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Relationship Protocol: Who Has the Stronger Sex Drive?

DearSugar — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

The desire for sex varies from person to person, and can range anywhere from a constant urge to a complete lack of interest. Essentially there’s no right answer for how often you should or shouldn’t want sex, but if you’re in a relationship, finding a mutual balance will go a long way in creating a harmonious sexual connection. I’m sure you all have your own happy medium, but ladies, in general, how does your sex drive differ from his?

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Where Do You Stand? Flirting When You’re Committed

DearSugar — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Although I would never go so far as to say that flirting is a form of cheating, I don’t believe that flirting is harmless either. When you’re single, flirting is often how a romantic relationship starts; it implies there's a sexual chemistry there. Then again, flirting is fun and a completely natural way for people to interact. So is flirting just inocent fun? Where do you stand when it comes to flirting once you’ve committed to someone else?

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Relationship Protocol: Do You Know What His Number One Fantasy Is?

DearSugar — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 07:00:00 -0700

The great thing about a sexual fantasy is that it can be whatever we want it to be. The problem is that if a fantasy isn't in the realm of reality, it can be hard to act on, which is why many of our wild, crazy, whimsical, or just impossible ideas end up staying in the realm of make believe. And that's OK, but what I want to know is: Do you know what your man's number one fantasy is? And have you ever tried it to make it a reality?

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Dear Poll: Are You Social Butterflies or Home Bodies?

DearSugar — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Isn’t it funny how once we settle into a new relationship, we end up falling into certain patterns. I suppose it’s only natural, but I still find it somewhat remarkable how easy it is to pick up a new routine and how hard it is to break out of one.

One of the most common patterns for couples to develop early on is their social routine. Some couples still paint the town red, socializing with their friends, while others feel best at home with just each other - sure, every once and a while you have to mix it up, but for the most part these categories stand. So ladies, when it comes to your usual relationships, which category do you fall in?

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Would You Buy a House With Your Boyfriend?

DearSugar — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 11:00:00 -0700

Okay, here's the situation. You've been dating this guy for 5 years, and you talk about getting married all the time. You live together. You bought furniture together. You even have a dog together. He spends 4th of July with your family every summer in Vermont. He talks about how many kids you're going to have down the road (he's even picked out names). You know he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but the thing is; he just hasn't popped the question yet. You act like you're married, but the fact still remains that you're not.

The lease on your apartment is running out in 6 months, and he's said, "Why don't we get a house together?" Of course, you've always imagined that you'd have a house with him someday, but would you buy one if you weren't married or even engaged yet? Do you feel that there's a certain order in which you do things - i.e., the house coming after the wedding? What do you think?

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Would You and Your Partner Be Into Swinging?

DearSugar — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 08:30:00 -0700

Are you and your partner a little bored in the bedroom and need to spice things up? Have you ever thought about swinging?

Swinging might not be what you think it is - it's when a married or committed couple engages in any kind of sexual activity with another couple (who's also into swinging), multiple couples, or a single individual (threesome). It could involve kissing, oral sex, or sex while one partner watched their significant other with someone else - or vice versa, or 2 couples completely swapping partners.

You never know - seeing your man with another woman, and letting him see you with another man may be a real turn on. It may even make you appreciate your partner even more.

There is no jealousy involved, only openness in expanding and exploring your own sexual relationship. Swinging couples have been known to say that their sexual experiences with others has strengthened the connection they feel with their partner. They also say it makes their own sex life more exciting and that their overall relationship much stronger.

So what do you think....

Money and Relationships

DearSugar — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 11:18:46 -0700

Meeting someone and becoming a couple is a wonderful feeling. You begin sharing your time together and your love for each other, and as your relationship grows closer, you may move in together, which means sharing expenses.

Sure, it's nice when a guy asks you out on a date and offers to pay for dinner, but when it comes to being in a committed relationship, I'm a firm believer in sharing all the costs. While every couple is different, I don't think one person should be in charge of bringing home the bacon while the other one slacks at home.

