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Do Tell: What Do Your Girlfriends Talk the Most About?

DearSugar — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700

When girls get together, it's a time for them to talk about everything from their careers to their love lives, and all the fun stuff in between. And even if you have a few different groups of friends, there are usually reoccurring topics that get touched upon each and every time. When I'm with my friends, we catch up first but the conversation always finds its way back to men, dating, and relationships. Does this sound familiar? Do tell, what's the most common topic of conversation between you and your girlfriends?

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Group Therapy: My boyfriend talks too much!

Thu, 19 Jul 2007 03:00:00 -0700

so i know this isn't such a big deal, but my boyfriend really likes to talk during movies or when we're watching tv.

it's kind of annoying when i'm trying to concentrate on the screen but it also feels a bit rude telling him to shut up and let me watch my show! i try and pat him on the hand and point to the screen but it doesn't always work. also, he tends to repeat what the characters just said or explain what just happened which is also another annoyance.

is there anyway to tell him in a nicer or joking way to please just shut the heck up? he's so great in every other way and i don't want to be unnecessarily mean over something like this!

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This or That: Baby Talk or Dirty Talk?

DearSugar — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 16:00:00 -0700

While visiting a friend a state away, you end up meeting a really great man. You guys keep getting to know each other even once you’re back home, and things start to turn more serious than just a flirty friendship. He’s moving within an hour of you in three months so you decide to just let things happen naturally, but you're growing more and more attached. The problem is you start noticing a pattern that you just can’t get away from. Would it be worse if . . .

This: Every time you get on the phone with him, you’re confronted with an onslaught of the most over-the-top, sickly sweet baby talk you’ve ever heard? The only time you can get him to stop is you start getting into a little sexy chatter.

Or…

That: Every time you guys get past the pleasantries, he falls into a dirty talk tirade that just seems to gain momentum as you guys go along? It wouldn’t be so bad if he kept it to the phone-sex encounters, but instead it’s just constant.

Well, which conversation style is worse?

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Pillow Talk: Is Talking Overrated?

DearSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 12:30:00 -0800

While communication and connectedness are bedrocks of a vital marriage, a new book suggests that over-talking could actually be detrimental to the success of your marriage. That probably grabbed your attention a little, but isn't it also something you've noticed in your own experience? The gulf we try to bridge with talking can so often grow larger as we try harder and harder to be understood or to understand.

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Dr. Patricia Love’s and Dr. Steven Stosny's new book about marriage and relationships, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, suggests that biological and cultural differences between men and women must be understood and accepted in order to find meaningful ways to remain close and connected in marriage. They assert that love is not about better communication, but about better connection, and their book illuminates how men and women feel connected in significantly different ways, and how they feel distressed in very different ways, as well.

Following this link will take you to Meredith Vieira's interview with the authors on the Today Show and to a provocative excerpt from the book, in which the authors lay out some of our differences around fear, shame, pain, and inadequacy, and how we misinterpret each other's experiences and needs.

Of the several points the authors make about marital happiness, here are four:

You'll never get a closer relationship
with your man by talking to him like you
talk to one of your girlfriends.

Male emotions are like women's sexuality:
you can't be too direct too quickly.

There are four ways to connect with a man: touch, activity, sex, routines.

Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they have to act like a woman.

The promise of the book?

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

It's always wise to consider new approaches to making relationships work, especially when what we're doing isn't working. This might be just the book you're partner would be willing to read as well, though it might be wise to let him know you won't be expecting him to talk with you about it.

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The Best of Talking Cats on GiggleSugar!

GiggleSugar — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700

Step right up for your talking cats. In addition to being adorable, ornery, and weird, cats seem to have a lot to say. Something tells me it all translates into: "Give me some Pounce and bring me my cat toy," but I'm no cat linguist. So without further ado, to see the best videos of talking cats ever to be posted on GiggleSugar,
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Burnsy kitten would rather sleep than talk. But if you insist . . .
Alaska the talking Siamese doesn't want any more of your lip. But she's gonna keep yammering on.
Some cats would prefer to talk amongst themselves. But you're free to film it.
Talking cat is communicating with alien life forms and plotting our doom. I should be scared, but I still find it cute.
Chatty McCatterson wishes the top of the mornin' to ya!
It's cat Esperanto!
Burnsy's all grown up! But still talking up a storm.

