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Dear Poll: Does PDA Make You Uncomfortable?

DearSugar — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Even if you think PDA is a good idea, there's a time and a place for it. When you're the touchy-feely couple in question, chances are you're too smitten to even notice, but you could indeed be offending those around you. I, for one, am totally OK with witnessing a couple embrace or share a passionate kiss, but anything beyond that just makes me uncomfortable; like I shouldn't be looking! Sure, I could just turn away, but sometimes there's no where to run! I have a feeling we've all been there so how do you feel about PDA? Are you usually guilty of this crime, or does it make you feel awkward, too?

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Hug It Out: Top 20 Embraces From the Presidential Campaign

CitizenSugar — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 03:02:43 -0800

The 2008 Presidential campaign is over, and while it wasn't all champagne kisses and caviar dreams, there were some pretty phenomenal embraces from the candidates and their families and friends. Some squeezes showed honest and sweet support, while others seemed to be manufactured for the camera. Here's a look back at the best of the best.

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Très Bizarre: Famillies Dressed in Naked Suits

TresSugar — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 11:45:00 -0700

Thanks to the website Awkward Family Photos, we all know how uncomfortable family portraits can be. But some families are willing to really embrace the awkward nature of a family photo by dressing up in hand-knit naked suits for the occasion.

San Francisco's public television channel recently caught up with artist Anna Maltz, the woman who makes the head-to-toe suits and then takes photos of people wearing them. (I wonder if she also made the suit Sacha Baron Cohen wore at the Berlin premiere of Bruno?)

Anna explains that she got her inspiration from original naked people Adam and Eve. The only downside to wearing the suit? Curious people often feel free to squeeze what they believe to be fake breasts, when they're actually squeezing the real breasts that lie beneath the suits! Would ever try one on for size?

Meet Matchmaker Amy Andersen, Part II

TresSugar — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 09:10:00 -0700

Yesterday I shared part one of my interview with Amy Andersen, a high-end matchmaker who works with 800 successful singles. Amy tries to bring together young professionals who are interested in finding like-minded, quality matches - all for a price, of course; specifically, her rate is $6,000 for eight matches. In today's installment, Amy talks about modern dating and traditional gender roles.

Is traditional dating on the way to becoming obsolete thanks to the more casual hookup?

Amy Andersen: I think the causal hookup is fine when you are in your early to mid-20s, but for anyone who has chosen a career path that is more rooted in academia and a solid professional track, they crave dating through a more traditional and old world experience.

To be honest, tons of women get sick of guys who are forgetful or, frankly, who have become terribly spoiled and too lazy to show their dates what it means to be a gentleman. My clients are absolutely relieved to hear that this network adheres to a very old world approach, one with manners and chivalry. For the men, this means opening doors, being complimentary to their dates, not expecting that they will come upstairs for a quickie at the end of the night, instead looking forward to a kiss on the cheek. For our female clients, this means allowing oneself to embrace their femininity, take a deep breath, relax, allow the man to "be the man" and the woman to "be a woman."

To find out if all of Amy's clients are into this approach, and to see what exactly Amy means by "being a woman," read more.

Are all your clients into this approach?

AA: We find that it is a common misconception that a woman who is high-powered, extremely well educated, and attractive cannot accentuate her femininity on a date or in life without undermining her business acumen and strengths. Instead both can balance one another and be complementary, not the opposite. Another great reason why it is so fabulous to be a woman!

What does it mean exactly for a man to be a man?

AA: For a man to be a man, it means taking the lead when dating. It means allowing him to be a gentleman and not "castrating" him because he is trying to be chivalrous. It means allowing him to open the doors, walk on the outside of the street, to suggest a wine he likes at dinner that he thinks his date will like, to let him feel special on the date. Men want to feel useful and that they will be a provider for their ultimate mate, so sometimes when women are so used to be overly independent, men will wonder, "Where do I fit into this picture?"

And what does it mean for a woman to be a woman?

AA: Although she might be in control in every aspect of her life, it means being gracious, ladylike, exuding her femininity, and not taking the reins on the date as she might be used to in her work life. It means talking about things other than work, it means flirting, being silly at times, and not being so serious. It means putting on a skirt or dress, wearing a little lip gloss, and being thankful for being a woman. I’m not suggesting that a woman should be submissive or not use her mind; it is quite the opposite. Our guys in Linx crave cerebral and opinionated women, but she should let her date feel that he is worthy and attractive.

