Talking a lot vs talking sparingly

Jul 28, 2009 - I have been with my BF for 2 1/2 years, and we live together. We do our fair share of talking about work/school and other things, but are having issues talking about anything else. It's not that we don't want to necessarily, it's just that sometime's I'd rather watch TV, or he wants to play a game. - 4 Comments

Minor relationship woes

Nov 23, 2009 - Okay, so I've seen seeing this guy for about 4 months.  I had gotten out of an LTR a few months before I met this guy so I wanted to take things slowly.  As a result we only saw each other once a week for the first 3 months and lately we've been ramping it up to about twice a week.  At the beginning, things were a bit crazy.  Since I was dealing with my breakup, I didn't handle some situations very well, and there were a few times I thought that I would never hear from him again, because he was rightly upset at me for things I said or did.  After the last fight (about 2 months ago) I realized that I really like this guy and if I want to keep things going with him, I have to shape up.  So I did.  Fast forward until now.  Things have been consistently good for a couple months.  But, as this weird after effect from early on, every time we have any kind of misunderstanding - literally a misunderstanding - I feel like "Oh no, it's over!" and I have anxiety that he's going to leave.  These misunderstandings aren't fights - we don't fight.  They're more like me saying something and he takes it to mean one thing over another.  Then I try to explain what I did mean, etc. The thing is, logically, I know I shouldn't feel this way.  When he first told me he loved me (a little over a week ago), he said he'd been feeling it a while but that he didn't want to scare me away.  He asked me to spend Thanksgiving with him.  He asked me to go on a trip with him this winter.  He calls me up all the time, and sometimes we still talk on the phone for hours.  I mean, all signs point to him being really into me.  I'm only the 3rd person he's ever said "I love you" to (other than family), and we're both in our early 30s.  So why the anxiety?  What does it mean?  And how can I stop it?  I feel like it negatively affects our relationship.  I feel like now that he loves me I'm just waiting for him to stop loving me.  It's really quite sad.  Not sure what to do.  Any suggestions are appreciated. - 0 Comments

Update on "Taking it Slow" r/o

Nov 23, 2009 - Well, I have (had)  been dating Mr. Take it Slow for about a month.  He wanted to take it slow b/c he just got out of a LTR a few months ago.  The last time we went out, things got physical (not all the way, though).  I did hear from him the next day, but nothing but FB posts for 2 weeks after that.  Finally last night he emailed me:  "I just wanted to write you a message to let you know what's going on. I've been kinda quiet because I just don't know what's going on with me. I don't want to lead you on, but I don't want to write you off either.The problem is, I think I'm just not over my ex-gf. - 2 Comments

What Made Joe Bitter

Nov 23, 2009 - Once upon a time, Joe Lieberman was interesting—not always correct, in my view, but interesting. He was interesting because he thought for himself. On most issues, most senators line up pretty automatically with their party. - 1 Comment

I'm at the crossroads of my life

Nov 23, 2009 - I plan to tell my husband of 4 years tonight that its over. I know in my head its the logical thing to do.  We are both in our 40's and we never intended to have any children. - 2 Comments

Am I overanalyzing? Reposted.

Nov 22, 2009 - Here's the deal. I met this guy... well kinda anyway, I met him online, and we've been talking almost every day. - 0 Comments