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Dear Quiz: What's Up With Erections in the Morning?

DearSugar — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 12:00:00 -0700

Ever noticed that your man wakes up a little excited sometimes? Well it actually happens pretty often, but do you know why? Take this quiz and find out!

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The How-To Lounge: Turning Around a Bad Day

DearSugar — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 10:00:00 -0700

We have all woken up on the wrong side of the bed, I'm sure more than once, but instead of giving into a bad day, here are some tips on how to re-start your morning.

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Don't snooze your alarm clock. In my opinion, snoozing makes you lazy for the rest of the day. It also can add a level of stress to your morning routine if those extra 10 minutes in bed made you late for work.
As soon as your alarm goes off, mentally plan out your morning and try to do something nice for yourself. Stop to get coffee and your favorite muffin if you are already dreading the morning. Giving yourself something to look forward to will lessen the sting of your bad day.
Hydrate. Our bodies wake up dehydrated, which can cause fatigue and effect your mood, so drink a couple glasses of water as soon as you wake up to jump start your morning.
If you wake up grumpy, exercise. If you don't have time for a full fledged gym workout, take a quick walk around the block, do some sit ups or push ups at home, do a quick exercise video, anything to get your heart pumping so you can reduce tension and increase your energy level.
If you woke up thinking about something specific, don't dwell on it. Get to the root of the problem and if you can, deal with it head on so you don't wake up the next day on the wrong side of the bed too.
Have a sense of humor about it. Sometimes when it rains, it pours, so try to laugh at yourself. When I have a really bad morning, I usually call a friend and make light of just how miserable my morning was so I can get it out and just have a laugh at it. Give it a try and see if it works for you!

These are my methods, do you have any?

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Sex: Morning vs. Evening

DearSugar — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Some people like morning sex better than evening sex - it's an ongoing debate that I could talk about all day long. It all boils down to personal preference so I thought it'd be fun to list the pros and cons of each! Now these are just my opinions, so tell me what you think in the comments below. Are you more of a morning person or do you enjoy sex at night more?

	Pros	Cons
Morning Sex	It's a relaxing and fun way to wake up (so much better than an alarm clock). Since your mind and body are still sleepy and dreamy, all your physical sensations will feel more intense. Since it's a workout, all those released endorphins are way better than a cup of coffee!	Since there's not much time for foreplay, morning sex usually just ends up being a quickie, which can leave you sexually frustrated and late for work. Since many women feel self-conscious about what they look like, the morning light might be a deterrent. Morning breath is not the biggest turn on, at least in my book! If you're not a morning person, you may be too tired and cranky to want to have sex.

OK, so what about evening sex? To see the list read more.

	Pros	Cons
Evening Sex	It's a great way to end your day with a smile. Since you don't have to get to work until the morning, you won't feel rushed. Nighttime is the perfect time to light some candles and create a sexy mood. All that hard work will tire you out so you can fall asleep more easily.	You may be too tired or stressed out from working all day to really get in the mood. Sometimes getting your heart pumping can make it hard to fall asleep. If your sexcapade lasts late into the night, you're sure to be exhausted the next day.

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Little Things to Make You Smile

DearSugar — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I always know I'm in a good mood or feeling happy if I catch myself sporting a big goofy grin just going about my day-to-day business. All it takes is a simple moment or a kind word to perk me up and get me grinning. However, sometimes, and I don't think I'm alone on this, a smile is a lot harder to come by than it should be. In an attempt to make every day smile worthy, I've put together a list of little things that always leave me with a happy feeling. Check them out and add your own!

Getting a random hug from someone you love.
A latte executed just how you like it.
Rain on your roof at night.
And a sunny morning the next day.
Scarves, purses, and new shoes!
A phone call from an old friend.
Green lights all the way home.
Receiving an actual card in the mail.
Getting dressed in the morning and realizing it's going to be a "skinny" day.

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Finding $20 in your pocket.
Seeing pudgy baby legs poking out of a stroller.
Coming home to a clean house.
A work day that flies by.
Licking the frosting off a cupcake.
Free parking.
Seeing an elderly couple holding hands.
Puppies and kittens.

What little thing puts a spring in your step?

