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Relationship Protocol: Do You Effectively Communicate Together?

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700

One of the hardest, but most important parts of a relationship is learning how to communicate effectively when the going gets tough. It’s easy to talk when it’s all sunshine and rainbows, but communicating your feelings to someone else when you’re not even sure what you’re feeling can seem impossible. Ideally, once you're settled into a relationship, you’ve figured out the best way to talk to one another, but the truth is, even people who’ve been happily married for decades can be terrible at effective communication. So how does your own relationship fair the rough and volatile communication seas? What are you working on as an individual and as a couple to make your communication stronger?

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Relationship Protocol: What Did You Learn When You Started Living Together?

DearSugar — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Every new step in a relationship allows a couple to learn more about each other. Meeting a significant other’s friends reveals his attitude and sense of humor, visiting his childhood home lets you in on his past, and moving in together opens up a wealth of information about his day-to-day habits. And while everything you learn may not be music to your ears, accepting someone's minor flaws is part of the package. So, good or bad, what did you learn when you and your honey started living together?

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You Asked: His Penis Makes Me Nervous

DearSugar — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 06:00:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

I've been seeing my new boyfriend for about five months and we have plenty of good fun sex, some adventurous stuff too (well, adventurous for me), but the trouble is he thinks that I don't like his penis because I don't do well with hand and oral endeavors. He is great at explaining what he wants and how to pleasure himself, but I'm not a talker so I end up flustered and self conscious about messing up. I'm worried that he'll give up on me and look elsewhere.

-Scared of it Stacia

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Dear Scared of it Stacia,

When you are inexperienced with men and their parts, it can be really intimidating. I'm sure women everywhere felt anxious and maybe a little embarrassed when they first started being intimate with men. We all can admit that we were nervous about what to do with a penis, and worried that we weren't doing it right, but honestly, all it takes is a little practice with an understanding partner, and you'll soon become more comfortable.

It's great that your man is open enough to explain what to do, but when you're involved in the moment, I don't blame you for feeling like it's a school lesson instead of an intimate experience. Maybe you can try talking about this when you're not getting it on. Have him explain and show you what to do outside of the bedroom. Start with learning what to do with your hands, and then you can move onto using your mouth when you feel the time is right. Another good option is to talk to your girlfriends about it (or anyone else you feel comfortable with). I'm sure they can give you some pointers about technique, so when the time comes to get intimate, you'll feel more confident about what to do.

I wouldn't be worried about your man moving on because if he really cares about you, he'll be patient and realize that sex isn't the only important thing in a relationship. Everyone is different, and it sometimes takes a little time to figure out how each other ticks so just try to relax and enjoy the time you have to practice. If he gets annoyed or impatient with you, then this guy's not even worth getting to know in that way anyway.

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What's Your Take on "Housewife Classes"?

DearSugar — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 08:00:00 -0700

I just read an article in the LA Times that struck a nerve with me, and I have a feeling you will all agree. This Fall, the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary will be offering a class on how to be a better housewife - a class only open to women, of course! This academic program will offer lectures on laundering stubborn stains and how to bake chocolate-chip cookies.

While some women feel it's their duty to be a homemaker, such classes went out of style at most secular colleges a half century ago, which could be why only eight out of the 300 students in the undergraduate program have enrolled in this class. On the flip side, it's comforting to know that some men out there are speaking up, suggesting that it's actually the men that need these classes. As Andy Cecrle stated, "What if my wife is sick and my kids need clean clothes? It may not hurt to have some basic tips." Amen Andy!

I am sure you ladies have a mouthful to say in response to all of this, so what's your take on housewife classes? If you were offered these classes in school, would you take them or would you be offended? And if you could make a class such as this mandatory for men, do you think they would benefit from it?

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I thought parents like thier kids to learn.........

