Communication with Husband after Layoff

Nov 09, 2009 - My husband recently got laid off from his job.  He is lucky because he was given 30 days to try and find a new position within the company before he's officially let go.  He has a prospective job in another area of the company, but I am not sure where everything stands.  He just won't communicate with me and let me know what's going on.  It's very hard for me to be in the dark about whether or not he will have a job in a couple weeks, and it feels like he has completely closed off communication regarding this job situation.  When I ask if he's heard anything, he is always very vague and claims that he doesn't have any new information, but there have been a couple times when I have seen over his shoulder that he has gotten emails from the people involved with this potential job, so there must be some sort of news.  How do I explain to him that behind left in the dark about our situation is really stressing me out? - 3 Comments

Missing sex

Nov 26, 2009 - I haven't slept with my boyfriend for 2 weeks now. We don't see each other every day, usually it's 2 days a week. Last week I was down with the flu and he just kept me company, watched movies with me and all that. - 4 Comments

My ex keeps haunting me

Nov 25, 2009 - Background information: Dated a jerk for 3 years, of course didn'tknow it, the last 3 months of the relationship was long distance which allowed me to see that I was being played for a fool, so I broke up with him because he wasn't treating me the way I should be treated.  Skip forward maybe 2 months, I find out he had actually been cheating on me for 6-9 months of the last year.  So now, its been almost a year post break up.  I have cutoffall types of communication and including moving out of the country.  But moments of the relatinoship keep popping up in dreams, any time I have down time, am alone, that I rethink how events went and I just get so mad at myself.  I can see so many moments that I should have broken up with him much earlier but didn't because I was this fool.  I guess I hate feeling like this fool that got really taken advantage of.  Even now, I"ll be dreaming/fantasizing about guys that I have met and this "fantasy" turns right back to the ex and ruins it.  How can this jerk of a boy still have this kind of effect on me.  I havne't been on any real dates, have tried to get back into the datingworld, but its like I am not getting any hits at all.  I also feel that I need (need being the operative word) to have a new boyfriend to really get my mind past the jerk because I definately deserve something awesome.  But with that, I feel like the guys I meet definately see what I have on my mind - even when I do not speak of it to anybody - and pass.  I really just want to move on, start new, and have someone wonderful in mylife because I know I deserve it but it feelslike fate has said no to me.  I am a believer in Karma, but I feel these days that karma has failed me, and my ex is still with the girl he was with before and it's like how does he deserve to be in a 'successful' relationship and I deserve to suffer.  I know no one can answer this but when will my day come? - 2 Comments

I'm at the crossroads of my life

Nov 23, 2009 - I plan to tell my husband of 4 years tonight that its over. I know in my head its the logical thing to do.  We are both in our 40's and we never intended to have any children. - 6 Comments