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Not a Fan of Morning Sex? Try This

DearSugar — Tue, 06 May 2008 11:00:00 -0700

A while back I talked about the pros and cons of morning and evening sex. Now I happen to be a fan of both but if you've never been into getting it on in the a.m, here are some ways you can help make morning sex more desirable.

If morning breath is a turn off for you, who says you have to kiss on the lips? Kissing everywhere else can be a real turn on too, especially on the neck, ears, chest, and back.
If kissing on the lips is a must for you, keep some mints or gum in your nightstand drawer.
Morning sex doesn't have to happen immediately upon waking, so don't worry if you have to visit the ladies room. Just do it quickly and then hop right back into bed!

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If you're always short on time in the mornings, set your alarm a little earlier. Sex is a great way to "snooze."
If brightness turns you off, get some thick curtains that block out the morning sun. That way when you wake up, it'll still feel dark and cozy.
If you're into morning sex but your partner's not, wake him up in the sexiest way you know how, tell him you've been dreaming about him all night and I guarantee it'll make him feel in the mood, too.
If you do like morning sex but it's lost its charm, try having it every once in a while. That way when you do have it, it'll be like unwrapping a sweet treat.

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The How-To Lounge: Avoiding Lines

DearSugar — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700

If you’re anything like me, then the idea of standing in a line for longer than a minute or two makes you want to go home and crawl under the covers. I’m exaggerating a bit, but you know what I mean - lines can really dampen a mood! If you feel the same way, see my tips for dealing with the dreaded line and read more.

If you’re going somewhere you know is crowded at a particular time, like after work or first thing in the morning, put off your trip for one hour. Even an hour can make a huge difference. And waiting in your house or office is far better than waiting in line.
If you’re going to an event that will be expecting a huge influx of people at one time, try getting there early or late. It might be slightly inconvenient, but you’ll save yourself so much trouble that you won’t mind. And you'd be surprised how much even 15 minutes can help.
If you’re going to be alone, bring your iPod, a book, or a magazine that will keep you occupied while you wait. Taking your mind off of the line really does make it feel like it’s moving faster.
If you have someone else with you, then break up the monotony by letting one person walk around or do errands while the other waits. Switching off like this will not only give you each a break, but it’s a good opportunity to get other stuff done too.
And of course, if applicable, always buy tickets in advance.

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Not a Fan of Sex Before Bed? Try This

DearSugar — Wed, 07 May 2008 10:00:00 -0700

When I posted about the pros and cons of morning and evening sex, many of you commented about how much you love getting it on in the morning, which made me think that a lot of you aren't huge fans of getting busy before you go to bed. Well I'm back with some tips to make sex in the evening more appealing.

If you have too much on your mind to feel sexy, write a list of your thoughts in a journal before you get into bed. If you're thinking about tomorrow, make a to-do list -it'll feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
Finish dinner at least two hours before you plan on heading into the bedroom. That way you'll have enough time to digest and you can avoid that bloated, full feeling, which can make you not feel like being touched.
Make it a quickie. Who said you have to have a two-hour romp session? Remember that even 10 minutes of sex will relieve tension and help you fall asleep faster.

Need some more inspiration? Then read more.

Do some yoga or other gentle exercise after dinner. It will help to clear your mind and put you in a relaxed mood.
Take a shower together before bed. You'll feel clean and refreshed, and all that nakedness is sure to lead to something!
If you're too sleepy once you finally hit the hay, make it a point to get to bed a little earlier. You'll have more energy to give to your loved one, and you won't be worried about staying up too late.
If you're a fan of sex before bed but your partner's not, offer to give him a back massage. He won't have to do anything, and in between rubbing his muscles, you can kiss his back and arms. It's sure to put him in the mood!

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This or That: Caught by Your Mother-in-Law or Your Boss?

DearSugar — Tue, 13 May 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Out on a Sunday afternoon stroll and shopping trip with a friend, you find yourself complaining about the stress you’re having at work and the issues you and your husband are having with your monster-in-law. You guys are having a good laugh - you're giving your best impressions, even mimicking your boss's constant hand motions. But just as you're exiting a store, your mood turns from jovial to terrified. Would it be worse if …

This: Your mother-in-law appears with pursed lips right in front of you? She starts to make small talk, but her expression makes it clear that she heard every word; this will make the weekly dinners far worse than usual.

