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Awkward! My Roommate Kicked Me Out

TresSugar — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:00:00 -0700

A friend of mine is looking for a new place after her roommate, who also happens to be her co-worker, asked her to move out. Here are the extremely awkward details:

I moved in with my co-worker, who is also a friend, about three months ago. Things had been going relatively well until this one week when she started acting cold toward me. I figured she was having a bad week, so I just gave her some space around the house and at work. Then out of the blue, she told me she wants me to move out. Technically she can tell me to leave because I'm not on a lease. Her parents own the place. She told me that she thought it was too hard to spend that much time with me, since we worked for the same company and lived together.

I'm so frustrated. I just got situated in my place. It's going to be expensive and inconvenient to move again, but I can't exactly make her let me stay. I would just suck it up and move on with my life, but even after I do that I need to face her at work!

Do you have any advice to offer my friend? (And if you have some awkward tales of your own, join our Awkward! group to share etiquette questions and stories with other readers.)

Awkward! Roommates Hooking Up

TresSugar — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 09:00:00 -0700

Here's a story that will convince you that living on your own is worth higher rent. A friend of mine in her second year of graduate school decided to move in with two fellow students. After a month of a really fun house-dynamic, the two other roommates started sleeping together. They had been only friends before, but the close quarters apparently made them discover a mutual attraction. Now my friend feels like she's living with a couple instead of two friends and she's worried about a potentially dramatic situation if things go sour between the pair. What would you do if you suddenly wound up being the third wheel in your own place?

Is This Craigslist Ad Real?

TresSugar — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 03:00:00 -0700

Moving to San Francisco? Well, do I have the place and 'mate for you. It doesn't have any space, but rent's only $680. Now I totally believe this apartment exists . . . but this is either a joke or the most terrifyingly unself-aware person out there. I am almost tempted to go check it out.

Hello, I am seeking a nice room mate to share my 2 bedroom home.

You won't have to pay utilities or do any chores so it's perfect for a young person or a student.

But I cannot have anybody touching or moving my stuff because it would set off a chain reaction of emotions and feelings towards you and towards my things. Hoarding is not a mental illness, it is something environmentally responsible because I don't like to throw anything away. But the San Francisco Department of public health said my living conditions were unsafe and came in and forcibly removed my things I have been collecting for over 40 years. It traumatized me and I have been rebuilding my collection ever since.

Read the rest of the ad and vote on its validity after the jump

How Old Is Too Old to Have Roommates?

TresSugar — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 10:00:00 -0700

Ahh, extended adolescence. It's such a fun, sexy time in life. You make your own money and can eat cheesecake for dinner if you please, but roommates are often an inevitable arrangement in this stage. Some people do it for fun and some do it out of necessity - especially in high-rent cities like New York - and for others it's meant to be temporary but turns into years. At some point age and roommates can stop mixing. When is it for you?

Ladies Who Brunch Together, Read Alone

TresSugar — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 01:00:00 -0700

Sunday morning. It's sunny and warm, gorgeous - the perfect time to poach an egg and fail. With laptops in tow, my roommate and I sat down to eat pain perdu and read the news.

Halfway through, I saw us for what we were: two singletons staring at computer screens, occasionally coming up for air and conversation. "Is this the new Sunday morning table," I asked, picturing Mad Men's Don Draper with his newspaper fanning wide while wife Betty poached his eggs to perfection. "Probably," my roommate replied, "but I'm sure people in relationships realized it long ago."

Good point! Both chronically single, we have no idea what people in relationships do (j/k! we've had one, or two, who's counting?). I don't see how it's any different than reading the newspaper at a table, so how does it work for you? Sparkling water with a MacBook Pro? Or, printed paper and conversation, unaided by the Internet?

DearSugar Needs Your Help: My Roommate Is Crossing the Line

DearSugar — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 09:00:00 -0700

DearSugar and Sleepless Sammy need your help. Her roommate has been extremely disrespectful and it's starting to affect her ability to get a good night's sleep. She's tried to talk with her roommate about it, but she has yet to make an effort to change. She's stuck in her lease until the end of Summer, so do you have any advice as to how she can make the best of this living satiation?

