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Are You Into Quickies?

DearSugar — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 08:00:00 -0700

I love the idea of a quick romp between the sheets. An impromptu noon-er with your man sounds pretty spontaneous, exciting, sexy, and hot, doesn't it?

The only thing is that a guy can usually orgasm in three minutes or less, especially when he's super-excited, but it can take a girl much longer to climax. There is no foreplay when it comes to quickies, just pure fast, passionate lustful sex. So there may not be a huge explosive bang at the end for the girl, but who cares? They're still fun!

What do you think about quickies? Are you into them, or are you more into slow lovemaking sessions instead? Do you have any memorable quickie experiences you want to share? I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say that we'd love to live vicariously through you!

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Do Tell: Who's the Initiator in Your Relationship?

DearSugar — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 10:00:00 -0800

In sexual relationships, everyone's unique personalities come out when the lights go dim. Some are more adventurous and love to try new positions, outfits, and toys, while others may be more shy and traditional when it comes to sex. Sex drive can also vary. Some could make love six times a day and never get tired of it, while others are satisfied with a romp once a month. Then there are differences in who initiates it. Stereotypically, guys tend to be the ones to get things started, but that's not always the case so ladies, do tell, in your relationship, who's the initiator?

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This Week With DearSugar

DearSugar — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 04:00:00 -0700

If you're concerned that your friend could be in an abusive relationship, check out my tips on what to do next.
Since money is tight for everyone, be sure to check out my five tips on how to date on the cheap!
How well do you know sperm? Take this quiz and find out.
It's a simple question so tell us, does your boyfriend make you laugh?
Where do you stand on sex on your lunch break?
The temperature is dropping, so don't miss my 14 suggestions for what to do on a gray day.
Is lying for someone you love a do or a don't?
What would be worse: passing gas mid-romp or calling him the wrong name?
Are mustaches a turn-on or a turn-off?
Are you OK with your significant other having boys' night out?

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Would a Sex Marathon Interest You?

DearSugar — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700

I just came across an article on AskMen.com that had me do a double-take. The article is two pages of tips on how to endure a sex marathon! The author advises the reader not to orgasm, to pleasure his partner in order to keep the focus off himself, not to drink too much, to get creative, to keep lube handy, and to have a glass of water handy.

While I'm all for an extended romp every now and again, a sex-a-thon doesn't interest me in the slightest. Does it you? Would you be interested in taking all these precautions if it meant sex for hours on end, if not all night, with your special someone?

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This or That: Blow Out or Blow to the Head?

DearSugar — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:00:00 -0700

The sex with your new boyfriend has been amazing. You guys have the kind of chemistry you thought only existed in movies. But during a fairly animated and exciting romp, things seem to get out of hand. Would it be worse if . . .

This: In the excitement of the moment, you just couldn’t control yourself and you let an embarrassingly loud bit of gas pass? He laughs in a way that makes you feel like it’s at you not with you.

Or . . .

That: Trying to be sexy, you manage to elbow him right in the temple so hard the he passes out? Although he’s only out for a few moments, you’ll never forget the expression on his face as he comes to.

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Group Therapy: How Can I Revamp Our Sex Life?

Wed, 27 Aug 2008 03:00:00 -0700

My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months now. We're still not totally in sync in the bedroom, and although we've had some great romps, over the past few weeks things have gotten a bit monotonous. In September I'm going to be going back to school, and he will begin his full-time job as a teacher. I want to try and rekindle some of the passion before time and distance interfere. Although I'd love to buy some fancy lingerie and whisk him away to a hotel and give him (and myself) a night to remember, I'm a broke college student. He just graduated so he is still living with his mother, meaning our nights together can't be too scandalous (or at least obvious). Any simple tips, tricks, or general advice to help me revamp our sex life?

[EDITOR'S NOTE: To be involved in more GROUP THERAPY, click here]

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$1 Million on Syrian Hookah Use Amid Depression-Era Bailout?

CitizenSugar — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:30:14 -0700

Hookah pipes and the housing crisis? Oh yep, just stuff Congress is spending money on. I'm going to wager you probably don't remember the Great Depression - but Congress gave us a little romp through nostalgia this weekend by passing the biggest rescue package since FDR sat in the Oval Office. We might not be on the same page if we're saying "recession" but no matter. We're funding it like it's the big D.

The bailout gives the treasury big authority to prop up the mortgage lenders Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac by raising the ceiling on the national debt to $800 billion. The hope is by raising the country's credit limit, another wave of foreclosures can be stopped. More than 740,000 homes fell into foreclosure in the second quarter of this year.

Think that's depressing? To get a load of the other pipe Congress is smoking, read more.

