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Do Tell: What's Your Dream Date Night?

TresSugar — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 12:00:00 -0700

Couples who have been together for a while might find themselves penciling in a regular "date night." Eating at a favorite restaurant or heading to the nearby movie theater are usual favorites for those who try to carve out couple-time from their busy schedules.

A recent study based on brain science revealed that keeping a dating schedule might not be enough to stop a slow decline in romantic love. Couples need to do new things together. Using date night to take a cooking class, dine at a new restaurant, or see a special performance that's come to town, might be the perfect way to bring back butterflies!

Would you rather try something new, or have you found the perfect romance routine? What does your dream date night look like?

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Do Tell: Do You Have a Valentine's Day Tradition?

DearSugar — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 10:00:00 -0800

Valentine's Day is quickly approaching, so I'm sure most of you are getting your plans in order as we speak. Getting a reservation or coming up with a unique way to celebrate with your loved one can be stressful, which is why so many couples come up with a Valentine's tradition to rely on. My parents have been doing the same thing for years now - it gives them something to look forward to - but what about you? Do you and your significant other have a Valentine's Day tradition? If so, tell us about it!

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Top 10 Date Movies

DearSugar — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 07:00:00 -0700

One of my favorite ways to get to know someone is to invite them over for a movie night. It's so much better than going to the theater because you can snuggle up together on the couch, pause it whenever you want to chat, and you'll have a little privacy in case you start to get along very well (if you know what I mean)! I'm a huge fan of romantic comedies because they always make me feel good at the end and allow me to see if the guy I'm with has a sensitive side, too. If you need some movie suggestions for your next movie date night, here are AskMen.com's Top 10 picks :

10. Jerry Maguire (1996)

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9. The Apartment (1960)
8. Belle Epoque (1992)
7. About a Boy (2002)
6. Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005)
5. Say Anything (1989)
4. Intolerable Cruelty (2003)
3. The Wedding Singer (1998)
2. Bull Durham (1988)
1. Hitch (2005)

If these aren't top on your list, what would you recommend as a great date movie? Share your picks in the comment section below.

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Dear Poll: What Day of the Week Is Your Favorite Night to Date?

DearSugar — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:00:00 -0700

I feel like the Friday and Saturday night dates are a thing of the past. The weeknights are now when people are cozzied up at the dinner table or grabbing a movie with their crush. Samantha from Sex and the City said it best when she made reference to the weekends being the time for meeting eligible bachelors. not going on dates! I'm not picky about what day of the week I date on, although Sunday nights are a bit tough, so ladies, tell me, what's your favorite night of the week to go on a date?

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Keep the Magic Alive With Date Night

DearSugar — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 11:00:00 -0700

When you've been with the same person for a while, things are taken to a whole other level. Things can go from spicy and exhilarating to comfy and uneventful. Guys are probably fine with no longer having to go out of their way to impress you, but women get sad that things aren't as special anymore.

If you're feeling like things are boring or dull, you've got to try harder to make your relationship exciting again. It's time to introduce "Date Night." Both of you can agree on one night a week where you go out to dinner or order in, rent a movie, go to a show, play a board game, take a bath together, go for a long walk, make love for hours - or whatever you guys want to do.

The only rule is that you both have to commit to devoting this one day to one another, no making excuses. "Date Night" is a great way to guarantee some special time together and it gives you something to look forward to each week!

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How Would You Feel?

TresSugar — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:00:04 -0800

This post comes from Group Therapy in our TrèsSugar Community. Feel free to add your advice in the comments!

I'm 20 years old and have been dating this guy for four years. Last night, I was using his computer and I saw that he searched for plus size lingerie. My feelings were instantly hurt. I felt so fat! I think that my boyfriend should not make me feel like that! He has never called me fat or anything, but just the fact that he looked at plus size lingerie says that he thinks it! If I ask him if he thinks I'm fat or anything he, of course, denies it. He says that if he thought I was ugly he wouldn't be with me. So, what now? Am I just overreacting? I am so hurt!

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Gender Roles - Love 'Em Or Leave 'Em?

