Luckily I was the first of my friends to get engaged

envious of every single one -- LOL!
But definitely happy for them if they were marrying nice, upstanding guys. A few were a bit sketchy, but I was pleased with the rest.

I've felt green when everyone around me has gotten engaged except for me ... I'm at the point where the jealousy makes being in a relationship not even worth it anymore if I'm going to end up not engaged the way I want to be.

It hasn't happened yet but I am definitely at the point in my life where I would be jealous.

yes. & friends of mine were even getting married & having kids before he finally popped the question(we had been together longer than many of those relationships). & each of those events were difficult. but it's all good now.

I was the first of most of my friends to get married, with an actual ceremony. Most of them just went to the courthouse, and umm...most of the those engagements and weddings are no longer.

Nope!

Yes. Not at the fact that my friend got engaged but the fact that out of a group of 7 of us I am the ONLY one who isn't in a relationship. They are all either engaged, just bought a house w/ their significant other, or are already married.

No, but that's because I'm not focused on getting married. I'm sure if I was I would feel a twinge.

No, I'm not really the jealous type.

always envious, but also always completely happy for them!

Yep! It's hard to watch people go through milestones ahead of your own relationship. Man, writing that out makes it sound so silly, but sometimes you just can't help it.

I'm just jealous for a few of the friends. The rest of them seemed to have settled with just about any guy so there is no jealousy there. Seeing the bad coupling, I'm just glad that I'm going at my own pace.

yep, but only because i tend to only date guys who hate me. haha. i always date the ones that never express their feelings toward me. i've been in a relationship that lasted a year and one that lasted for two years, and neither guy ever loved me so that's why i'm jealous. cuz my friends date guys who actually want to be with them. not sure about the whole marriage thing, so that's why i'm not overly jealous.

well, snarky, at least you're aware of your type - hopefully you can change that soon.

haha i sure do know how to pick 'em!

my friends used to say "weddings are kryptonite for unmarried couples"

A lot fo my friends got married really early like 19 or 20 and I remember feeling a little out of the loop but not jealous. When I finally got engaged I had one friend that was jealous and it was weird. she kept trying to make it seem like things were moving faster in her relationship she even said she was going to get married the year before me (we had a longer engagement) and the guy she was datinig was in jail.

Guilty. My boyfriend and I have been together longer than a number of our other friends who have gotten engaged/married (14 couples in the last 18 months!), and it's hard for me to handle at times. I'm know that we have different priorities than most of them (we are both getting through grad school before we get married, whereas some of them chose to get married right after college), but it's still hard to feel like they have it all together and are "more legit" to others than we are (this is especially a problem with his extended family that, after 5 years, still don't bother to remember my name because they don't think a significant other "counts" until after the wedding), despite us being together longer.

Nah, too many of them have settled for douchebags just so they can say they're married.

ha, good point bluestar. If I am going to fess up to any type of friendly jealousy...I'm more jealous of others who have cool/awesome careers. One of my friends was the online editor/content manager for the Yahoo! travel section. Jealous? MUCH!

Yes, every single last one of them.
Urgh.

Not any of my friends, but I was insanely jealous when my little sis got engaged and I was still single. What made it worse was that whenever I pissed off my mom during that time period, she always said to me "No wonder no one wants to marry you; you're such a b*tch!". Yeah, thanks for that, Mom. I actually met my future husband while my sis was engaged and I had to help a lot with the planning...I thought I'd scare him off because I was talking about wedding stuff all the time, LOL! Then we got engaged and I ended up getting married almost exactly a year after my sis did.

Not really, no. If I wanted to be married by now I would be so I guess it doesn't inspire any negative emotion in me when others get engaged.

Yup because in my neck of the woods/with my family you're either engaged by 21 or you're worthless. Also I'm turning 23 and never been on a date let alone been proposed to....fml I'm always happy after the envy goes away though.

Initially, yes. A bunch of people got engaged recently (past 6 months) and it was a little annoying. Especially since some of them hadn't been together as long. But, after the initial jealousy wore off I realize again that I am not ready to get married right now, even though I know I will get married to my boyfriend sometime in the semi-near future, we are happy with what we are for the time being.

one of my old roommates just got engaged [wouldn't necessarily call her my friend anymore, not sure if me and the boy will be invited to the wedding]... and im not jealous per sé, but it does get me thinking.

being an event/party/wedding planner, that's actually a good thing to be thinking about though lol.

I've never felt jealousy, but I have been wistful that they have found their Mr. Right when I was only finding Mr. Wrongs.

Yes! My best friend and I started dating our boyfriends the same week. Now she's engaged and I'm not, at first i was jealous but it didn't last long.

Yes jealous at first but now I am over it, not point in being jealous won't change anything.

yepp! im at the age when everyone is graduating college and getting engaged. my bf and i have been together for 5 years, while everyone else i know have been dating for less than 2 years and already engaged. I'm not really jealous, but it just makes me wonder if its ever going to happen! i know a bunch of them are marrying guys who are in the military, and I know their fiance's get more money and better housing when they are married, compared to when they are not. i don't want to rush my bf into doing something when he's not ready, but it just gets frustrating i guess :-/

Not at all... I would be if I didn't have a boyfriend, but I really like where I'm at right now with my guy. And I really like having my own place, LOL. I either feel really happy or sorry for the couple. The ones I feel sorry for are the ones where I know a bit of dirt on the relationship... too dirty of a relationship to be getting married.

Nah, people might think so since I've been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs and no ring but a lot of them want families and stuff "now" and I am not there at all. Well that and the fact that their boyfriend/fiance's aren't my type at all so why would I be jealous?! Not so much...

Spectra my younger sis just did but I'mnot envious of her at all with all the family drama that is going on by the guy she is marrying...

TOTALLY! But not in a creepy way. I'm always happy for them too, those lucky b**ches

No. I am always happy when good things happen for my friends. I might pout a bit when I'm alone, though!

No, but in another 5 years, probably. I'm still in college so I'm not in any rush!

I have been jealous a few times. But I have a great boyfriend and I always have to remind myself that doing whatever I want and making independent choices is a luxury that you don't necessarily have when you are married. I'm trying to live in the moment, after all, what's the rush?

I get jealous sometimes, marriage is something I've always wanted. From the outside looking in is seems like others have is so good, marriage, houses, some even kids. I think back to the guys I could have married and wow am I glad that I'm still unmarried. I've been dating a wonderful guy for almost a year now, and I'm ready when he is, but I try really try hard not to put any pressure on him... Having said that it's important for the the guy to know that marriage is something you want (if you want it) and that you won't wait forever either...

of course! Especially when they haven't been with their partner as long as me and mine. But also happy for them. It just pushes in your head "when's it going to happen for me??"But i know im still young and me and my bf have talked about it.

My little sister is getting married this weekend and I'm soo jealous! Her and her bf have been together for 4 years, have broken up, gotten back together etc. He's changed his ways and he makes her really really happy. They are a great couple. I've been dating my guy for 2 years and have known him for much longer... We are very happy, talk about marriage and kids but it's just not happening yet. It is HARD to be the older sister, be in a happy relationship but not be the one that's walking down the aisle first.

It's taken over every aspect of my families life and I just wish it was me. Just plain ole' jealousy! I heard a great idea somewhere, fake it till you make it which Im going to use here. I really am happy for her and her man, I just wish that I was starting a family with my bf.