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Sunday Confessional - I Canceled on My Blind Date

DearSugar — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 09:00:00 -0700

A co-worker of mine set me up on a blind date. I'm fresh out of a relationship so she was trying to do me a favor, but truth be told, she doesn't know me that well so I was a little apprehensive about the kind of guy she'd pair me with.

Once I got his name, I immediately searched for him on Facebook and lo and behold, I found him. He was an OK looking guy, but he was definitely not my type, and after reading through his profile, I knew that sitting across the dinner table from him would have just been a waste of time.

I didn't have the heart to tell my co-worker that I snooped on him and didn't like what I saw, so I called in sick to work the day of our date and gave him the same excuse. He's written me emails asking to reschedule, but I've ignored each and every one. I know I judged a book by its cover, but can I be forgiven for avoiding this guy simply based on his Facebook page?

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Do Tell: What Was Your Worst Date Like?

DearSugar — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 06:00:00 -0700

I just came across a genius website called My Very Worst Date, which is chock-full of hilarious, disastrous dating stories. Now if I were to submit one of my own, it would have to be the time my blind date told me on the way to dinner that he had a 14-year-old son and was technically still married. We had nothing in common and nothing to talk about, and our two-hour date felt like an eternity.

I'm sure you have your fair share of stories too, so tell me, what was your worst date experience like?

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Do Tell: Have You Ever Had a Blind Date Go Bad?

DearSugar — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 10:00:00 -0800

Blind dates can be really fun if you get set up by someone who knows you really well (dating your mailman's son may not be the best idea), but I know people who refuse because they've had horrible experiences in the past. Maybe the guy was texting his ex-girlfriend while watching a movie with you, or perhaps he kept reaching over to your plate at dinner to help himself to your meal. To see a blind date start off on the wrong foot, watch this comical clip below.

I guess the only thing worse than a blind date is an unexpected double blind date - Ha! Is your story worse than that? It may make you feel better to share it the comment section below.

This or That: Stood Up or Nightmare Blind Date?

DearSugar — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Recently you’ve been trying out some new ways to meet guys, so you've decide to let a friend set you up on a date with someone from her office. You’re nervous about going on a blind date, but your friend has assured you that it’ll be a perfect match. Regardless, the night of the date, you’re feeling pretty insecure and worried. Would if be worse if . . .

This: You wait almost an hour completely dressed, made-up, and ready to go, but he never shows? You feel completely hurt and humiliated that he didn’t even have the decency to call you.

Or. . .

That: He takes you to a great place, acts like a complete gentleman, but then proceeds to talk about himself the entire night? He's perfect on paper, but he can’t even slow down long enough to get the most basic information out of you.

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Where Do You Stand: Blind Dates

DearSugar — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 09:00:00 -0700

I've been set up on a blind date or two and I'm not aching for another. Personally, I haven't had much luck; I always end up with either awkward silences, guys who can't stop talking about themselves, or groping hands under the dinner table. I guess it depends on who you're set up with because my good friend has been dating a guy for over a year that her co-worker begged her to meet. Great for them, but as for me, I've sworn off blind dates for good. Where do you stand on blind dating? Are you down with dating your neighbor's brother's roommate, or do you have a choose-your-own-date policy?

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The 4-Way: Blind Love

DearSugar — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 11:00:00 -0700

Divine Caroline and I are back with another edition of the the 4-way. Enjoy!

Dear 4-Way,

If you’re on blind date and things aren’t working out, at what point in the date is it acceptable to end it? I have friends who do a lot of online dating and a few have told me that once they know there’s not a love connection, they tell the other person immediately so that nobody’s time is wasted. This seems kind of rude, although it does seem like it might be easier for everyone involved. What do you guys think?-BT in Atlanta, Georgia

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Dear BT,

I'm with your friends, BT - there's no use in wasting anyone's time if you know for sure that there's no connection. Since you don't know much about your blind date, I recommend keeping the first encounter short and sweet. Meet for a drink, a cup of coffee, or dessert instead of signing yourself up for a meal, movie, or night out on the town. I'm a firm believer of first impressions so if you're one that follows your gut instincts as well, chances are you'll feel the spark if there is one by the time you finish that first drink.

With that said, I think it's important to finish out the date you're on even if you're not interested - you don't want to leave the poor guy in the lurch - but if he asks you out again, don't hesitate to kindly decline. Being straight up and honest will only benefit you both.

And for the record, I'm with you Darren!

Dating Tip # 178

GiggleSugar — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 04:00:00 -0700

"A lady doesn't fold herself in half until the third date." I concur.

This or That: Short or Toothless?

DearSugar — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 09:00:00 -0800

Welcome back to DearSugar's newest feature, This or That, where I give you two scenarios to choose between. They aren't easy choices. Sometimes you'll want both and sometimes you want neither, but you'll have to choose - this or that.

Your friends warned you about meeting people online, but you couldn't help falling for a guy you met on a singles posting. He's smart, funny, incredibly sweet, and looking to settle down just like you are.

You've been taking things slow, just chatting over instant messenger, but you both realize this could be something special so you decide to meet and put a face to a name. When you answer his knock at the door, you're surprised to say the least! Would it be worse if he . . .

Stands at five foot four? You happen to be wearing your tallest heels - yikes - but even if you weren't, you'd still be taller than him.

Or . . .

Gives you a big toothless grin? Not only is he desperately in need of some serious braces, but he's also missing a very visible tooth.

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The How-To Lounge: Getting Through a Blind Date

DearSugar — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 10:30:00 -0700

Meeting guys can be extremely difficult. For those of you who need a little extra help, thank goodness for internet dating, speed dating, fix ups, and blind dates. For some tips to keep in your back pocket, read more

Only let people you know and trust fix you up on a blind date. Your co-worker could think her best bud is wonderful, but she needs to know you both well enough to know if you are wonderful for each other
If you chat on the phone or exchange e-mails prior to the date, keep them short. You don't want to create any unrealistic expectations or jump to any negative conclusions
You want to be cautious on a blind date so pick a meeting place; don't have him pick you up. Although you are most likely being set up by a friend, you don't know your date, so make sure you have your own car or your own way home
Suggest a coffee or drink date instead of committing to an entire evening together, i.e. dinner, in case you are not a good match. Keep in mind; drinks can lead to dinner if you hit it off!
Don't go to your favorite bar or restaurant. Running into friends could be distracting and nerve wracking for both of you
Keep an open mind. Going into the date with a negative attitude will surely be obvious and could put a damper on your night
You never have a second chance to make a first impression, so dress to impress. Wear something you feel comfortable and confident in, but don't go overboard as men oftentimes don't understand trendy clothing
Try to keep realistic expectations. It's better to be pleasantly surprised than let down
Spark engaging conversation and open up. Talk about things you enjoy so your natural enthusiasm comes out
Don't be too sarcastic or dry. Remember, the person you are with doesn't know your sense of humor or personality so be sure to come off approachable
At the end of your date, be honest with each other. If you made a connection, plan to see each other again. If you were simply not a good match, let him know you enjoyed yourself and are glad you made a new friend

It takes time to get to know the people you date, so try not to make any snap decisions. Have fun out there and good luck!

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This Chick Gives Women a Bad Name...

GiggleSugar — Tue, 19 Dec 2006 02:02:00 -0800

Women complain about jerks. Here's the female equivalent...