Tell me...where would you go?

Nov 07, 2009 - Tell me…..If you could go backwards, where would you go? I think I would go as far back as my graduation day. I would travel the way all young people should. - 19 Comments

Tell me….Is God Merciful?

Nov 07, 2009 - Tell me….God is merciful, but is he to the ignorant who cannot help how they think, feel, and react to him, because of how they were raised? It should not be a child’s fault if they do not believe in almost anything. They have never been given the right choices as a child, so now as an adult, they are lost, and looking. - 15 Comments

You ask why I follow this Jesus?

Nov 12, 2009 - You ask why I follow this Jesus? Why I love Him the way I do? When the world’s turned away from His teachings And the people who serve Him are few. - 9 Comments

My Gay Siamese Twin

Nov 11, 2009 - Excuse me ladies, I just felt like a little humor tonight :ROTFL: * * * - 7 Comments

He thinks it's OK for me not to have orgasm everythime

Nov 22, 2009 - I know this site is more about relationships and not sex, but i'm a huge fan of Susan Crain Bakos (Sex Bible for Women, The Orgasm Bible and other amazing books). And all that sex education made me find sex goddes inside of me, i practice sex with a partner or alone quite often and strive to reach the big O everytime. I don't get there with my boyfriend everytime and he just stops trying after awhile and just tells me 'it can't happen for a woman everytime'. - 9 Comments

Welcome to Café Kama Sutra!

Oct 28, 2009 - This is a private group. This group is NOT for Sugar members under 18 years of age, and it is NOT for grown women that act 12 years old. Café Kama Sutra is for mature adult women that need advice, want to give advice, or just want a few professional facts, that I will post, that will help them in their relationship/marriage. - 25 Comments

Minor relationship woes

Nov 23, 2009 - Okay, so I've seen seeing this guy for about 4 months.  I had gotten out of an LTR a few months before I met this guy so I wanted to take things slowly.  As a result we only saw each other once a week for the first 3 months and lately we've been ramping it up to about twice a week.  At the beginning, things were a bit crazy.  Since I was dealing with my breakup, I didn't handle some situations very well, and there were a few times I thought that I would never hear from him again, because he was rightly upset at me for things I said or did.  After the last fight (about 2 months ago) I realized that I really like this guy and if I want to keep things going with him, I have to shape up.  So I did.  Fast forward until now.  Things have been consistently good for a couple months.  But, as this weird after effect from early on, every time we have any kind of misunderstanding - literally a misunderstanding - I feel like "Oh no, it's over!" and I have anxiety that he's going to leave.  These misunderstandings aren't fights - we don't fight.  They're more like me saying something and he takes it to mean one thing over another.  Then I try to explain what I did mean, etc. The thing is, logically, I know I shouldn't feel this way.  When he first told me he loved me (a little over a week ago), he said he'd been feeling it a while but that he didn't want to scare me away.  He asked me to spend Thanksgiving with him.  He asked me to go on a trip with him this winter.  He calls me up all the time, and sometimes we still talk on the phone for hours.  I mean, all signs point to him being really into me.  I'm only the 3rd person he's ever said "I love you" to (other than family), and we're both in our early 30s.  So why the anxiety?  What does it mean?  And how can I stop it?  I feel like it negatively affects our relationship.  I feel like now that he loves me I'm just waiting for him to stop loving me.  It's really quite sad.  Not sure what to do.  Any suggestions are appreciated. - 1 Comment