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Do Tell: Would You Elope?

DearSugar — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 11:00:00 -0800

It's no secret that Heidi and Spencer eloped in Mexico, but after watching how it all came to fruition last night on The Hills, I couldn't help but feel badly for Heidi - was it just me or did she look incredibly sad the morning after her big day? Her family was clearly part of the reason why Spencer whisked her away, but it seemed as though she was disappointed that her family wasn't there to support her, let alone offer their blessing. While marriage is a personal commitment between husband and wife, do tell, would you ever elope on a whim like Heidi and Spencer did?

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Would You Get Married Like This?

DearSugar — Wed, 21 May 2008 08:50:01 -0700

Yesterday Jessica Alba's rep confirmed that she and Cash Warren tired the knot in a Beverly Hills court house Monday morning. According to a source close to the couple, no one else attended their civil ceremony and after reading that, I couldn't help but think that was a little sad. Though I know getting married quietly and privately was their choice, I've always viewed marriage as a joyous occasion that's meant to be shared with loved ones, no matter how large or small of an event. I guess I'm still stuck on the fairy tale wedding that every little girl dreams about, but what about you? Would you want to get married alone in a similar way as Jess and Cash?

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Dear Poll: Would you Rather Elope or Go All Out?

DearSugar — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

Just this weekend, another celebrity couple pulled the wool over our eyes by secretly tying the knot. While it seems like the ultimate goal is to have a private, intimate ceremony, these stars have to struggle and plan mercifully to achieve that goal. On the flip side, us non-celebrities seem to crave that wedding day attention and plan for months on end to make sure everything is perfect.

Every bride is different, so what I want to know is, would you rather elope and keep your wedding day between just you and your hubby or would you rather go all out and make it the bash of the century, a wedding that no one will ever forget?

Group Therapy : My friend just eloped.....

Mon, 16 Apr 2007 03:00:00 -0700

My friend just eloped in Vegas without telling ANYONE.. not even her parents. She just broke off an engagement with a different man less that a year ago, and ran off with her now husband after only knowing each other 6 weeks.

I am obviously worried for her, she barely even knows this guy and comes from a lot of family money, but is it too late to say something? She is a good friend of mine, and I know she will act defensive if I voice my concerns, so is it best if I just keep my mouth shut since the damage is already done??

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Do Tell: What's Your Ideal Engagement Length?

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 13:30:00 -0700

There are no rules when it comes to getting married - some couples elope, some have quickie engagements, and others revel in engagement bliss and take their time before walking down the isle. Different things work for different couples, but I'm curious to know what your ideal engagement length would be, so do tell!

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You Asked: To Marry or Not to Marry?

DearSugar — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 06:00:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

I’m 22 years old and my boyfriend is 27. We've been dating for a year and a half and we want to get married next year. I know some people might think that for us to get married after only two years together is stupid and too soon, but the thing is, we can’t live without each other. The whole weekend - date thing is not enough time anymore for us, we want to be together every second of everyday. We don’t have any kind of problems with trust, cheating, or communication. He is really responsible, mature and family-oriented. Our only concern right now is that we don’t know what to do about the wedding. Moving in together is not what we want first because our families are very religious and it’s not really my thing either. He really wants me to be his wife and I really want him to be my husband.

However, right now we don’t have the amount of money needed to spend on a decent wedding. I have thought about eloping, but I have always dreamed of a big wedding. We have also thought about getting a small loan, but then I would just feel guilty about how we spent the money. We might be able to have that kind of money in a few years but we don’t want to wait any longer. My parents and his parents can’t really help much financially so DearSugar, please help me out, I need some input from some other people besides my family and friends because they have me so confused. - I Already Do Dana

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Dear I Already Do Dana -

It sounds like you and your boyfriend have already made up your minds about wanting to get married, so don't listen to what other people say. Some couples elope and get married the same weekend they met, and stay married forever, and then others wait until they know each other inside and out but still get divorced 35 years later. There is no magical potion to make a union work, you just need to follow your heart and take a chance.

Weddings do cost a lot of money, you're right about that, so you have to make a decision here. Is the wedding day itself more important to you than the marriage itself or is not waiting any longer what really matters to you? Once you answer that question, you will know what to do.

