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Sunday Confessional: He's Not Excited About Our Anniversary

TresSugar — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 03:00:00 -0700

We're scouring the juicy (but anonymous!) secrets posted on Truu Confessions and letting you weigh in. This week, a confessor vents about her husbands lack of thoughtfulness.

Dear husband: You didn't fail to disappoint me today. You remembered our anniversary but had no intentions of doing anything beyond a grumbled "happy anniversary." What's so happy about it? I've spent a week putting thought and love into your gifts (cheesy, cutesy things like hugs 'n' kisses in a box, something you love), but you couldn't be bothered. Thank you for letting me know how very much you care.

Do you think this is a big deal?

The How-To Lounge: Planning a Romantic Occasion

DearSugar — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Whether it’s an anniversary celebration or just a time to reconnect, planning a romantic occasion for your significant other can be a lot of fun, and a great way to ignite the fire. To see my tips for making your occasion as sweet (or spicy) as it can be, then read more.

First off, it’s always a good idea to determine just how elaborate you want your romantic endeavor to be. Throwing together a dinner at home will be much easier than planning a weekend trip away. If you decide to go for something more extravagant, make sure to leave yourself plenty of time to plan ahead.
Try to think with your significant other in mind. He/she may not enjoy the same things you would. At the same time, make sure you do something that you feel comfortable with. It's better to do something you both enjoy.
While there are some great stand-by ideas, try thinking outside of the box. It will be that much more special if you come up with something more original or an idea that’s meaningful to your particular relationship.
Don’t spend so much time trying to plan something that when the time comes, you’re too stressed out to enjoy it. Romance isn’t all about plans anyway; in fact, some would say it’s more about spontaneity!
Go ahead and mix sentimental and sexy. Combine a sappy card with some lingerie or a romantic night away with a fun bedroom game.

Whatever you do, keep in mind that it’s all about celebrating your relationship, so make it count.

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Handle This: He Got You a Gift But You're Empty Handed

DearSugar — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:00:00 -0700

You've been dating a great guy for six months. Today is your anniversary and you're celebrating at your favorite restaurant, just the two of you. You had a busy work week and before you know it, the day's completely gotten away from you. Instead of having time for your boyfriend to pick you up, you had to meet him there. On the way to the restaurant, you stopped to get a card and had just enough time to scribble a few words from the heart before the hostess sat you.

When you saw your boyfriend waiting for you at the table, your eyes immediately focused in on the small blue box sitting on your plate - he got you a gift and you're empty handed! You guys hadn't talked about exchanging anything, in fact, you thought he'd be impressed that you brought a card but he clearly one upped you. This night was supposed to be fun but all you can feel is guilty, so how would you handle it?

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Relationship Protocol: Who's Better at Remembering Your Anniversary?

DearSugar — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 14:00:00 -0700

My parent's 32nd wedding anniversary is next week and although my dad may not be the best at remembering to pick up trash bags at the grocery store, he's good at remembering the important things like birthdays and anniversaries. It was my mom this year who actually said to me midsentence on a completely separate topic, "Oh my gosh, it's our anniversary next week, I almost forgot!!" So ladies, even if you don't make a big deal out of your anniversary, who tends to remember it most, you or your significant other?

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Relationship Protocol: Anniversary Celebrations

DearSugar — Thu, 22 May 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Although I think celebrating marriage anniversaries can be an important way to keep the romance alive, I’m not one to make a fuss over a relationship anniversary. I think learning to celebrate your relationship every day in the smallest ways is much more important than planning a special night or weekend once a year. However, I know that for many unmarried couples, anniversary celebrations are very important, so what do you think? Are you one to celebrate an anniversary when you're in a relationship?

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Dear Poll: Do You Still Think About Your Ex-anniversary?

DearSugar — Mon, 05 May 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Whether we're still lusting for him or just hoping that he's doing well, it seems that many of us have our ex on the brain. I think once someone is such an important part of your life it's nearly impossible to let go completely, especially because so many reminders pop up here and there. For some it's the date of an old anniversary, which even if you're not celebrating it anymore, still happens once a year, every year. So ladies, when the date rolls around, does the anniversary that you used to celebrate with your ex ever enter your mind?

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Do Tell: What Natural Disaster Do You Fear the Most?

