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Sunday Confessional: I Want to Leave Her

DearSugar — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 09:00:00 PDT

My girlfriend and I are both 24 years old and have been together for nearly four years. Two years ago we were in a terrible car accident together. I was driving at the time, when an oncoming car swerved across our lane. I walked away with chronic back problems, but my girlfriend was critically injured. She spent two weeks in the hospital, where she had multiple surgeries to fix her broken arms and legs. She did eventually recover, but she has a very bad scar that runs the entire length of her face; she looks like a different person.

At the time, I struggled with extensive amounts of guilt over what had happened to her. I did everything to be a good boyfriend while she recovered; I worked closely with her through her rehabilitation and was always there for her. Once she was doing better, we started focusing on our relationship again. We've been making it work, with ups and downs of course, but overall we've been happy. However, in the last couple months, I've found myself longing for something else.

I care about my girlfriend deeply, and I think that we'll always have a connection, but I don't love her the same way I used to. Based on a few conversations, I know that my girlfriend and our families assume that we'll marry because of what's happened. I don't want to abandon her - she still copes daily with her appearance and physical pain - and I don't want to disappoint our families, but I'm just not sure that's what I want. Can I ever be forgiven if I walk away from this relationship?

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Unlicensed to Drive: Three-Year-Old Crashes SUV

LilSugar — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 08:00:35 PDT

The next time your tot says he's going for a ride, don't take it too lightly. A three-year-old Missouri boy who could barely see over the dashboard let alone reach the pedals, took his mama's SUV for a short and unintentional joyride or rather, joy roll. According to a report, when the mother's dismissal of her son's passing words had a smashing outcome. It said:

After telling his mother he was “going bye-bye,” the boy carried the SUV’s keys to the vehicle and evidently turned the ignition key far enough to allow the vehicle’s transmission to slip into neutral.

The car rolled backward until it hit a fence and neighboring home.

This or That: Claustrophobia or Car Accident?

DearSugar — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:00:00 PDT

On an unusually busy Friday evening, you’re desperately trying to get out of work to make it to a concert with your girlfriends that you’re already running late to. By the time you leave the office, it’s pretty well cleared out and you’re practically running out the door. Would it be worse if . . .

This: As your office elevator starts to make its way down it suddenly comes to a halt, and the doors don’t open? You press the emergency button to no avail. You’re stuck inside for more than two hours while they get it fixed.

Or…

That: You’re racing to the concert venue when a car suddenly pulls right into you? You’re fine, but your car’s left side is completely totaled, and the other driver is arguing that it was your fault for speeding.

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Bad Samaritans: Witnesses Stand By as Elderly Man Hit by Car

LibertySugar — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 00:00:56 PDT

A graphic and shocking surveillance video shows a 78-year-old man struck by a hit-and-run driver in Hartford, Connecticut. In the minute and a half that followed, before the police passed by, witnesses refused to come to the man's aid.

The video shows cars passing, and dodging the motionless body. A scooter circles the body, and then drives off. Those on the sidewalk continue about their business, or eventually join a circle of gawkers, standing feet from the man but refusing to do anything but stare. Officials did say that four people called 911.

Other countries, aware that common decency is apparently not enough to help a fellow human in need, impose criminal penalties for failing to reasonably help a person in danger.

How would you react in this situation? Should the United States adopt a duty to rescue, holding uninvolved by-passers liable for not helping a person in danger if they are not at risk themselves? Or do citizens have a right to be a Good Samaritan only if they want to? Does dialing 911 count?

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You Asked: I'm Ready for Sex But I Think He's Scared

DearSugar — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 17:00:00 PDT

Dear Sugar,

I have been dating this guy on and off for one year now. He was in a car accident about two years ago which resulted in him losing both of his testicles. You can feel the sexual tension between the two of us ever since we met and I am ready to take things to the next level and have sex. Every time we have some alone time, he stays distant from me like he's scared of me. I can't take much more but I don't want to lose him. I feel like he knows how I feel about him, but what else should I do? How can I let him know I am okay with the fact that he lost his testicles but I can't live like this for much longer.

-Understanding But Wanting Intimacy Emma

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read more Dear Understanding But Wanting Intimacy Emma, You are dating a man who I'm sure has a lot of uncertainties and concerns on his mind. He's probably self-conscious about what you'll think when you see that he looks different from other men. I'm sure he's also nervous about whether he'll be able to get aroused enough to have an erection, and worried about whether or not he'll be able to please you sexually. You should know that the testicles are where sperm and testosterone are produced. Without that male hormone, he may not have any urge to have sex and may also be moody and tired. The good news is that he can have testosterone replacement therapy to help him get his sex drive back. With that said, it may be difficult for him to get an erection or have an orgasm, but the only way you're going to know is if you talk to him. Share your feelings and try to be as sensitive as you can since this is such a difficult thing to discuss. Try to get him to explain more about his feelings and what he's going through. Being as open as possible will help you both feel more comfortable about your sex life. If he still turns down your advances to have sex, you're going to have to get a little creative with how you two share intimacy. Good luck. Source

The How-To Lounge: What To Do After a Fender Bender

DearSugar — Tue, 09 Oct 2007 10:00:00 PDT

I have been in more than a handful of fender benders in my lifetime. It's never been anything serious, and it's not something I am proud of, but it's just one of the things that makes me who I am. So if you're like me and have unfortunately tapped a bumper or two, here are some helpful tips to keep in mind.