In addition to housing bailouts, the US has spent $1 million researching Syrians addicted to hookahs. Yup. Hookahs (aka, hubbly-bubbly - I can't make this up.) Taxpayers are funding research at the Syrian Center for Tobacco Study on whether smoking through a water pipe is less harmful than regular smoking. Well, I'm dying to know the answer to that, aren't you? Hold on while I get out my checkbook.

A spokesman for Citizens Against Government Waste says while research is useful, it's not something that taxpayers should be funding. "Why is the federal taxpayer always the one who has to pay for this? We question whether this is a national priority to figure out the problems of other countries. Let’s figure out our problems and solve those.” The NIH Fogarty Center originating the research stands to get $66 million next year.

Is raising the national debt ceiling the answer? Should more be trimmed from areas like hookah research before the US goes further in the hole?

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Dear Poll: Do You Care If Someone Hears You Have Sex?

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Sex is extremely intimate, but it can also be loud, and I’m sure many of us live in close quarters with other people. No one wants to abandon a fun romp in the sack because of other people, but alerting the neighbors to your sexual habits isn’t all that fun either. Since there’s some admittedly noisy ladies out there, and because we all know that serious sex can make for a squeaky bed, let me ask: Does it bother you if other people can hear you getting it on?

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Ask E. Jean For DearSugar: Should I Trade Up?

E Jean Carroll — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Dear E. Jean,
I’m 29, educated, attractive, fun, and creative. I’ve been in relationship with a great guy for about five months. The only problem is that he's an aspiring (indie) rock star, and I'm guessing that deep down his greatest love will always be his music.

So my question: Am I selling myself short here? Should I trade in the fun, cute musician for someone more stable and commitment-minded?

I'm not sure exactly what I want for my future or what's the sure path to happiness, but perhaps it's time to trade in the rock shows for an investment portfolio and a secure future?

My greatest fear is waking up one morning when I'm 35 and it's just me and the cat! - Rocker or Banker?

To see E. Jean's answer, read more.

Rocker, My Rosebud,

Now, now. God knows I love men - what sex! - and I confess I've romped with many a handsome specimen in my time, but I'd rather wake up with a cat than with 99 percent of them.

So I do not understand your quandary, my luv.

Aren't you on this earth to enjoy as many lads as you like? Why limit yourself to just rockers and bankers? Why not let cowboys, movie stars, race car drivers, internet billionaires, college professors, male models, and hedge funders thrill you to the marrow?

Because here's the deal: There's no such thing as a "secure future." Get that straight, or you'll be surprised (and possibly miserable) the rest of your life. Yes, you can plan for a brilliant future; you can marry a commitment-minded man; your love can be pure and flame-like; but only a half-witted female depends on a dude for "stability."

It will take self-discipline. But if you can create a way to earn a comfortable income yourself, you’ll be free from the limitations, expectations, and the demands of men. Free from your own uncertainty. You won't be afraid if a guy is secure or stable. You can love whomever you like, commit for as long as you like, and not give a flying fig for their financial statements.

To see more advice from E. Jean visit Elle magazine and AskEJean.com.

The How-To Lounge: Honeymooning at Home

DearSugar — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Though the idea of spending the week after your wedding exploring Mayan ruins, eating real Italian pizza, or lounging in the Caribbean is fantasy worthy, for many newlyweds the reality is that such extravagant (and expensive) honeymoons just aren't possible. But fortunately, there's still plenty of just-married fun to be had without a plane ticket or months of planning. To see my ideas for honeymooning at home please read more.

Probably the most obvious possibility is to plan a weekend away that doesn't involve an airport or a $400 per night hotel room. Keep your driving distance to no more than half a day to cut down on extra costs and give you the most time possible to enjoy your time away.
A great play on the weekend away, but even less demanding, is a simple day trip to a nearby locale. Try a big city adventure, a low-key romp through a small town, or find a nearby lake you can spend some hours sunning on the shore.
Pack up the car, make a few playlists on your iPod, and hit the open highway - or better yet, the back roads! An old-fashioned road trip can mean serious fun. Come up with a general itinerary, but don't let a schedule dictate your trip. To keep things truly authentic and conveniently cheap, eat at local spots and stay at roadside motels.
If you really can't take time off or just don't have any extra funds, take turns doing something special for each other each day for a week. It can be a homemade meal, a thoughtful card, or just doing all the cleaning while the other relaxes on the couch. Not only is it a great way to show each other how much you care, but it's also a great pattern to get into at the beginning of a marriage.
Or, just stay in the comfort of your own home, but make it count! Rent all the movies you've been wanting to see, order you favorite take-out food, and pick up a bottle of massage oil. For a few days, make it just about relaxing and spending time with each other.

Most importantly, just make sure the days after your wedding are a chance to celebrate your newlywed status!

To see all of our wedding coverage, check out IDoSugar.com.

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