If you choose to quietly get married, say in city hall, you can always wait to have your reception when you feel more financially secure. If you already know that taking out a loan in order to have your dream wedding will make you feel guilty, don't do it. If you're worried about how you're going to pay back the money, you won't enjoy your wedding.

I think the best thing to do is to sit down with your boyfriend, talk about what's important to each of you, write out a pro and con list, and go from there. Good luck to you in whatever you choose.

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Top 10 Things You Don't Know About John McCain

CitizenSugar — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 12:15:45 -0700

With all this wall-to-wall Dem coverage, what with the convention and Biden and all, I needed a little palate cleanser - a little sorbet for the conservative soul, if you will. I found this juicy list of answers to all of your McCain mysteries. Here are the top 10 things I didn't know about him - hamsters, fried turkeys, and all:

He's a thespian! He played the part of Scrooge in the POWs' staging of A Christmas Carol while being held in Hanoi.
Email or no, he stays in touch. He chats with the men he shared a cell with in Vietnam almost daily.
Scandalous! His parents "eloped" to Tijuana, Mexico - though McCain's grandfather accompanied them.

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He's a drill sergeant on vacation. He's a wall-to-wall planner. His children call it "Camp McCain."
I believe this is probably one of those "Everybody Was Kung-Fu Fighting" deals- apparently he has a stuffed dancing hamster on display in his Senate office.

To see the rest, from what's he's reading to his grandkids (!), read more.

Not on the Oprah Book Club (that I know of) but his favorite book is For Whom the Bell Tolls by Ernest Hemingway.
Penny for his thoughts - he carries a lucky penny in his pocket.
All in the family: McCain has seven kids. Two he adopted from his first wife's previous marriage, one born to him and his first wife, three born to him and his second wife, and the one they adopted from Mother Teresa's orphanage in Bangladesh. This surprised me: He also has four grandchildren.
A true extrovert, he doesn't like to be alone.
Not particularly healthy fare, but he likes to deep fry turkeys in peanut oil. Gobblers in Goobers. Come on. That's a good one.

What do you think? Any shockers? Any explanation for the dancing hamster?

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Come Story Telling with me!!! The Completed Story

DearSugar — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 10:00:00 -0700

I hope you all enjoyed this new feature as much as I did! Your wild imaginations made for a great story line! To read the completed tale you all helped create, read more

As I slammed down the phone I could feel my face flush with pure anger I can't believe she had the nerve to set her wedding date on the same day as mine! If I had the nerve I would've knocked her out! I could feel the tears coming so I took a few deep breaths and said my social security number backwards. I had to focus on work right now. So I turned to my computer, opened my e-mail, and saw a message from my boss. She said, "I know that this is short notice, but I need to see you in my office ASAP. There are several things that we need to discuss."

I grabbed my yellow legal pad and blue pen, and went in to her office. Why was I sweating profusely all of a sudden? "Please close the door," she said. I sat down in the chair across from her desk. What I wouldn't give for this view, I thought. "What's up?" I said casually?

"Emily," my boss said looking me straight in the eyes, "you have been doing such an amazing job lately that we have decided to give you a promotion! Congratulations!" "Really?" I said, "That's great, but, uh, isn't that job stationed in London?" "yes," my boss said "is that a problem?" "Of course not. It's amazing. Thank you." Emily said but what she was really thinking was, "A destination wedding in London will top them all, especially hers."

I went on the Evite website and did a mass invite to my wedding explaining that I would be sending the real invitations later. Perhaps if I got mine out before her more people would go to mine. In the midst of my anger, I even sent one out to her. The next day I got a call from her. "Hi Emily," she said, with so much fake sweetness it could give you diabetes. "Just got your evite, sweetie. 'Course I can't come, you know... Jared and I are so busy with wedding planning and all that. Can't wait till our honeymoon in Milan... Jarad rented out an entire villa! Did he ever take you to a villa, Emily, hmm?" Emily cringed, thinking back to the days of her and Jarad's tumultuous relationship if she only knew what we did before they got engaged. I wish I could just rub it in her face how he thinks I am a better lover than she is. The ignited passion between us that stemmed from the mutual contempt we had towards each other. I guess what they say is true: there's a thin line between love and hate. "Haha, no he never took me to a villa, but we had a most amazingly hot weekend together in Paris, Dans le Ritz" I said, using my most excellent french accent. "In fact, it was him not me who ended up begging for more. Anyways, Matt is a much more generous lover and our wedding is taking place in London..."

