifestyle. Consider planning your honeymoon for a week or two after the wedding, or even longer if you prefer; there's no right or wrong time to take a honeymoon.
If your honeymoon is already days away, but you're still worried the lag time will leave you disappointed and listless, try coming up with a few simple postwedding events to enjoy with your friends and family. Being around your loved ones who shared in the wedding excitement will keep your spirits soaring.
It's natural to feel sad, but remember it's not going to last forever. Once you and your husband settle into a routine as newlyweds, things will start to feel much more comfortable.
On that note, as you settle into your new routine, don't forget to incorporate the elements from your prewedding planning life, too. Put more time into your friends and pick up where you left off with your hobbies - both are easily bumped aside during planning mania.
Give yourself some alone time. It may be scary at first, but it's important to reacquaint yourself with who you are when not negotiating a looming wedding. Take long walks, read a new book, or go get a massage.

Just as quickly as postwedding blues come on, they disappear so keep your chin up, and if you need to, there's nothing wrong with going through your photo album to relive the memories from your big day.

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The How-To Lounge: Writing Wedding Thank-You Notes

DearSugar — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Once the wedding is over and you're home from your honeymoon, it's time to get back to normal life and take care of long list of to dos. Hopefully you took note of who gave you what gift because now's the time to write your thank-you notes.

Time is of the essence so to see my dos and don'ts on how to make this process fast and painless, read more.

If you didn't order thank-you cards to match your other wedding papery, stick to something that has a similar look. These cards should be on the more formal side.
It's best to get your thank-you cards in the mail ASAP, preferably two to three weeks after receiving your gift, and six to eight weeks at the very most.
Be sure to hand write your thank-you notes - email does not suffice!
Make your thank-you notes personal. Mention the gift you received and be sure to note any special efforts made by that guest, if they traveled a long distance, made a speech, etc.
Even if someone didn't attend your wedding but sent a gift, be sure to send them a thank-you note. And remember, wedding thank-you notes should be separate from shower or engagement thank-you notes.
Although some think it's the wife's job to write all the thank-you notes, the husband should do his part as well. Always say "we" instead of "I" and be sure to have both signatures on every note.
Getting all your thank-you notes written can seem incredibly daunting, but if you set aside a few hours a night, throw on some music and open a bottle of wine - it shouldn't be too painful. Do whatever you can to try to make it as fun as possible!

Where Do You Stand: Raising Children in a Two-Religion Household

DearSugar — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 13:00:00 -0700

In today's world, it's not uncommon to marry outside of your race, culture, or religion. That's all fine and well when you don't have kids. But when children are brought into the mix, deciding how to raise them, religiously speaking, could be problematic. What if both parents have strong beliefs in their faith? Some families have no problem teaching kids both (Chanukah Bush anyone?) but is that confusing for the kids? Should one parent convert to the other's religion? Of course, this matter should be worked out before getting married and starting a family, but tell me, where do you stand on raising kids in a duel-religion household?

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You Asked: Can I Call Dibs on a Wedding Dress Even Though I'm Not Engaged?

DearSugar — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

Like a lot of girls out there, I have already figured out what kind of wedding I want even though there's no groom just yet! Well, my close friend is getting married and while surfing some of the more popular wedding planning websites, I showed her my "dream" dress. She fell in love with it too and now says that it's her "dream" dress as well.

I know I don't own the dress or the design, and that anyone can buy it, but I can't help but feel shocked, crushed, and even betrayed by her. Granted I am not getting married anytime soon, but when it comes to wedding dresses, I often hear women say, "You'll know it's the one when you see it" and I KNOW! What should I do? Should I say something or am I crazy for thinking this way? - Jumping the Gun Gwen

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Dear Jumping the Gun Gwen,

I don't think you're crazy for feeling like you've found your dress - I've said that too a few times with no engagement ring in sight - but one thing to remember is your gown will most likely change depending on the groom and the location of your wedding. Also, keep in mind that trends change as the years go on so if you're not planning on getting married any time in the near future, what you think is your dream dress now might actually be something completely different in a few years.

With that said, I understand how frustrating it must be for your friend to hijack your dream gown. Just because she's getting married first doesn't give her the right to take away something you've always wanted, but you're right - you don't own the dress just yet. While you have every right to be irritated, make sure this is a fight worth fighting before bringing it up. You can also look at this situation another way; if this dress does remain your dream dress, when it's your turn to walk down the aisle, use hers - it sure will save you a lot of money!

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Did You Fight With Your Husband on Your Honeymoon?

DearSugar — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:00:00 -0700

After the big day is over, I can only imagine how exhausted the bride and groom must be, and I know when I'm tired, I get cranky and easily irritated. Sure, honeymoons are all about celebrating each other and relaxing after the mayhem of planning a wedding, but being a newlywed doesn't automatically make you immune to arguments. A week in a remote destination can be a lot to handle so ladies, knowing you're only human, tell me, did you and your hubby argue on your honeymoon?

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Dear Poll: What's More Important? The Wedding or the Honeymoon?

DearSugar — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:00:00 -0700

My friend is getting married later this month in a fairly modest wedding - just over 30 people at her grandparents' home. She and her fiancé decided to take all the money they would be spending on a bigger wedding and plan an ultrafabulous honeymoon.

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard a couple put their honeymoon plans before wedding celebrations, and while I can’t say whether or not it’s what I’d want for myself, I definitely see the appeal. What do you think? Is the wedding or the honeymoon more important to you?

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