Dear Sugar,

I'm in law school and living in an apartment with another girl who I found on Craigslist. It's been about seven months now and I feel like she has absolutely no respect for me. She uses my stuff, eats my food, drinks my beer, and lets her friends crash on our couch without ever asking me. I can deal with these things; however, I recently hit my breaking point.

My roommate likes to sleep around and will have loud, porn-like sex even when I’m home. It's not that I'm a prude - she's entitled to sleep with whoever she wants - but our walls are paper thin and I can hear every bed creak, scream, and moan, and sometimes I can feel her bed shake through the wall we share. Her late night activities are wreaking havoc on my sleep pattern and I'm constantly exhausted. I’ve talked to her about it once before but nothing has changed. I’m stuck in this lease until August but I can't continue living like this. What should I do? - Sleepless Sammy

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Group Therapy: I'm Having Problems With My Roommate

Tue, 21 Oct 2008 03:00:00 -0700

My roommate kicked me out on October 1st over an argument. I had already paid rent until the end of the month so I told her I would be out on the 24th. Now she is telling me I can't enter the house to get my things unless she is there, even though I still have a key and technically still live there until the end of the month. Can she legally tell me I can't enter unless she is there? My name isn't on the contract. It was just a agreement between the two of us, though all the utilities are in my name. How should I handle this?

[EDITOR'S NOTE: To be involved in more GROUP THERAPY, click here]

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Has Living With a Friend Ever Backfired?

DearSugar — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 11:00:00 -0700

It looks like their strained relationship has finally come to a head - Audrina is moving out of the house she shared with her Hill's costars LC and Lo. We've talked a lot about whether it's a good idea to live with friends and in this case, it clearly wasn't. Of course, many factors make or break any kind of living arrangement, but tell me, have you ever lived with a friend and had it go terribly wrong? Have you ever had a friendship be permanently strained because you were just lousy roommates?

Bauer-Griffin Online

Group Therapy: Adore the Boyfriend, Loathe the Friends

Fri, 15 Aug 2008 03:00:00 -0700

While it seems like an exaggeration, I have never once asked for relationship advice. So I'm coming to you now in hopes that my first time reaching out will be as helpful as I hope for! I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He lives with two other guys and they were all super close before I came into the picture. Since we started dating, we hang out almost every night and joke about how obsessed with being around each other we are.

I feel like all this time we spend together has taken away from the time he used to spend with his roommates, so there is resentment toward me. They are not the type of guys to care what girls think, and while they make it seem in good humor, they are very rude and even sometimes flat-out ignore me. We are all very sarcastic people so my boyfriend writes it off as them just joking, but I feel like it's deeper.

It's too early in the relationship to say something to my boyfriend and come off as the girlfriend attacking his friends. Also, for those of you who think I should be direct, I feel like he doesn't notice it whatsoever, so I don't know how he can see my side. I can already see him acting baffled and shocked that I think that way just because of his male nature and devotion to friends. Should I bring it up? How so? Or should I wait it out and see if they come to their senses like the adults they should be?

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This or That: A Violation of Your Privacy or of Your Relationship?

DearSugar — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 07:00:00 -0700

After losing your practically perfect roommate of a year - she moved away for grad school - you were stuck looking for someone to sublet the extra room in your apartment. Perhaps out of desperation you made a choice too quickly, and now you're stuck with your current roommate who gets on your nerves. What's worse, she has zero boundaries, which you realize when you come home early from work and catch her in the midst of some unacceptable behavior. Would it be worse if . . .

This: She's in the middle of your bedroom casually browsing through your journal and box of personal items? When you confront her she has the gall to get testy about some of the things you wrote about her.

Or . . .

That: You walk into the living room only to see your boyfriend averting his eyes on the couch while she traipses around completely topless? When you ask her to put on some clothes, she makes a big issue of how she should be allowed to be comfortable in her own home.

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