I tried not to smile but it was all too true. I could hear her breathing, she was angry. I could tell things were going to get competitive and ugly. It was going to be a battle of the weddings. I was almost ashamed of myself for being this determined to make my wedding better! Besides, she had no idea that I had already hired her sister, who was a personal trainer, to help me look and feel amazing on my wedding day. Which reminds me, I have to go meet her soon to discuss my pre-wedding workout program plan. "Listen hun, I actually have to run. Gotta look super skinny for the wedding," she said. "Yeah you could lose a pound or two or ten," I said as b*tchy as I could before she hung up. I then began thinking to myself about the weight I have been gaining lately. I have been trying to lose weight, and unable to. I have already cancelled four of my morning classes due to feeling sick. Wait could I...no...I can't be pregnant can I? I better not be! I can't have my fabulous London wedding looking like a blimp! Amanda would surely love to see my wedding fail and all the rumors she'll spread! Oh dear god. hopefully it's just pre-wedding weight due to the stress of planning this.

I can't handle the fact that my future mother-in-law is wanting me to wear her old wedding dress! It's the most hideous dress ever and probably won't even fit me since his mother is larger. What am I going to do I thought to myself. Problems are already arising out of nowhere. I took a breath, laid down on my bed, and completely passed out! I awoke to the intoxicating smell of my fiancee cooking dinner. I couldn't shake the dream I just had, well, if you could call it a dream, more like a sleep panic attack. Flashes of me, in a hideous wedding gown, half of my guests not showing because London is crazy far, and my 'friend' laughing her holier than thou ass off at my misguided attempt at being 'better'. I got up and tipped toed over to the kitchen. I wanted to catch of glimpse of my fiance cooking without him knowing I was watching. I couldn't control my laughter as I saw him dancing around the kitchen to a popular Michael Jackson song. It was in that moment that everything came together -- he is definitely the love of my life. How could I ever doubt that he was the one for me. When he proposed I took a week to give him an answer. He proposed over cell phone while he was on tour. I didn't think he was serious at first. I told him I need a ring and a bended knee and he had the nerve to say I wasn't special enough! Luckily he was joking. God, how amazing will our life be together? After he noticed I was watching he laughed and motioned for me to sit at the table.

After eating, I told him about London. He was ecstatic! But I had to make sure of one thing: I wasn't pregnant. I told my love I was going out to Walgreen's and would be right back. I didn't want to alarm him. When I got back, before I could get the door fully shut I dashed into the bathroom. After 15 minutes of waiting the test read... Pregnant. OMG I AM PREGNANT. Well, maybe now by the time of the wedding, I will have to wear my mother-in-laws dress after all. I decided to tell Matt right then and there. I stormed out of the bathroom and up to Matt.

"What's wrong luv?" "I'm pregnant." He looked at me and just stared. Literally, just stared! I don't think he even blinked!!! "Well?" I asked. Then Matt said,"Well if its a girl I've always been partial to the name Chauntelle, and if it's a boy Liam." I couldn't believe it!!! "What about your band?" I asked. "I can be a rock star Dad." Matt then dashed off to write a song about the baby. I couldn't believe it! A man not freaking out over becoming a Dad so young? He came out of his studio room an hour later. He had wrote a song called Baby Wedding. I screamed out of frustration. This can't be right, those stupid sticks always can make mistakes so I'll just go to the doctor! I told Matt, and grabbed the car keys.

I rushed to the doctors and took the test and awaited my results. As I flipped through a magazine, well none other then Amanda walks in, pale as a ghost! She didn't see me, and made her way to the desk, where the secretary whispered. "Oh my God, is she pregnant too?" I thought to myself. "NOOOO" Emily screamed. "I can't be pregnant, I'm a bride to be!!" She glanced over and saw me staring. I was trying not to laugh. Then my results were in... "Negative"

YESSSSSSSS!!! Amanda's jaw dropped and I left her like that.

