Increased Libido

Nov 07, 2009 - My husband is deployed (military) for a year and I am having trouble releasing my sexual frustrations.  There are times when it just becomes so overwhelming and strong that I break down emotionally...to tears.  I would NEVER cheat so there is no danger of that but it is effecting my mood and I'm not sure how to deal with it.  I am sur there is not much I can do but can't hurt to ask.  Another issue that I am concerned about is low sex drive....I am afraid that with such a long seperation I wil lose my sex drive.  I think I am going to have to shut myself down sexually (especially because of the first problem stated above) and I am afraid that I won't be able to turn it back on.  I have been with my husband for 18 year (since age 12) and there were a couple of years where my sex drive was non-existent but I worked through it over the course of a year and our sex life was fantastic before he left.  I can't afford to take a year to work through things again so I want to make sure it doesn't happen.  Any adivce?  - 5 Comments

How can I bring this up with my family?

Nov 07, 2009 - I think I'm distantly related (though cheating) to the English teacher I had freshman year of high school.  However, I don't think my parents want me to know this (for some reason... I mean, it can't really be conflict of interest in school anymore since I'm a junior in college now). - 5 Comments

Feeling sexually deprived and not sure how to bring it up with my boyfriend

Nov 05, 2009 - Or if I should bring it up at all. A few months ago my boyfriend's mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and needless to say it's taken a toll on us both emotionally. She gets plenty of support from family and friends, but for years she's been a single mom and him an only child. - 3 Comments

Is porn cheating, or just looking for netsex with real people?

Jan 11, 2008 - My current boyfriend and I have a kaleidoscope of problems, but the main one really keeping me unsettled is the nagging feeling of being deceived. I'm looking for help from you because I know love is blinding me, but need some perspective as I fear I have an unusually high paranoia due to being cheated on repeatedly in my last relationship. Back in June the two of us were staying together as a sort of cohabitation trial since I would be deciding to move to a totally different country to be with him. - 5 Comments

whats going on...

Oct 18, 2009 - my "friend' and i have agreed that well keep just seeing each other; however; hes not at the same level of emotions that i am at; we have a history of over ten years; i was always in a relationship that ended about nine months ago; in that time; we have rekindled out friendship; over the past weekend; i had an outburst of emotions; i went hardcore on him about him avoiding me;not calling; not been responsive; and so on; well; now throughout this week; i have realized that hes not looking for any changes in us because he has fears; he fears my ex; they never like each other; i always cheated on my ex with my Friend; i have 2 kids by my ex; and my friend lives out of state; so yeah their are alot of things to consider; my friend stated that although their are things about us that draws him to me; their are also things that haunt him and keep him away; so thats understandably so; i have had a "real" talk with myself and realized that i do have tons of drama to still sort out with my ex; their are things like schools; monies; and him realizing that we ARE done ; kinda of issues that need to be deal with FIRST before i rush into ANY sort of relationship; so in the end; my friend has stated that he is not encouraging me going away or not communicating with him; that he does fear that at this time hes not able to give me what i want or need; and because of that he thought i was going to walk away; its not what hes encouraging either; so i told him that although we arent on the same levels of emotions; i wasnt going anywhere either; i told him that i was just bugging out because i do enjoy my time with him; and when i dont hear from him i get a bit uneasy; well; this exchange occurred on Thursday evening; i sent him an email on friday just something funny as away to "break the ice" ; then on saturday i sent a quick hello; and this morning i sent him a goodmorning email; he hasnt responded to AnY of the emails; so am confused; he doesnt want me to go away we agreed that we werent going anywhere; he admitted that he didnt want me to stop communicating; and when i sent him emals to "break the ice" hes not responsive; whats going on? ...... did i bug out so much on last weekends emails that now he thinks am a total NUT==which if i read back on them; yeah i seemed a bit "unbalanced" but i was just upset and really not clear on where things stood with us; after days gone by; i had time to evaluate my own situation adn the drama that i need to settle; and realized that this time is for me and to allow my ex time to realize that he needs to move on as well; however; i dont mind being friends with my "friend' ; yet hes not responsive.... - 1 Comment

whats going on...

Oct 18, 2009 - my "friend' and i have agreed that well keep just seeing each other; however; hes not at the same level of emotions that i am at; we have a history of over ten years; i was always in a relationship that ended about nine months ago; in that time; we have rekindled out friendship; over the past weekend; i had an outburst of emotions; i went hardcore on him about him avoiding me;not calling; not been responsive; and so on; well; now throughout this week; i have realized that hes not looking for any changes in us because he has fears; he fears my ex; they never like each other; i always cheated on my ex with my Friend; i have 2 kids by my ex; and my friend lives out of state; so yeah their are alot of things to consider; my friend stated that although their are things about us that draws him to me; their are also things that haunt him and keep him away; so thats understandably so; i have had a "real" talk with myself and realized that i do have tons of drama to still sort out with my ex; their are things like schools; monies; and him realizing that we ARE done ; kinda of issues that need to be deal with FIRST before i rush into ANY sort of relationship; so in the end; my friend has stated that he is not encouraging me going away or not communicating with him; that he does fear that at this time hes not able to give me what i want or need; and because of that he thought i was going to walk away; its not what hes encouraging either; so i told him that although we arent on the same levels of emotions; i wasnt going anywhere either; i told him that i was just bugging out because i do enjoy my time with him; and when i dont hear from him i get a bit uneasy; well; this exchange occurred on Thursday evening; i sent him an email on friday just something funny as away to "break the ice" ; then on saturday i sent a quick hello; and this morning i sent him a goodmorning email; he hasnt responded to AnY of the emails; so am confused; he doesnt want me to go away we agreed that we werent going anywhere; he admitted that he didnt want me to stop communicating; and when i sent him emals to "break the ice" hes not responsive; whats going on? ...... did i bug out so much on last weekends emails that now he thinks am a total NUT==which if i read back on them; yeah i seemed a bit "unbalanced" but i was just upset and really not clear on where things stood with us; after days gone by; i had time to evaluate my own situation adn the drama that i need to settle; and realized that this time is for me and to allow my ex time to realize that he needs to move on as well; however; i dont mind being friends with my "friend' ; yet hes not responsive.... - 0 Comments

Realistically, is he good for me? I've never been so torn.

Oct 15, 2009 - Hi, I just joined after browsing for a bit... it looks like there are wonderful and very intelligent people here. :) First of all, I'm only 20 and I guess this is the first real love I've ever had... - 21 Comments