So how can you make dealing with money as fair and painless as possible? Here are some tips:

No one said you had to merge all your money. And I hate to say it, but in this day and age, with so much divorce, that's just not a smart idea. But you could open a joint checking or savings accounts to pay for joint expenses such as rent, mortgage, groceries, electricity, etc. If one of you makes more money than the other, you may want to split the bills accordingly. So instead of spitting the bills 50/50, you may split them 60/40. As long as you are in agreement about your plan, that's all that matters
If you decide to go this route, you should use your personal bank account to pay for things that are solely for you like clothes, gym memberships, hair and nail appointments, gifts, etc.

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It's not uncommon for one person be in charge of managing the finances. This person should deal with all of the paperwork, the bills, and the credit cards. (It doesn't have to be the guy. Growing up, this job was always my mother's.)
Decide what days bills are paid, the 1st, the 15th, etc. of every month. Whether one person is dealing with the bills or you're doing it together, this will ensure that it gets done on time and with no late fees.
When it comes to big purchases, like furniture, a pet, or a house, you must consult the other person before making any major decisions. Make sure to communicate openly about your wants and your concerns when it comes to spending large sums of money. This is good for your finances and for your relationship.

These are just a few tips that you may find helpful, but if you have a plan already in place that works for you, stick with it. Money problems can tear relationships apart, so just make sure you two are upfront and equally responsible when it comes to your expenses.

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Friday Feel-Good: Homeless Couple Marries After Nine Years

TresSugar — Fri, 08 May 2009 15:00:00 -0700

If you need your heart warmed before the weekend, get a load of this wedding story. A Washington DC couple, who started dating nine years ago while they were both living on the streets, just got married in a ceremony organized by the parishioners at Grace Episcopal Church.

Both White, 28, and his new bride, Nhiahni Chestnut, 39, attend Bible studies and a meal program at the church. When White mentioned to a fellow churchgoer how much he wished he could afford a wedding, everyone decided to pitch in.

"In good Grace church congregation fashion, everyone got behind the idea: one person managed flowers, I helped with the wedding rings, one woman made the cake, someone helped with the tux, and someone else with the bride's gown," [parishioner Margaret Davis] said.

Another churchgoer paid for a two-night honeymoon stay at the Key Bridge Marriott Hotel across the Potomac River in Virginia.

Until White went to pick out his suit, he had never even seen the inside of a shopping mall, and when the couple met, both were living on the streets. Chestnut said, "I was basically living from day to day, trying to survive, and I wound up meeting him."

Sadly, the couple remains unemployed and homeless, but their love story kinda puts things in perspective, doesn't it?
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Relationship Protocol: Are You a Good Couple to Hang Out With?

DearSugar — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Whether you’re the kind of couple that prefers to spend time with other couples or just hang alone at home, eventually there comes a time when you have to socialize in a larger group setting. Some couples are born to work the crowd; they interact with everyone and then come back and connect with each other every once and a while. They never make anyone feel uncomfortable by arguing or being too affectionate. In essence, even if you’re single or taken, they’re the perfect couple to spend time with.

But, unfortunately, there’s also the other extreme - the couple that you’d never want to be stuck with for more than a moment. Do you know any couples like this? Although we've all had our moments, tell me, are you a good couple to hang out with? And does it depend on the couple or each individual in a relationship?

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Top 10 Couple Costumes

DearSugar — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Getting sexy for Halloween is fun, but getting a date and going with a theme can be really fun too. Since the plug and socket is overdone, I've come up with a few new and creative costume ideas for couples, so check them out below!

Naughty '50s Housewife and a Post Man - Go ahead and make fun of a silly stereotype!
Ball and Chain - A couple's classic, but not as popular as the plug and socket.
Hillbilly Honeymooners - All you need are a couple of beer helmets and some flip-flops.
Mario and the Princess - Everyone always does Mario and Luigi, but I never see the Princess.
Any of the couples from The Office - This is for those of you who really like to get into character!

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Juno and Paulie, from Juno - Perfect for quirky couples! Plus, don't you want to see your man in some short shorts?
Plumber and a Faulty Pipe - It might not be the sexiest costume, but it's kinky.
Heidi and Spencer, of The Hills - This is fun because you can have an excuse to get in every picture!
Freudian Slip - He's Freud; you wear a slip. Easy and creative.
Go as each other - My absolute favorite if you're going out with mutual friends.

Have you ever dressed up with your man? If so, what were you guys?

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