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Dear Poll: Do You Enjoy Attention From Strangers?

DearSugar — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 07:30:00 -0700

Construction workers whistling at women? That’s probably an unfair stereotype. But receiving unsolicited positive attention from strangers can certainly be an ego boost, whether it’s from a passerby on the street, a cute guy at a coffee shop, or, yes, even the occasional construction worker. I know not everyone is receiving compliments from friends, but tell me, do you like receiving them from strangers?

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Dear Poll: Do You Like to Stand Out in a Crowd?

DearSugar — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700

I’m an observer by nature, but that's not to say I suddenly become shy in a group setting. In fact, I'm happy to be the leader of the pack now and then. Even so, the idea of having all eyes on me does send a shiver down my spine and get my heart racing. But some people are at their best when they can stand out in a crowd. Does that sound like you?

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You Asked: I Keep Sabotaging My Relationship

DearSugar — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Most of that year has been spent in petty arguments that I have created. I love him very much and we are great together when we aren't fighting. I have promised to change things many times, but I just can't, even though I desperately want to. I'm afraid I've damaged things too much. I just want to show him that I can treat him well and that this relationship means the world to me. - Wanting to Change Chanel

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Dear Wanting to Change Chanel,

The fact that you're aware that you're the cause of these arguments, yet you still start them, leads me to believe there is a whole lot more going on here. Are you rocking the boat to get attention from your boyfriend? Are you doing it because you like making up with him? If there really is no good reason, I advise you to try harder to put a stop to them because if you don't, you just might push him to the breaking point.

The only way he'll know how much you care is by you showing him and putting forth the effort to change. Tell him how much you love him, and do whatever you can to avoid those petty arguments. If you need help figuring out why you pick these fights, I suggest talking to a therapist, as there could be some deep-rooted issues going on that you're completely unaware of which are manifesting through these fights. Additionally, keep the lines of communication open with your boyfriend. The more you talk through any issues that come up, the less likely an argument will ensue. Breaking a pattern isn't easy, and it won't happen overnight, but hopefully he'll see that you're trying and in time, things will fall into place. Good luck.

Do Tell: What Do You Wish Your Significant Other Noticed More?

DearSugar — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 07:00:00 -0800

Do you spend an hour in the bathroom before your boyfriend takes you out only to have him not notice your new hair style or your new outfit? Do you wish he was more attentive when you have a bad day or just need him to tell you he loves you? If so, you're not alone. Even though some men are more attentive than others, for the most part they don't notice the small things that mean so much to us. So ladies, do tell, what do you wish your significant other paid more attention to?

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Do Tell: When Do You Need the Most Attention?

DearSugar — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 07:00:00 -0700

I know I can be a baby from time to time. I have even been known to throw myself a pity party once or twice before, demanding a little extra TLC from my friends and family right before - say a trip to the dentist - even though it ends up drawing more attention to the inevitable. There is something comforting about having that little extra attention from the ones you love, so ladies, do tell, when do you need the most attention from your boyfriend, your friends, or your family?

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Are You Highly Focused or Easily Distracted?

DearSugar — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 11:00:00 -0700

When it comes to work or school, we all have projects, assignments, reports and deadlines to deal with. We have things to type, research to make, books to read, and emails to write.

Some of us can stay focused and get through a to do list even when there are people chatting, music blaring, food being passed around, or sirens outside - (like me). Then there are others who can pay more attention, and get more accomplished when they are completely alone, with no sounds or people to distract them.

So I want to know, when it comes to getting your work done, are you highly focused or easily distracted?

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Adult ADD and ADHD: Know the Signs

DearSugar — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 10:00:00 -0700

Adult ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) are conditions that have to do with the way you think. Unfortunately, they can seriously affect adults when it comes to their job, relationships, and their finances. It's true that they have to do with not being able to concentrate, but there's a lot more to it. Some of the signs include:

"zoning out" during conversations, or daydreaming

not remembering being told something
being late or forgetting to show up when expected
speaking without thinking first or interrupting others when they talk
talking fast or excessively, and hopping from one topic to the next
getting easily frustrated or bored
procrastination or difficulty staying focused
not finishing what you start (projects, books)
low self-esteem or insecurity
impulsive behaviors, quick to get angry

There are also some really positive "gifts" if you have ADD and ADHD? Want to hear them, then read more

Adults with ADD or ADHD may also be able to maintain intense focus on something that they are greatly interested in. This is called hyper focus, where people can be engaged for hours with a lack of awareness for others or time. They can be super determined and have high energy and enthusiasm for something if it sparks their interest. Einstein and Da Vinci had this ability and look how successful they were!!
People with ADD or ADHD are also great at creative thinking, problem-solving, and brainstorming ideas. Scientists, inventors, artists, musicians, and doctors can benefit from this type of brain.
Intelligence, flexibility, and spontaneity are also character traits of someone with ADD or ADHD.

Dear's Advice: If this sounds like you, and your symptoms are preventing you from living your life the way you want to, I would definitely talk to a therapist. They can offer suggestions for ways to help with the symptoms that get in the way of your job or having the relationships you want, possibly prescribing drugs to lower the symptoms of these disorders. Plus you'll feel better talking to someone who understands and supports you.

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Reebok Promises to Make Your Boobs Jealous of Your Butt - Hilarious or Horrifying?

TresSugar — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:00:24 -0800

On its website, Reebok claims that its new line of EasyTone shoes, which are displayed against the backdrop of a naked woman, will help you make 88 percent of men speechless and 76 percent of women jealous. Hoping to drum up some hype for these kicks, Reebok has also unveiled a whole slew of commercials touting the shoes' butt-toning abilities. In this commercial, Reebok pitches the shoes by reducing a faceless woman to two talking breasts. You see, the breasts are jealous of the woman's butt, which is now getting all the attention thanks to the shoes. Do you find this ad effective or offensive?

Flashback: Jon Stewart Hosts SAST In 1991

GiggleSugar — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 02:00:00 -0700

Jon Stewart is one of the most charming mo-fo's on the planet. Here he is in a goofy shirt on "Short Attention Span Theatre." I remember seeing him in the early 90's in NYC's East Village sitting in a laundromat on top of a machine giving an interview. Who knew he would become so huge? He's' adorable...

Curmudgeons, Rejoice: Being Grumpy Might Be Good For You!

TresSugar — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:05:00 -0800

Australian psychology professor Joe Forgas has concluded through his research that grumpy people tend to think more clearly, and because of their skepticism, they also make better decisions than their more cheerful and gullible counterparts.

Cheerfulness isn't all bad, though. Forgas says it encourages creativity. Bad moods, however, incite "attentiveness and careful thinking."

How did he figure this out? He asked volunteers to watch films while thinking of either positive or negative events in their lives, in the hopes they'd be put into good or bad moods.

Then, to test their powers of analysis, he had them judge the truth of urban myths and provide eyewitness accounts of events. The results: the grumps made fewer mistakes and were better at communicating.

"Whereas positive mood seems to promote creativity, flexibility, co-operation and reliance on mental shortcuts," said Professor Forgas, "negative moods trigger more attentive, careful thinking, paying greater attention to the external world."

If you see a smile on my usually grumpy face today, it's temporary - I'm just gloating.