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Do Tell: Are You Into Dirty Talk?

DearSugar — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I know that most of you aren't fans of baby talk, but what about dirty talk? For some, it's easy to let your mouth run wild, whether it's talking out your fantasies or descriptively describing the act at hand, but knowing how to talk dirty in a way that makes it seductive is key in order for it to work! Of course we all like to hear that we're desirable, but do tell, are you generally into dirty talk? Does it turn you on or does it have the opposite effect? And if you're into it, are you the dirty talker or do you like to hear it from your partner?

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Happy Caturday!

TresSugar — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 04:00:00 -0700

I'm telling you now - this video is epic. What do you get when you feature cat-lebrities like Burnsy the talking kitty and Maru the box-loving kitty with Auto-Tune? You get this weird and amazing video that will blow your mind. It's almost as good as Jingle Cats!

Flashback! A Phone For Creepy People

TresSugar — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 11:30:28 -0800

For $69 those looking to spice up their phone calls could have owned this "conversation piece" belonging to the same genre as that leg lamp in A Christmas Story.

The ad reminds us that the phone was sculptured by a European artist, which makes it totally classy and not at all tacky. However judging by the photo, it's not so easy to talk on a naked-lady phone. Oh well.

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Ask a Wife: How Do I Stop Being the Other Woman?

TresSugar — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 08:00:58 -0800

Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. This week, a woman in a happy marriage tries to help out a woman stuck in an affair. If you have a question you'd like answered on Conventional Wisdom, you can submit it here.

Today's Question:

I am involved with a married man and I don't know how to stop. He's been married for a couple of years, and his wife often goes out of town. I feel like I'm in a relationship with him: he calls or texts before he goes to sleep, cooks me dinner when he can, and we talk about almost anything with each other. I don't expect him to leave his wife for me, and it doesn't seem like he's going to. He just says he wishes we would have met before he got married. I know deep down that this is so wrong, but I feel like I can't do anything about it. I feel too happy when I'm around him. Help!

Signed,
The Other Woman

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Dear The Other Woman,

I have some bad news and some good news. First, the bad news: you are not happy. You are in a relationship that is damaging to both you and this man's wife. The only person remotely benefiting from the situation is this unfaithful person you are involved with.

Now the good news: real happiness does exist. You can find someone - who's not married - to talk, laugh, cry, and have sex with. And it will be so much better. But first you need to do some work on yourself. Look at your life and decide what type of person you want to be. Do you want the adjectives selfish, dishonest, and disrespectful to describe who you are? Or would you rather have the words loving, faithful, and complete describe your behavior and your relationship? Next you need to boost your confidence. Think about what has made you do something that is undoubtedly so hurtful to yourself and this other woman. Is it because you are afraid of being alone? Is it because you think this is the best thing you can get? If so, let me tell you that a little patience can go a long way. Focus on the things you really enjoy in life (do you like running? painting? traveling?), the things that make you excited, and you will only become more desirable.

The search for love is a hard and frustrating one, but you are just going down a dark and depressing path with nothing but hurt waiting at the end of it. End things with this unavailable man, figure out why you love yourself, and then you will find someone who loves you for all those qualities too.

Signed,
A Wife

Do You Talk Differently With Your Significant Other?

DearSugar — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 10:30:00 -0700

Did any of you see Saturday Night Live this weekend? If not, you missed a hilarious skit all about "girlfriend voice." Three guys gave each other a hard time about the way their tone changed when talking to their significant other, yet it didn't seem to prevent them from doing it every time their phone rang. I know that most of you think baby talk is worse than hearing a couple fight, but tell me, do you do it anyway? Do you talk to your boyfriend in a different way than you talk to everyone else?

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