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How Did You Know He Was the Father of Your Children?

LilSugar — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 05:00:32 PDT

Every one's falling in love over on TresSugar lately! That happened to lots of Lil readers a while ago, but I'm curious about the moment that you knew your guy would be the father of your children. Did you see him running around with your nephew? Is he just a big kid? Or, did he have a secret list of baby names? I was 16 and clueless when I met my husband (also 16 and clueless) at a party and mumbled to my friends that he was the one. Ten years later, I gave birth to our baby girl. Crazy things happen. What's your story?

Guess Which Designer Is Now a Dad?

CasaSugar — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 09:30:44 PST

An interior designer who was also a judge on Design Star, as well as the host of his own show on HGTV, is now the proud father of a son born via a surrogate to himself and his partner! Can you name him?

Etsy Finds: Gifts For Dad

CasaSugar — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:00:10 PST

If your father appreciates handcrafted goods, then Etsy is a perfect place to shop for your pop. I've rounded up a variety of items that would please your paterfamilias, so check out my favorites, and then hop on over to Etsy to see what you can find as well!

10 Feel-Good Gifts For Dad on Any Budget

BellaSugar — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 09:00:16 PST

Got a father with a soft spot for a good shave and a nice foot rub? Then look no further for the perfect holiday gifts for the Y chromosome who loves you most. I've tracked down everything from frothy $5 Guinness soap for the pop who loves his stout to the most sublime shaving kits for the dad of leisure. Click through and find something that your daddy will love at a price that fits your budget.

Healthy Gift Ideas For Dad

FitSugar — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 05:50:00 PDT

Forget the tie this Father's Day. How about getting your dad something that will encourage a long, healthy life? Here are some healthy gift ideas he's sure to appreciate.

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You Asked: I Hate My Father

DearSugar — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 12:00:00 PST

Dear Sugar,

For years I've had a deep ingrained hatred towards my so-called father. I went to therapy for two years for it, but I still have a lot of resentment built up. I've never had a real conversation with him, and I don't plan on ever having one with him in the future. I don't want to work it out because I do not want a relationship with him. Unfortunately, I have to live with him. I am currently in school and living with my family. I applied to a couple of new schools for the Spring semester, so if all goes well, I will be living on campus, but until then, I have to deal with my dad. But I can't even stand looking at him, let alone speaking to him.

My sister and my mom have told me I've been too hard on him, but I couldn't care less. He has put my family through extremely difficult circumstances, and has not once apologized for his actions. I am otherwise pretty happy with my life, except for the fact that I have to deal with him on a daily basis. I wish he would just go away, but that's not an option. Is there anything at all I can do to ease this tension?

- Bitter Brianna

To see DearSugar's answer,

read more. Dear Bitter Brianna, You say you want to ease the tension in your family, and yet, the intense hatred you're holding on to says otherwise. Your dad isn't going away, and even if you want to cut him out of your life, it sounds like he's still very much included in your mother's and your sister's. I don't know the reasons for your anger, but obviously they run very deep. The process of letting go is no easy task, and I commend you for trying to work things out with therapy, but holding on to this bitterness is only going to serve to hurt you. While I certainly won't suggest you make any kind of amends with your dad - anger is a very necessary emotion and often a method of protection from future wounds - you can recognize his inabilities and your grievances, but take your rage out of the equation. First of all, get out of the house. Apply for a student loan, drop down to a part-time class schedule, take another job, or rent out your friend's closet, if necessary. This living situation sounds incredibly unhealthy, and I would guess that by physically removing yourself from his presence, the tension would naturally decrease. When you do see him, stay reasonable; if your anger overwhelms you just leave and that will automatically deescalate any impending conflict. And certainly, continue therapy - your campus health center should have options available for you. You're obviously still experiencing the impact of the relationship with your father, so even if you don't want to work through it for your family, do it for yourself. Source

You Asked: How Do I Repair My Relationship With My Father?

DearSugar — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 17:00:00 PDT

Dear Sugar,

My relationship with my father has always been rocky, since before my parents divorced 18 years ago. It has been over a year since the last time we interacted - our last correspondence was filled with nasty, hateful words through email. He's never been much of a role model or a parent to me. I think he should make the first move and put out the proverbial olive branch, but he hasn't made a move. Now there's a void in my life and it's making it very hard for me to feel emotionally well.