Fri, 05 Jan 2007 23:06:00 -0800

ok so i made a list of community collage courses that interested me, and apparently my dad found it, and selected the 3 he approved of for me. he acted like the other courses were dirty or something, or like they were an r rated movie. the ones he selected for me were-digital art and design, nutrition, and career planning. but he didn't like philosophy, psychology, sociology, history of film, music history, or humanities. I'm trying to figure out why he would act this way. i felt like he didn't want me to learn or something. and so after he said he had selected those classes for me, he mentioned that he doesnt want me to go to the campus alone either. (i understand that part) i said that i would look into these classes for next year (12th grade). and so he said well let me know when you start to get serious and we will figure out a plan. But shouldn't i be able to pick what i want to learn? it really bugs me.

Life Lessons Through Art

TresSugar — Thu, 28 May 2009 11:00:00 -0700

A graphic designer has taken life lessons and transformed them into art with impact in his book Things I Have Learned in My Life So Far. With the help of his talent (and clients around the world) borderline-banal maxims like Everybody Always Thinks They Are Right were transformed into interactive art exhibits.
Now anyone can turn their life lessons into art at his website. Of course, many user-submitted entries lack the impact and imagination of the originals, but just as many don't. Want to submit your own? To find out how, read more.

Consider what you have learned in your life so far. What are you sure about? What do you believe by now?
Pick one of those life lessons and write it down. Design it digitally. Photograph it. Draw it. Use paint, sculpture, film. We don’t care as long as it’s interesting.
Post a link to your creation. (Don’t embed. It makes us sad.)

How Did You First Learn About Sex?

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 08:00:00 -0700

I remember it with such detail. I was 6 years old and in the way back of my Mom's station wagon, (you know those old ones that used to face backwards?). I was playing with my Cabbage Patch Kid and I said out loud, "I want to have a baby named Molly when I grow up." My mom asked casually, "Well, do you know how you have a baby?" I answered assertively, "Yeah, when you want one, they just show up in your belly." Then my mom's tone changed and she said, "Well, not exactly. When a man and a woman love each other..."

I was thoroughly disgusted, and until very recently, I was convinced that my parents only had sex twice - once for me and once for my brother.

6 years old was a pretty average age to have "the talk," although some kids learn much earlier, and some learn much much later. So, I'm curious. How and when did you first learn about sex?

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Funny Video! Palin Fans Explain Support!

Tres Community — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 12:00:24 -0800

This post was written by spacekatgal in the TrèsSugar community group Citizen 4.0.

Oh Gods, this video is both embarrassing and awesome at the same time. I was laughing so hard! The best part of this video was learning that "you never have to compromise when you're right. That's for people that are wrong." That will come in handy in my marriage.

There's lots of great stuff going on in our community - join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar!

Speed Read! Jennifer Hudson to Perform at State Dinner

TresSugar — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 09:30:19 -0800

Chicago native Jennifer Hudson will perform at the White House's star-studded state dinner tonight. - Washington Post
Google buys ads to explain why an offensive image of Michelle Obama comes up in search results. - Huffington Post
Should we thank Kate Moss for being frank about watching her weight? - Double X
Family returns from out of town to find home has been broken into and
decorated for Christmas. - Lemondrop
Can you write like Sarah Palin? Slate's holding a contest. - Slate
Inside a supermodel's suicide. - Sexy Beast
Octomom Nadya Suleman says she might have more children. Great. - Jezebel
New albums from Rihanna and Lady Gaga are out. - BuzzSugar
Seven lessons we can learn from Hollywood stuntwomen. - Flavorwire

Vampax: Stay Close to Your Vampire Boyfriend All Month Long

TresSugar — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 11:00:52 -0800

Twilight Cycles from Brandon Routh

Is your monthly cycle getting between you and your vampire lover? Sounds like you need Vampax - new tampon technology that promises to keep you safe while you run around the forest with your brooding bloodsucking boyfriend. Learn all about it in this Twilight parody from the people at Funny or Die. It's disgustingly funny.