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Turn On or Turn Off: The Touchy Feely Flirt

DearSugar — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 13:00:00 -0700

The dating world is filled with all types of men. There's the elusive, practically perfect gentleman, the drunk and disorderly jerk, and everything in between. But there's something inherently intimate about a guy who uses the familiar powers of touch to create a connection. Obviously there's a difference between a few light brushes and inappropriate groping, but I think some touching inevitably establishes a temporary closeness. While I'm personally a fan of the more subtle approach, I can see how the familiarity of a touchy-feely flirt can be seriously appealing. What do you think? Is a man who uses the powers of touch a turn on or turn off for you?

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Relationship Protocol: Is Constant Affection a Relationship Necessity?

DearSugar — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 12:00:00 -0700

Outside of sex, physical affection is still a significant part of any relationship. It’s a way for couples to express their desire, devotion, and connection without saying a word. With the stresses and demands of daily life, what begins as a very affectionate relationship can end up being one in which a quick kiss or cuddle on the couch is all a couple has time for on a given day. Like saying “I love you,” for some couples the show of affection remains a rare, but nevertheless, special occurrence. It may not be ideal, but do you think that a relationship with limited affection can still be a healthy one? Or do you find constant affection a necessity? If so, how do you and your significant other express it outside of the bedroom?

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Handle This: Getting It on in Front of You

DearSugar — Fri, 23 May 2008 10:00:00 -0700

A friend invites you out with her boyfriend because she misses you. Even though you hate to be a third wheel, you agree to go because you’re trying to be a good friend. At first things are fine, but as the night wears on, your friend and her man keep getting more and more physical. If he's not brushing his fingers over her neck and chest, then she's running her hands through his hair.

The excessive PDA is getting old, and you go the bathroom to get it away from it for a while. You’re sure it can’t get much worse, but when you get back to the table, they’re fully groping each other and making out. You're totally grossed out, but you feel uncomfortable interrupting them, so how do you handle this?

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Dear Poll: What's More Sensual? Hands or Lips?

DearSugar — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Being touched is a great thing, but the right touch can be absolutely amazing. We know that our body is covered with nerve endings and erogenous zones, which when touched, can send electric bolts of sensation right through us. So let me ask you this, when you’re getting frisky, is it more sensual to be touched by lips or by hands?

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Dear Poll: Do You Like Your Ears Nibbled?

DearSugar — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 13:00:00 -0800

As I'm sure we all know, the female body is covered in erogenous zones like the back of your neck, inner thighs, or even your ears. It's those extra-sensitive places that when touched just the right way, can really get a girl in the mood. However, not all women enjoy attention in the same areas; in fact, one woman's hot spot may be another woman's off-limits zone. Ears seem to always fall into one of these extremes; either you love to have them sucked and nibbled or you can't stand it. So which side do you fall on?

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Quiz & Poll: What's Your Sex Style?

DearSugar — Tue, 13 Mar 2007 15:31:00 -0700

We each have a dominant sense through which we most strongly experience our world: sight (visual), sound (auditory) or touch (kinesthetic). Identify your dominant sense, and you've got a foolproof short-cut to pleasure. Identify his and things really get interesting.

To find out which sense gets you in the mood and keeps you there, click here for the quiz. If your partner's game, ask him to take it, too!

After your score is tallied, a profile appears with nice details about your sex style. Below your style profile, you'll also find one for the fellas.

Come back here and take the poll, though, so we can find out your style!

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Pillow Talk: Touching Time

DearSugar — Wed, 14 Mar 2007 13:45:00 -0700

Talking sense again today, ladies, and focusing on touch. Unlike our other senses, we experience a sense of touch from head to toe, because nerve endings fill the bottom layer of our skin, called the dermis. Sensations serve to both protect us and give us pleasure. Everyone -- single, married, old or young -- needs physical contact to lead a healthy, happy life.

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A touch doesn't have to be sexual to create a sense of connectedness and closeness. Holding hands, giving a little pat, or stroking someone's hair: these things can reflect a sense of safety and familiarity. When babies aren't touched or held enough, they face all manner of health and developmental challenges. For all of us, touching helps boost the immune system and improves one's general mood.

Loving words feel powerful, but non-verbal communication can be more effective in certain situations. Besides, we all know that actions speak louder than words, and the practice of conscious touching -- being vulnerable that way -- can deepen intimacy and strengthen trust in a relationship.

Practice touching yourself and discovering where you're more and less sensitive. Explore your partner, asking questions to learn more about what touch feels like for him, and how it differs from place to place. After all, his nerve endings are different from your nerve endings. A little tip: our most sensitive spots -- loaded with nerve endings -- include the hands, lips, face, neck, tongue, fingertips and feet.

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A Do or a Don't: Staying in Touch With a Friend's Ex

DearSugar — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

While I’m always open and friendly, I try not to buddy up to my friends’ significant others - I don’t want to overstep any boundaries or get too involved in someone else’s relationship. But over time, especially if it’s a long-term and serious relationship, it’s inevitable for a kinship to blossom between yourself and a friend’s significant other - you spend time together, swap stories, and end up at the same events.

But when a friend tells you that the relationship is over, suddenly a person you came to know, surprisingly well, is just gone. Admittedly, I’ve felt losses after my friend’s breakups, but from personal experience I’ve learned it’s best to avoid staying friends with a friend’s ex - it can lead to drama and the sensation of being stuck in the middle. It’s too complicated for me, but what have your own relationships taught you? Is keeping in touch with their ex worth it even if it could affect your friendship?

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Trojan Vibrating Touch Massager

DearSugar — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 16:00:00 -0700

If your clitoris is mad, if it's tired of being ignored and treated poorly or if it's not getting enough of the right kind of attention, help is here.

Trojan has answered many women's prayers with the Trojan Vibrating Touch Massager. It's a small yet powerful massager that provides thrilling sensations and vibrations right at your fingertips.

It comes with a storage pouch, a Trojan Her Pleasure condom, and two batteries since the Trojan Vibrating Touch can be reused. Get this ladies - it lasts up to 30 minutes! Now that's $19.95 well spent!

Have You Ever Dated a Mama's Boy?

TresSugar — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:00:00 -0800

In a way, that's a trick question.

Although "mama's boy" has negative connotations (he was smothered or spoiled by mom), a man who was raised with love and affection by a mother with boundaries often grows up to be what the author of Raising Boys Without Men calls a "head and heart" person.

This positive version of a mama's boy, says Peggy Drexler, is in touch with his and others' emotions and knows how to communicate. (This is assuming the mother herself is connected to her emotions and is a good communicator - a big assumption.)

Have you ever dated a man who was close to his mother? Was he spoiled, expecting you to do everything dear ol' mom did? Was he smothered, one wig and a rocking chair away from being Norman Bates? Or did it help him to respect women and teach him to be connected to his feelings?