"If we're really paying attention, a man will often give himself away from the get-go," explains Meagan McCrary, coauthor of the new book The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags. Nervousness, excitement, or the hopes of hitting it off with a new man might prompt some of us to overlook obvious deal breakers, which will only lead to wasting our time on a second date, or worse — setting out on a Read more

Even though we're in the middle of wedding season on the PopSugar Network, we can't forget the beginning of all lifelong or best-forgotten relationships: the first date. Trying to decide whether a perfect stranger is a potential mate can get stressful and tiresome. So I have eight tips to help make it all go as smooth as possible. Add yours in the comments! Wear your favorite go-to outfit, Read more

I'd say choose whatever color you look best in for a first date, but Match.com says the psychology of color disagrees. We know women are attracted to men in red and vice-versa, but what do other colors say? Fortunately, there are shades that say "come here" without going as far as come-hither red. Find out which color is best for you — and what colors we all should avoid — below. Read more

After Reese Witherspoon said she went out with a guy who corrected her grammar on a first, and last, date (who would correct Reese Witherspoon's anything?), I asked what your first date pet peeves were. From the too casual (letting you pay) to the overzealous (squeezing in the same side of a booth), here are your 10 first date no-nos. Not having suggestions when he's doing the asking Sitting on Read more

Both sides overanalyze every word. We talk to a friend, an impromptu Cyrano: "He wrote nice in all caps. What does that mean? What do I write back?" Then we write a response and delete it 10 times before sending a message that will appear 2 care, but not 2 much. If all goes well, a date will be arranged. Whether you like it or not, the digital age has produced a new format for modern romance, Read more

At a press conference for her latest rom-com, How Do You Know, Reese Witherspoon revealed a first-date dealbreaker: correcting grammar. "I had someone correct my grammar on a blind date once," she said, "and I knew within the first 10 minutes that the date was over." Fair enough! I give guys I like generous margins of error, which has not worked in my favor, while I'll ask other guys to pack Read more

This question comes from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments! I am quite inexperienced when it comes to the minds of men and dating in general. This guy I do not know very well asks me if I would like to hang out with him this weekend. I think why not? Maybe we could be friends. When I replied back to him he said, "Okay it's a date then!" I was a Read more

In her final diary entry, our anonymous blogging online dater lamented that first dates feel too interview-like, and who wants to be bored on a first date? While a little bit of back-and-forth "where did you grow up?" discourse is inevitable, when you're trapped on bar stools or in a restaurant booth with a new interest, nerves can get the best of us, and the date can devolve into a snoozefest Read more

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