DearSugar — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 07:00:00 -0700

Today is the 18th anniversary of the Loma Prieta earthquake. Since I grew up in San Francisco, I will never forget that 7.1 quake as long as I live, and ever since 1989, I have a severe fear of natural disasters. Anyway you slice it, they are terrifying. I think the worst part is not knowing what's in store for you and your loved ones and not knowing when they will end or what's coming next. We hear about tornados, hurricanes, tsunamis, and avalanches all the time, but ladies, do tell, what natural disaster do you fear the most?

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You Asked: How Can I Make it up to Her?

DearSugar — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 13:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

My girlfriend and I have just had our 3 year anniversary, problem is, she was expecting a material present (we hadn't gotten each other material presents since before last November) and a special day. I had only planned a dinner and did not finish her present in time.

So right now, she's feeling very disappointed and just can't shake it. So, we haven't done anything together since. Any advice as to what to do? Nothing I say or do makes a difference (she told me).

--In-the-Dog-House Danny

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Dear In-the-Dog-House Danny--

I know you said you haven't exchanged material presents in over a year, but girls LOVE to get presents - especially on meaningful occasions. If you never talked about exchanging gifts for your 3 year anniversary, it's really not you fault. Deep down inside she was probably hoping that you would get her a present to symbolize how much you appreciate having her in your life (girls love to be reminded!).

From a girl's perspective, 3 years is a long time to be together. From her reaction, it sounds as though she was expecting something bigger. Is it possible that she thought you were going to propose? Have you two ever discussed your future plans as a couple?

While her reaction seems incredibly selfish, her shutting you out is a red flag. Keep talking to her, tell her how much she means to you and ask her if her disappointment is strictly from the lack of gift or if there is something more. I'm not sure what your situation is, but this might be a great time to think about your future together.

Once you get to the bottom of this, how about taking her to a Bed & Breakfast to re-connect, send flowers to her office, or plan a romantic picnic next weekend. Doing something she doesn't expect will surely make her feel better. Good luck Danny!

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You Asked: Is Our Anniversary Ruined?

DearSugar — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

My fourth wedding anniversary is coming up at the end of this month. Every year, my husband and I try to take a vacation around this holiday. The problem is I plan the trip every year but have a lot going on with work right now and the stress of planning is just too overwhelming. I conveyed this to my husband and he said he would take on the task. I was a little apprehensive at first, maybe due to my own issues with control, but I got over it and agreed. Well here is the problem; we are now two weeks away from our anniversary and he has yet to plan anything! Last night, we looked online at some places within driving distance, but truth be told, I am a little upset that he didn't make more of an effort to plan something special. I fear that now, I will have to come up with something last minute. Why is it so hard to get a man to make plans?! - Disappointed Dina

To see DearSugar's answer, read more.

Dear Disappointed Dina,

I don't need to tell you that men are a different breed than women, and unfortunately, many men lack the planning gene. Of course it's disappointing that your husband hasn't already booked a wonderfully romantic getaway, but could he be surprising you with something? Is he the type to fake you out, lead you to believe that he didn't plan anything, all the while having something amazing up his sleeve? If that's just wishful thinking, your anniversary trip can still be great even if it is planned last minute.

Since you're obviously frustrated, tell your husband that you're upset that he didn't put forth more of an effort. If you hold onto your anger, it could turn into resentment rather quickly, so I suggest nipping it in the bud ASAP. Once you have that off your chest, take an hour or two each night to research your options and go from there. Lately it feels like there aren't enough hours in the day for anyone, so if you have to push out your trip by a week or two, do it if it means going someplace really special. In other words, don't just settle on a destination you can drive to if you usually use this vacation time to jetset somewhere unique. If you take the last-minute route, be sure to search the Internet for deals - many times traveling last-minute pays off. Good luck and happy anniversary!

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Colbert Won't Tell Us How to Get to Socialist Sesame Street

TresSugar — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 10:00:00 -0800

Last night Stephen Colbert took on Sesame Street, the "most insidious socialist brainwashing program in our nation's history," on its 40th anniversary. When not condemning SS for indoctrinating children with a love of learning and showing adorable clips, he calls out Grover for allowing kids to think marriage is just between two people and the legalization of Bert-and-Ernie marriages.