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Is the Recession Ruining Your Sex Life?

DearSugar — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

We're all feeling the effects of the bad economy right now - having to cut back on vacations, expensive clothes, and dinners out - but some experts are saying that the recession is affecting people's love lives too. Couples are stressed about money so they're arguing more, going out less, and just not in the mood to have sex. Even though sex can take your mind off your problems, too much stress can be a major turnoff. According to a survey from the Daily Beast, 21 percent of people admitted to having less sex than usual. Some would call that a sexual recession, but what about you? Has the recent economic downtown put a damper on your sex life?

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4 Ways to Winterproof Your Sex Life

DearSugar — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 10:00:00 -0800

When it's cold outside, it's hard to get out of bed in the morning, but it's equally as hard to get into a cold bed, if you ask me! If you're having a hard time making sex a priority when the temp drops, here are four tips to help winterproof your sex life this season - enjoy! Source

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Do Tell: What One Thing Would You Change About Your Sex Life?

DearSugar — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 07:30:00 -0800

Last weekend I asked you all to share the one thing you'd change about your relationship, and though your responses were all over the board, a few of you alluded to making changes in your sex life. Having a healthy sex life takes a lot of communication in the bedroom, so do tell, if you could change one thing about what happens behind closed doors, what would it be? And don't be shy, I'm sure your gripes aren't far off from everyone else's!

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Where Do You Stand: Lying to Your Friends About Your Sex Life

DearSugar — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700

I'm all for a little embellishing when it comes to chatting about what happens in the bedroom, but how do you feel about outright lying? Are there times when it's appropriate to fib about what guy you've done it with, how often you and your man have sex, or how good it is? Have you ever felt the need to lie to your friends in order to impress them? Of course lying about such a private matter won't really hurt anyone, but tell me, where do you stand when it comes to lying to your friends about your sex life?

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Do Tell: Is Your Sex Life All Fireworks or Less Than Explosive?

DearSugar — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 09:00:00 -0700

We all dream of meeting someone wonderful to love. Someone with a zippy sense of humor, someone who's caring enough to bring us soup when we're sick, and someone smart enough to share an interesting conversation with. It helps if you find him attractive, and it really helps if your time in the bedroom is all about thrilling passion and fireworks. So I'm wondering how you would rate your sex life right now. Do tell, are things better than ever under the sheets, or are you pretty unsatisfied with the lack of excitement and pleasure?

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You Asked: Is He Overstepping His Boundaries?

DearSugar — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,
My husband is 32 years old and thinks it's normal to talk about his sex life with his mother. When we were dating, his mom once told me that I should learn how to give a good blow job in order to attract him more. Then one Valentine's Day, she was the one that told me the kind of lingerie he likes! I was extremely grossed out but at that time, since I was so crazy about him, I did not give importance to the weirdness. He tells me that a lot of men talk about their sex life to their moms, even at his age. This makes me very uncomfortable to say the least, and I can't help but constantly feel embarrassed around her. Am I correct in thinking that he's overstepping by talking to his mom about our intimate sex life or is this kind of relationship in fact as normal as he claims? - Grossed Out Gretta

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Dear Grossed Out Gretta,

I've never heard of a grown man talking about such intimacy with his mom, but to each his own. The problem I see with your situation is that it's making you uncomfortable. Since this is both of your sex lives he's talking about, I think it's only fair that he makes sure you're comfortable with him divulging such private information before doing so. Some people don't appreciate their significant others talking about their sex lives with their buddies, so I can only imagine how awkward it is to have his mother be in the know with this information.

Since he doesn't see anything wrong with it, you're going to have to approach the topic from a different angle. Let him know how it makes you feel that his mother knows about what goes on behind closed doors and that you'd appreciate it if he would keep those intimate details to himself. Hopefully he'll be a little more understanding of your feelings once he hears the uncomfortableness in your voice verses hearing a frustrated or annoyed tone. I'm all for being uninhibited when it comes to talking about sex, but it's incredibly important that both parties are permitting of such open disclosure. I hope that after a good heart to heart, he'll be able to respect your desire to be more private.

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Dear Poll: Do You Have Bedroom Habits Too Embarrassing to Say?

DearSugar — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Most of you agree that dishing about sex with your friends isn’t something you do all that often - it’s not so much about sex itself, but more about keeping things between you and your significant other private. However, the entire conversation got me thinking a lot about bedroom life behind closed doors. Without necessarily disclosing any information, what I want to know is, do you have any sexy bedroom antics that would completely embarrass you if they were ever exposed?

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Has Technology Ruined Your Sex Life?

DearSugar — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:00:00 -0700

I'm a huge fan of all the technological advances that have been springing up in the last 10 years. Huge plasma TVs, laptops, wireless Internet, and iPhones are so much a part of our lives now, it's hard to shut them off. It's almost second nature to curl up in bed and watch funny videos on your laptop or check work email before bed, but I can tell you right now, technology isn't very romantic. In fact, technology has been known to strain relationships, so ladies, I have to ask - has technology affected your sex life?

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Dear Poll: Do You Have Sex in the Middle of the Night?

DearSugar — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 13:00:00 -0800

I'm sure you all have times of the day when you prefer to make love. Some people love morning sex and enjoy being naked with someone after they've woken up and everything is still a little dreamy. Or maybe you like doing it at night before you go to bed. The darkness can feel sexy, and afterwards you can cuddle up and fall asleep.

But what do you think about sex in the middle of the night? Do you like getting busy without even thinking about it, when you're literally half asleep? What I want to know is, what do you think about making love in the middle of the night?

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Has Exercise Enhanced Your Sex Life?

DearSugar — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 11:00:00 -0800

There is so much talk about how it's important for women to keep their weight down and exercise in order to stay healthy and live a long life. My mom's generation wasn't really encouraged to have strong bodies, and now I see how osteoporosis, high blood pressure, and cholesterol can kick in which leaves me motivated to stay healthy.

Not only does exercise help us maintain a healthy weight, strengthen our hearts and lungs, and prevent chronic pain, but it also makes us feel good about ourselves. When I go to the gym and sweat for thirty minutes I am left with such a high afterwards that it keeps me wanting to come back for more.

When you feel good about yourself and confident in your own skin, it can't help but affect your relationships and your sex life. It makes me feel confident baring it all in front of someone I love.

So weather you're a bendy yoga guru or an avid runner, I want to know, has exercising enhanced your time in the bedroom? Does it make you too tired to get it on or does it give you more energy?

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