To be honest, I'm not even sure I want to open the lines of communication, but losing touch with my dad has pulled me apart from my much-younger sisters; they're both under 10. I miss them dearly. Is this worth repairing? What should I do to regain somewhat of a relationship with my family?

- On the Outs Olinda

To see DearSugar's answer,

read more. Dear On the Outs Olinda, Though I think that most familial relationships are worth repairing, there are some circumstances in which I think distancing yourself from a particular family member is a must in order to avoid abuse or emotional anguish. Since I don't know the details of your issues with your father, it's impossible for me to say whether this is a relationship worth saving. However, it's obvious the relationship you have with your sisters is one worth fighting for. Try reaching out to your dad in a simple and cordial manner. Don't languish in apologies if you don't feel sorry, and don't excuse his bad behavior just because you're trying to reconnect. It's OK to let him know that this dispute is weighing heavily on your mind, and that you don't want your sisters to grow up without knowing you. Take this opportunity to express some of your feelings in a respectful way, and be prepared to hear his thoughts, too. Perhaps you can both resolve this once and for all, but otherwise, keep it friendly and work on connecting with your sisters again. Once they get a little older, you can maintain a separate relationship with them without having to interact with your father at all if you don't want to. Issues with our parents can run far deeper than we realize, so don't hesitate to talk to a therapist if this conflict with your dad continues to hurt your day-to-day life. Good luck. Source

Does Your Dad Exercise Regularly?

FitSugar — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 13:00:00 PDT

I grew up in a pretty active family. My dad was insistent on getting the whole family bikes when I was in junior high. It embarrassed me at the time, how he made us go on family bike rides, but he definitely instilled in me a love for being active. Now he plays racquetball and goes on daily walks with my mom. I'm really glad he keeps moving since we have heart problems in our family. He knows exercising is good for his health, and it keeps him around to enjoy his grandchildren. Since Father's Day is this Sunday, I was wondering . . .

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Do Tell: How Old Were You When You Found Out Santa Wasn't Real?

DearSugar — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 07:00:21 PST

Do you remember the good old days when you believed in Santa Claus? Every year my dad and I would put golden brownies and milk by the fireplace, and I'd go to bed dreaming about what Santa was going to bring me! It wasn't until I was 7 that I found out the truth about who ate those brownies and where my gifts came from. I was devastated, but I had to keep up the charade for my little brother, who was still a believer.

It's never fun to grow up and lose faith, but it happens to all of us. So ladies, do tell: How old were you when you found out Santa wasn't real?

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You Asked: Where Should I Go to the Bathroom?

DearSugar — Fri, 23 Nov 2007 06:00:00 PST

Dear Sugar,

I have been dating my boyfriend for about six months already, and for those six months, he has basically been homeless. No, no like he's not a bum, but he lives with his single dad in their garage while their house is being constructed.

His dad has gone to great lengths to build the garage himself with bedrooms in the upper floor so they can get by until the house is complete. My problem is that I am over at my boyfriend's "house" a lot and there is only one bathroom, which is right in front of the living area and the rest of their living space. Normally I have no problem going to the bathroom there and running into his dad and random people that are over, but when we have sex, I simply just want to run to the bathroom in his T-shirt or a towel. Now I am either forced to get fully dressed and clean up, or hold it all in which I know is unhealthy. Sometimes I don't want to go through all the trouble to embarrass myself. What should I do? - I Gotta Go Gretta

To see Dear Sugar's answer

read more Dear I Gotta Go Gretta, You're right, it is imperative to go to the bathroom after having sex in order to prevent UTIs so let's put our heads together and make this garage living work for you. First of all, do you and your boyfriend have to sleep at his house every night? Can you sleep at your place instead or at least alternate houses so you aren't with his dad all the time? Since you're living in such close quarters, his father obviously knows you're sleeping there, so why do you feel the need to get completely redressed? Can you keep a bathrobe on the back of his door, or could you throw on a pair of sweatpants and a T-shirt so you're more covered up? All three of you are grown adults so try not to get too hung up on the embarrassment factor - just do your business and return to his room if you're still weirded out. Hopefully this construction won't take too much longer and you can have more personal space with your boyfriend. Good luck, and I hope this helps. Source