What do you make of Amy's thoughts on gender roles? Stay tuned to find out what Amy has to say about her female clients and the best way to meet a guy.

Single Ladies: Happies vs. Crappies

TresSugar — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 11:00:00 -0700

There's nothing wrong with being single, so why not embrace it? Just be careful about how you embrace it, argues Wendy Atterberry in a column titled Do Some Single Women Need to Shut Up?

After reading Lea Lane's inspired Huffington Post piece entitled Why I'm Alone, Atterberry applauds a single woman who relishes her independence. A widow and the founder of SoloLady.com, Lane says that she's not aggressively pursuing a mate because she likes being able to call her own shots and she appreciates solitude but also because "life doesn't always wind up the way you expect it to, and you roll with it."

Lane is what Atterberry dubs a "happy" - a woman who is happy being alone but not militantly antirelationship. On the flip side are the "crappies," women who are off-putting in their lack of compromise and self-righteous singlehood. Let's discuss this, shall we?

Come on Get Happy! Optimistic Women Live Longer

TresSugar — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 15:00:00 -0700

Learned Optimism is one of the best books I've read in a while. Psychologist Martin Seligman explores how optimists - those who believe that life's setbacks are only temporary - can avoid depression, improve their health, and enjoy an overall better quality of life.

Now a new scientific study, which shows that optimistic women have a lower risk of heart disease and death, supports Seligman's argument. Taking risk factors into account, the study concluded that an optimistic attitude alone can significantly lower the risk of dying of heart disease. The research suggests that optimistic women are better at dealing with adversity and are more likely to take care of themselves when they get ill.

One of the most important lessons I took away from Seligman's book is that we can escape pessimism and, you guessed it, learn optimism. So it's never to late to embrace the idea that there's always something better around the corner. Doing so might just help you live longer!

Say What? Ryan O'Neal's Flirting Knows No Limits

TresSugar — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 09:34:06 -0700

"I had just put the casket in the hearse and I was watching it drive away when a beautiful blonde woman comes up and embraces me. I said to her, ‘You have a drink on you? You have a car?’ She said, 'Daddy, it's me - Tatum!' I was just trying to be funny with a strange Swedish woman, and it's my daughter. It's so sick."

"Ladies' man" Ryan O'Neal admits in a cover story for September's Vanity Fair that he mistakenly hit on his own daughter, Tatum O'Neal, at Farrah Fawcett's funeral. Vanity Fair is releasing two different covers for September - one featuring Farrah Fawcett and another for Michael Jackson.

Oh Snap! A Hero's Welcome

TresSugar — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:00:00 -0700

Sailor Nick Mannor embraces his wife Jenny after the USS Eisenhower arrived in Norfolk, VA, yesterday. The aircraft carrier and its 6,000 sailors have been conducting maritime security for the US military operation in Afghanistan and just returned home after a five-month deployment.

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Friday Feel Good: Amma the Hugging Saint Goes to NYC

TresSugar — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:30:00 -0700

Would you wait in line for a hug? Jaded New Yorkers did from Tuesday through yesterday - just to get an embrace from an Indian woman dubbed the Hugging Saint. (She probably hugged 20,000 New Yorkers by the end of it all.) Amma Amritanandamayi, 54, has been dispensing hugs for about 30 years in her travels around the world, and it's estimated that the "Hugging Saint" has given around 27 million hugs.

What's so special about her hugs? One person says it's not an ordinary hug. Another says it helps clear her mind. "Everyone comes to her," says a 38-year-old acupuncturist, "because they're in some kind of pain - cancer, love, family, kids. They want something from her. Sometimes they get it, sometimes they don't."

Although Amma says she's not a faith healer, one couple says it was only after Amma hugged them that they were finally able to conceive. Amma, who began spontaneously hugging people around the age of 8 or 9, told the Daily News through a translator, "The purest form of love can change people and that's what I'm trying to do." (The video above shows Amma embracing New Yorkers last year during her visit.)

Microsoft Interns Embrace Their Dorkiness

GiggleSugar — Mon, 21 May 2007 10:56:46 -0700

Five Microsoft interns got together to say "Bye, Bye, Bye" before leaving the company. Their choreography was certainly 'N SYNC, but someone failed to tell them that the song is so seven years ago. Something tells me they know this...