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Tantric Massage, Anyone?

DearSugar — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 10:00:00 -0700

You may have a vision of Tantric massage - gentle touching, nakedness, feathers, scented oils, silk sheets, and seductive Indian music playing in the background. You're not exactly far off, but there's much more to it than that. Tantric massage was created from the belief that if you're happy sexually, then you'll be healthy. This type of massage is meant to awaken Kundalini, a type of powerful healing energy. It has also been called erotic or sensual massage because it's been known to cause orgasms, but this isn't the goal, and it isn't supposed to involve sex at all. There's a lot of kneading and tickling of the entire body, but it's all in preparation to get the receiver ready for the attention you'll be paying to their special business. Don't think of this as weird, but more as a new kind of foreplay to try, a way to deepen the connection with your honey and to spark your sense of passion. So set aside an hour this week with a bottle of sandalwood-scented massage oil - what have you got to lose?

Dear's Advice: I recommend getting a book such as Tantric Massage: The Erotic Touch of Love ($12). It will help you better understand the massage techniques and concepts. I feel like there's really no wrong way to do it, and if you're wearing next to nothing with your loved one, then nothing but good can come out of it anyway!

Tip No. 5: Surviving Valentine's Day When You're Coupled Up

DearSugar — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 07:30:00 -0800

I was surprised to see that over 60 percent of you think classic Valentine's Day gifts are cute over cheesy, but if you're looking for something new and exciting to give your special someone on Feb. 14, check out what Patty suggests by clicking here to read more.

Looking for a gift that's a little sexier than chocolates and teddy bears? How about shaking things up by giving your sweetie a book that will promote added intimacy. Books like The Erotic Massage Book offer a wide range of sensual massages; make it extra interesting by folding down the corners of the pages you would like to try that evening!

To see all of Patty's tips, click here.

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Pillow Talk: Sweet Feet

DearSugar — Mon, 19 Feb 2007 14:00:00 -0800

Our physical and emotional health depend a great deal on the experience and quality of touching in our lives. Intimacy can be conveyed verbally, sexually or through many kinds of physical touching, like hugging, kissing, or holding hands. Long, lingering touch, the kind you experience during massage, takes time and attention, but it can create real feelings of connectedness and closeness.

It can be gratifying to give. A slow and thoughtful foot massage communicates a willingness to help calm, soothe and please a partner. Because it takes time and attention, it also communicates that your partner is a priority and a pleasure. It's also a way of being close that communicates an understanding that your partner works hard, has his own burdens, and deserves to be nurtured. Besides, our sensual lives too often take a backseat to our work lives, domestic lives, and our sexual lives.

Because feet are often neglected, paying special attention to them creates a sensual experience for both the mind and the body. We forget that the foot has many thousands of nerve endings and contains 28 small bones and long tendons running down from the leg muscles to the toes. If you're interested in a few quick tips for a relaxing and effective foot massage, read more.

Begin by dimming the lights and playing some calming music. Use lotion or a nice oil (rose, peppermint or lavender are nice choices). Warm the oil in your hands, then start by slowly needing his feet all over. Remember to rub his calves and ankles, too. The ankles bear the pressure of the whole body weight and helping to ease tension here tremendously relaxing for the spine, hips and shoulders.

Place the first two fingers of each hand on the inner and outer ankle bones of one of his feet. Using medium pressure, rub circles around those areas simultaneously. Pressure points on the outer ankles are connected by nerves to his testicles and the inner ankles to his prostate, so this might be erotic for him. For something more arousing, gently press your fingertips firmly into the fleshier parts around his ankle bones.

Rub the oil into the soles of each foot, using your thumbs to massage the arches and balls of the feet. Alternate with soft strokes, which reduce anxiety and promote good sleep. Don't forget the toes; spend time rubbing and rolling each one, from the largest to the smallest. Then knead his heel with your thumbs for a few minutes. Finish with giving the big toes a good squeeze; applying pressure there will create an even more relaxed state of mind. Then switch feet.

Any other tips you'd like to share with us about good massages, please feel free!