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Do Tell: What's the Strangest Place You Ever Met Someone?

TresSugar — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 09:00:21 -0700

Now that we've all dished about how our parents met, I've been trying to think of the craziest places I've met men I've dated. Then I realized, all of mine are pretty boring: the dorm, the gym, the office, weddings, bars . . . ho hum.

But I do have friends with great stories, including a guy who got a girl's number through a car window while riding across the Golden Gate Bridge (thankfully, he wasn't driving). So I'm hoping you guys have some more interesting stories about the weirder places you've met your mates and dates. What's the most unusual place you've met a potential love interest?

Do Tell: How Did Your Parents Meet?

DearSugar — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 10:00:00 -0800

I loved hearing about how all of you met your significant others a while back, and though some of your stories were very modern, most of you met the old-fashioned way, just like our moms and dads did. Since they didn't have resources like the Internet or match-making services to help them get a date, I'm curious to know how your parents met, so do tell!

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Do Tell: Is Super Bowl Sunday a Good Time to Meet Guys?

DearSugar — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 13:30:00 -0800

When a guy is totally into the game, chances are he'll be oblivious to the girls around him, but fair weather fans might take notice! The Super Bowl is not only one of the biggest sporting events of the year, but it's also a day to overindulge, which means parties will be plentiful. And while it's not typically considered a day to meet guys, I happen to think it's a perfect time to stumble upon an eligible bachelor, and in his element to boot! What do you think -are you with me on this one?

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Do Tell: Do You Go Where the Men Are?

DearSugar — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 09:00:00 -0800

Meeting new people is all about timing, circumstance, and putting yourself in the right places. I've given you a few suggestions as to where some of the eligible men are hiding, but do you actually go there? I feel like I still hear people ask where all the good guys are, so tell me ladies, do you place yourself where the odds are high? And if so, do tell, where are they?

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Do Tell: How Did You Meet Your Significant Other?

DearSugar — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 07:30:00 -0800

Most of you have been in at least one relationship before, which means you have a story that explains how you met! I always enjoy hearing how it all began - not only does it give me faith that it can happen to me too, but it gives a lot of insight into the couple and the individuals. Whether it was love at first sight or just a total fluke, do tell, how did you meet your significant other?

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The How-To Lounge: New Avenues to Meet People

DearSugar — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Meeting new guys is not all that hard - just head out to your local pub for a drink and smile a lot! But meeting quality people who you’d actually want to interact with sober and introduce to your friends is another matter entirely. And while throwing out suggestions like going to a bar or starting up conversations at your gym can be helpful for some, most of us have been there and done that. In an attempt to broaden our horizons, I’ve tried to think outside the dating box. To see my new ideas, just read more.

Get the word out there. Email your friends and ask your mom to talk to her friends. It may sound desperate, but try to think of it as practical. At least you know they’ll all be looking out for your well-being.
Do the online dating thing. I know for some the idea of meeting someone online seems weird or even embarrassing, but the days of online dating as taboo are over! Embrace the tools you have at your disposal, because you won't know until you try!
Try a dating event like a singles' night or a speed dating dinner. They may not have the highest success rates, but you’ll know everyone there is looking for a relationship, and that, my friends, is potential.
Take a class. School is one of the best places to meet new people. You’re forced to interact on a weekly basis without the stresses and pressures of work. Plus, you might actually learn something!
And finally, say yes to the strange requests from your friends and family. Like when your mom asks you to go to her best friend’s sister’s son’s birthday, do it. Or when your friend wants to go to a themed party, go for it. These are the random occasions that make up the stories that start with “It was totally unexpected . . .”

Yes, it’s all about taking chances, but why not? We’re not talking brain surgery here!

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People Are Not Always How They Appear

DearSugar — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 12:00:00 -0700

Back when I was in high school, I took a leadership class, and though the subject matter was somewhat indefinable, it may have been one of the more valuable classes I had because it taught me life skills like communication and working with other people. In fact, one assignment still lingers with me today. We were asked to share with our classmates what our first impression of them had been and then fill in the following statement:

People usually assume that I ______ but what they'd be surprised to know about me is ______.

It was fascinating to find out how misperceived everyone was. Since I know that this is applicable at any age and point in life, try filling in the blanks yourselves. Tell me: What do people assume about you? But what are you really?

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The How-To Lounge: Flirting

DearSugar — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Some of us are natural born flirts, but the rest of us have to work at this particular skill set. Luckily, when it comes to flirting, a little can go a long way. If you're one of those girls still searching for your mojo, check out my rules of thumb and read more.

Eye contact is undeniably important in the art of flirting, and it conveys far more information than your witty banter will. Plus, if you look at him, then you’ll know whether he’s looking at you.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Like I told Low Confidence Lila, there’s nothing wrong with being shy, but if you are, learn how to use it to your advantage. All it takes is a couple of demure smiles and you’ve turned shy into coy with almost no effort.
The power of touch should not be dismissed. By laying your hand on a guy’s wrist or reaching out and touching his shoulder, you’re letting him know that you feel comfortable around him.
We all know that in the world of dating, looks do matter, but what most people fail to remember is that so does personality. You can’t just make eyes at him, you have to back up your flirty bravado with some real talk. Trust me, if you actually listen to what he says, it won’t be difficult to make conversation.
Don’t be afraid to leave him wanting more. Once you’ve connected with him, you don’t have to stay stuck on him all night. In fact, go ahead and cruise the field. Once you’ve grabbed him, he’ll be hooked and your distance will keep things mysterious.

As you get more acclimated in this particular art, you’ll find that certain things work for you and other’s don’t, so go with your gut!

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You Asked: I'm Too Shy

DearSugar — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I'm a very shy girl who can't seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I don't already feel comfortable with. All of my friends are outgoing and carefree, and I cant even get a date to save my life! I've convinced myself that there is no one of the opposite sex that would possibly be interested in me, which in turn fuels my feelings of loneliness. I've tried to put myself out there but I don't know what else to do when I seriously lack confidence. How can I approach males without feeling like a complete idiot?

- Low Confidence Lila

To see DearSugar's answer, read more.

Dear Low Confidence Lila,

I think you already know the answer to your question; it's time to get your confidence up and learn to like yourself, shyness and all! First things first, being shy is not the same as having low self-esteem, so learn to embrace your shy side. It's part of who you are and that's OK. But you can't just be a wallflower and expect the world to come to you. That's where the confidence comes in handy. Figure out how you want to be defined outside of "shy." Maybe you're a stellar baker or maybe you're more of the private artistic type, but whatever you are, embrace it.

If you start thinking of your unique characteristics as positive attributes, you may be surprised to find how quickly you start to feel better about yourself - confidence really is all about your state of mind, even if you have to fake it at first. Once you've got your head in the right place, try boosting your confidence through various solo activities. Do something you'd never thought you could, like eat out alone or join a running group. After all this, approaching a guy (or getting a guy to talk to you) will be no problem! Sure, it's going to take time, but just be patient because the rewards are worth it.

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Five Places to Meet Guys Before Summer's End!

DearSugar — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 07:00:00 -0700

The sun is setting on summertime, which means it's your last chance to meet some eligible bachelors before they go into hibernation come Winter. I've already given you some advice as to how you can jump start your Summer fun, but I'm back to give you my top five places to meet guys in the summertime. Enjoy! Source

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