Fast Forward 7 months later.

The weddings of Emily and Amanda was next week. After Emily's pregnancy scare and Amanda's miscarriage, they realized it they are so alike and they should have a joint wedding. Everyone was looking forward to it, however no one expected cousin Billy Bob to show up with his new male partner. Who knew that he was gay???

Emily glanced up and down the hallway of the chapel and pulled her head back into the dressing room. Why had she agreed to wear matching dresses? That was a seriously emotional decision. Regrettably, she puffed the skirt as she stared in the mirror she was sharing with Amanda. Thankfully they had at least opted for separate hairstyles. Emily's was red and pulled up half way and had a feeling of summer about it, while Amanda had her blond hair pulled into a chic chignon. They looked at each other and opened their mouths to speak. Embarrassed, Emily conceded, "You first" "It looks better on you," Emily snorted, suddenly bursting into tears while pulling a bottle of mace from her Lulu Guinness pink leather purse. Amanda screamed and ran behind the mirror. Peeking out she saw Emily poised and ready to attack. "Are you serious? I mean are you actually seriously pointing MACE at me?" She barked. "No," Amanda replied cooly "I'm just...going to... I can't do this! i can't marry Jared! I am in love with Matt, yes, YOUR Matt, he belongs to me!" "He does not! He's mine!" Emily grabbed at Amanda's perfect chignon and yanked it out. "I knew I couldn't trust you!" She gave her a hard shove then another one until she was backed up against a wall. " I knew I couldn't trust you the moment I met you when you..." *BAM!* a loud noise was heard outside their dressing room's door. Amanda and Emily stopped what they were doing and stared at each other in shock.

Jared and Mat walked into the room, Matt grabbed Emily and said, let's get the hell out of here, your friend Emily is a whack job, I have a car waiting outside, we are eloping, I can't wait anymore to be your husband, I love you I love you I love you!

Emily, grinning ear to ear, basically left tracks not even thinking about the fact that she won after all!

My Big Fat Annoying Wedding

Fri, 12 Jan 2007 09:55:41 -0800

Ok so here goes...I recently got engaged. Since then families have been happy, I've been happy, things are great. Then I started to talk about the wedding plans and all hell has broken loose. My culture and religion are very tightly intertwined and my fiance is not the same culture as I am. He has taken steps so we can be married in my church and says he'll do whatever it takes because he wants me to be happy. (I am not a very religious person, I would say I'm more spiritual, so getting married in my church isnt a huge deal to me.) So far it seems that no matter how much we do to make the church and our officiant happy, he keeps coming up with more rules for us to comply with. Most ministers don't do this but ours happens to be very strict and complies with every rule regarless if it's necessary or not. At this point I honestly dont care if we get married in my faith or not. I just want something everyone can enjoy however I feel like since my parents are paying for the wedding I must comply with their every wish. I asked my parents if we could just have a simple Christian wedding and they basically acted like I was denouncing my culture and heritage. I know that nothing will make them happy except having this wedding within my faith and following the rules of my culture but I'm at the point where I HATE talking about my wedding or the plans. This is supposed to be a very happy time in my life and I honestly am hating every minute of it. When I brought this up to my parents it made no difference. I'm at a loss of what to do next. I feel like I have no way out since my fiance and I cant pay for a wedding and even if we did, it still wouldnt be what my parents wanted so they would hate that too. I've thought about just eloping but that would be unacceptable and both families would be mad. Is my only option to just suffer wtih my fiance through all of this and pray its over soon? He's very supportive and is willing to do whatever is necessary so that really helps, but this wedding is turning out to be for my family and not for ME or HIM. What's important is that we're making the committment to each other and that we love each other, not that we're doing it in EXACTLY a certain way, but my family does not share that opinion. I'm so tightly involved in this that maybe I dont see any other options. Does anyone have any advice or see an alternative way to deal with this? Any suggestions would be very much appreciated. The happiest time of my life is turning into something I completely detest and that makes me really sad that I cant enjoy getting married.