OnSugar Blog — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:10:00 -0800

Here's a poll from OnSugar blog Rantings of a Single Girl.

Let's go back to the 1940s for a minute. My grandmother was married, raised a kid, ran a farm, taught school, and kept a clean house. All while my grandfather was away at war. After my grandfather came back from the war and had recovered from his wounds, they went back into their traditional roles. He ran the farm and did all the "manly" things. My grandmother raised my aunt, taught school, and still had dinner on the table by 5:30 PM every night. All while pregnant with my dad.

I'm exhausted just talking about it.

I bring all this up because I've been thinking about gender roles lately. I look at my parents. Granted, my dad still does majority of the "manly'" things around the house and my mom does the household things, neither one is afraid to help out the other. My dad does housework. My mom can swing a hammer when needed.

And that's what I like.

I'll never be able to date a guy who believes in traditional gender roles. As much as I like cooking and being in the kitchen, I don't like being expected to be there. If we have kids, I'm not going to be the one who raises them. I certainly expect their father to help out. At the same time, I don't expect him the only one who takes out the trash or fixes things when they break. I think 50/50 is a good blend.

So could you be with someone who firmly believes in traditional gender roles? Or would you rather share the load?

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You Asked: One Night Stand

DearSugar — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I recently had a one night stand for the first time. I met him while interviewing roommates for my new apartment. It didn't work out as roomies, but he invited me to a friend's party a few weeks after our initial meeting. I showed up and we drank quite a bit. We started to make out heavily and before I knew it, we were back at my place having sex. This was totally out of character for me and I was mortified the next day. Much to my surprise, he ended up calling me a few days later asking me out to dinner. I went, but it was a bit awkward. The conversation was very one-sided (I asked questions and he talked about himself) and he seemed a little on the nervous side, though we went back at his place and made out again - this time no sex.

I can't help but feel a bit off about all of this. I have a feeling he was just trying to seem like a "nice guy," all the while trying to get some. I just got out of a really stupid relationship with a guy who I thought was my boyfriend but in the end, he just wanted regular sex, so I'm a little defensive when it comes to dating. While I admit that it was kind of my fault that I had the one night stand to begin with, how do I not paint that picture of myself even though that might be the picture he's seeing? I want something real, is that too much to ask? - Embarrassed Emily

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Dear Embarrassed Emily,

Having a one night stand doesn't make you a bad person so try not to beat yourself up about it. While it may be out of character for you, take it as a lesson learned. I understand being guarded after a breakup, but look at your situation from an outsider - this guy called you and took you on a proper date! Before assuming the worst, perhaps you should see if there's any potential here. Sure, he could just be going through the motions, but if he wasn't interested, chances are he would have just never called again.

Asking for the entire package isn't too much to ask and you shouldn't settle, so if this guy doesn't give you butterflies, someone else will; you just have to be patient. But Emily, if you're just telling yourself that he's not interested as a way to protect yourself, realize that you're not going to get very far with walls up. Gaining trust back after a breakup takes time so hang in there and try not to be so hard on yourself. You never know, this guy could end up surprising you!

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Say What? Recession or No, Women Love Their Sex Toys!

TresSugar — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 14:00:00 -0800

"[Y]eah, money's tight. If people are going to spend their dollars, they want to know it's a good product. People are staying home more, so we've directed more marketing efforts toward cheap date nights - for the price of a movie and dinner, buy a vibrator, stay home and have fun."

- Good Vibrations rep Jackie Strano, responding to a question about what the sex business is like during the recession. Good Vibrations is a popular woman-friendly adult sex toy store in San Francisco, CA.

Photo by Alejandro Martínez-Cabrera

Flashback: Young Steve Martin Wins The Dating Game

TresSugar — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 06:00:00 -0700

I caught the end of Shopgirl the other night and watched it with one eye open, preparing to wince while old Steve Martin hits on 20-something Claire Danes. But in 1968, the brown-haired and side-burned Martin wasn't only a college student, he was best known as bachelor #2 on The Dating Game.