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The most important thing to remember is to remain calm so you can tell if you are hurt. If your adrenaline takes over, it might mask your pain.
Immediately pull over and make sure the other party isn't hurt.
If there is significant damage, if either party is injured, or if you have caused a traffic jam, call the police.
Exchange driver's license numbers and contact information even if there is not obvious damage. Sometimes it takes a few days to realize if you are hurt or if your car's alignment is off.
If there were witnesses at the scene of the accident, make sure to get their information as well as a written statement of what they saw<./li>
If you aren't sure who's at fault, don't talk too much, as you might have to involve lawyers and you don't want to have anything used against you.

Hopefully you won't need to use any of these tips, but if you do get into an accident, at least you'll know what to do! Be safe! Source

Dieter Support Group: Laura's Story

FitSugar — Thu, 22 Feb 2007 10:15:00 PST

Have you joined Fit's Dieters Support Group? If not you totally should because you'll get to read motivational and inspiring stories from people, just like you, looking to get fit. Recently user misstsapinay shared this incredible story with us in the group:

"Hi everyone! My name is Laura, I'm 24 years old, and new to the group. I currently live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have lived here all of my life.

I started to lose weight is because of something very traumatic that happened to me, a few months ago in August 2006. I was hit on the freeway, coming home from work, by a man who fell asleep behind the wheel of his SUV. I was immediately rushed to the ER from the scene with minor injuries that could have been a lot worse. (The CHP officer said that if he'd plowed 1 more inch into my vehicle, it would have hit my gas tank and I'd have died.) I was very lucky that day. When i survived I knew that I was being given a second chance at life and things needed to change. So, I began eating healthier and working out for 15 minutes a day, then 30, and now to about 1 hour a day. It's been a long process, believe it or not, I turned something horrible into something amazing, and I'm feeling the best as I ever did now =)"

Want to see how much weight she's lost and see fabulous after pictures? Then,

read more "So far, I've lost about 80 lbs since my car accident. I have become a vegetarian and incorporated a healthy lifestyle into my busy work week. Anyway, I joined this contest sponsored by Star 101.3 FM called April's Biggest Losers. Basically a group of women, including myself, agreed to lose weight and we have to show up in our bikini's on August 1st to the studio. The winner will be chosen by whoever loses the highest amount of body fat and will get an all expense paid trip AND a new wardrobe. Anyway, FIT suggested her site to us and that's how I came here =) I'm hoping that with everyone's help here I can stay motivated and hopefully win! You can check me out on the radio website here. I'm the 3rd woman down -- Laura" Here is how fabulous she looks now...

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Doesn't she look great? Are you motivated now? I am! Nothing is better than when someone takes a hardship and turns it around. So many times people will take hardships as opportunities to dwell, but not Laura! Way to go! We're all pulling for you and can't wait to hear updates in the Dieters Support Group.

The Couple Who Inspired The Vow

Annie Scudder — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:00:55 PST

Kim and Krickitt Carpenter sold the movie rights to their unforgettable love story back in 1996. But it took until this week for that film, The Vow, to come out. The Carpenters married in September 1993, and less than 10 weeks later, a car accident left them both injured and Krickitt in a coma. Once she woke up, she had no memory of her husband.

Besides the coma and memory loss, The Vow doesn't quite follow the story of Kim (played by Channing Tatum) and Krickitt (played by Rachel McAdams) to the exact details. The real-life couple had met serendipitously over the phone when Kim, a baseball coach living in New Mexico, had called the sport shop Krickitt was working at in Southern California. Hitting it off, they talked for hours on the phone each week, and soon Kim invited Krickitt to visit him in New Mexico. After a whirlwind romance they got married.

The accident soon ended their newlywed bliss, and the couple described life after Krickitt's amnesia in a 1996 People article. "I honestly didn't think our marriage would work," Kim admitted thinking when his wife seemed to be a completely different person, but he said he "made a vow before God" to stick it out. She remembered asking, "'How did I do the wife thing? Did I cook for you? Did I bring you lunch?'" And she told herself, "I figured, if I fell in love with this guy before, I guess I just need to meet him again."

The accident happened in 1993, and on Valentine's Day 1996, Kim proposed again to his wife Krickitt and she accepted. In 2000, they wrote a book about their experience, The Vow: The Kim and Krickitt Carpenter Story. Although she never regained memory of the 18 months she had forgotten after her coma, they stayed together and have two kids, whom they brought to this week's premiere of The Vow. See photos of the Carpenters and their movie star alter egos.

Rachel McAdams and Channing Tatum on Their "Drunk" Scene and Their Romantic Tendencies

Lindsay Miller — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 02:00:00 PST

Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams tackle a true story in The Vow, playing a husband and wife trying to rebuild their life after a car accident leaves her with no memory of their relationship. I talked to the onscreen pair at the recent press day for the movie in Beverly Hills. Channing, who is married to fellow actor Jenna Dewan, said being a young husband made him especially connected to the role, and we also chatted about his and Rachel's shared tendencies toward romantic fare like The Notebook and Dear John. While the subject of their new movie might be dramatic, they also admitted to some lighter moments on set, and talked about a scene that left Rachel "borderline hallucinogenic." Check out our interview and catch The Vow in theaters on February 10.

Top OMG Moments From Gossip Girl "Father and the Bride"

BuzzSugar — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 09:57:58 PST

With Blair and Louis's royal wedding on the horizon, this week's episode is all about Blair's bachelorette party - and the men who can't let her go. Chuck keeps chasing the truth, Dan continues his behind-the-scenes role, and Beatrice ends her own game. Meanwhile, Nate cracks the code on the car accident scandal and partners up with Serena to take down the offender. Let's go over this week's top OMG moments.

Photos courtesy of The CW