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That: Your boss comes up from behind you with her arms crossed and a stern look on her face? When you say hello, she gives a nod and says that she looks forward to seeing you in her office on Monday morning.

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What's the Right Birth Control For You? Part Three

DearSugar — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Birth control can be really annoying, but if you're sexually active, it's necessary if you want to prevent yourself from becoming pregnant or contracting an STI. I've talked about some common forms of birth control and some less common forms, but there are still more options.

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Method	Pros	Cons
The Shot	Once you get the shot, it'll prevent you from getting pregnant for three months, and it's 99.7 percent effective.	It's a shot so if you hate needles, this method isn't for you. Plus you have to go to your doctor's office to get it, and some women complain of irregular bleeding and weight gain. Also, if you're thinking about becoming pregnant, after your last injection, it can take six to 12 months to become fertile again. It also doesn't protect you against STIs.
Implanon	Once inserted, it'll prevent pregnancy for up to three years, and is 99 percent effective. Some women love it and experience no side effects.	It has to be surgically implanted by a doctor, and some women complain of irritation, burning, pain, or oozing where the implant was inserted or removed. Since it is a type of hormonal birth control, for all three years you could experience irregular bleeding, mood swings, depression, weight gain, acne, sore breasts, stomach pain, swelling in your ankles and feet, headaches, or nausea. It may be difficult to remove because thick scar tissue can form around the implant. To top it all off, this method doesn't protect you against STIs.
FAM (Fertility Awareness Method)	This is a great method if you are very aware of your cycle, and have the time to chart your daily morning temperature, the position of your cervix, and the feel of your cervical fluid, so you can figure out the exact day that you ovulate. This method helps a woman feel more in control, and if she knows what days she's most fertile, she can avoid unprotected sex.	This method can be really challenging, especially if you have irregular cycles. It takes a lot of effort, responsibility, and awareness of your body, and if you have a very short cycle (less than 26 days) there aren't many days where you're not fertile, so you'll end up needing another form of birth control like condoms.
Pull and Pray (not very effective but since people do use this method, I had to include it)	It's free, and if you're in a monogamous relationship and would be happy to be a mom then this method is great for you since many women have gotten pregnant this way.	Since pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, even if the man pulls out before he orgasms, some sperm can still be inside you, therefore you can easily become pregnant. This method won't protect you against STIs. Also, if your man has a hard time controlling his orgasms, he may end up ejaculating inside you before he gets a chance to pull out.

I hope you all found this information to be helpful. I know it may seem a bit monotonous but you can never be too informed!

Women's Common Complaint: I'm Too Tired to Do It

DearSugar — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 11:00:00 -0800

Having sex is a great way to relieve stress and express your love for someone. The problem is, sometimes we can feel too tired at night for an hour-long romp in the sheets. We get up early, work eight or more hours a day, run errands, make dinner, do the dishes, and by the end of it all, we're exhausted. We've got sleep on the mind, not sex.

Here are some tips that may help:

Don't get hung up on both of you having orgasms. Remember that sex is about intimacy and closeness. So spend some time making out and loving each other, and don't worry about necessarily having sex.
If you do want to have sex, get into bed earlier. That way you'll have enough energy to make love and you'll be finished just in time for bedtime.
Exercise during the day. It improves your stamina and also gives you energy for fun things at the end of your day.

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Have sex in the morning, during the day, or right after work. Who says you have wait until the evening to get it on?
Take turns pleasing each other. Since it can take women a lot longer to orgasm, alternate who gets to climax. Maybe tonight you focus on getting your man to have an orgasm, and the next time, it's all about you. Then when it's your turn, you'll get to relax and just enjoy the sensations without having to do a thing.
If you do like to have sex before you hit the hay, make sure you eat dinner at least two hours before, and make it a light meal. If you stuff yourself late and then go to bed, you'll feel sluggish and not at all in the mood for love.
Take a shower before you crawl into bed. It'll wake you up and make you feel clean, sexy, and in the mood.

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