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Best Wedding Reception Ever

GiggleSugar — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:52:27 -0700

Remember, it's the first day of the rest of your lives together. Drink life to the fullest.

Pole-Dancing Grandma

GiggleSugar — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 03:00:00 -0700

I have so many questions. Where are these people? It'd be weird enough if there were a club outfitted with poles for every dancer on the dance floor, but this appears to be a reception of some kind. Like a wedding reception. But with pole-dancing? I suppose it all worked out in the end, though. That cute lady looked like she needed something to hold onto!

Ask E. Jean For DearSugar: Should I Tell My Best Friend That I Saw Her Fiancé Kissing Another Woman?

DearSugar — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Dear E. Jean,

My hands are literally shaking as I type this. Tonight I saw my best friend’s fiancé kissing a woman in an Atlanta restaurant.

There’s no mistake. I’ve known this guy for five years, and they were all over each other - at one point he actually had his hand up her skirt and his tongue down her throat. No way was this an innocent “business” dinner. The weird part is neither he nor I live in Atlanta. My best friend, her fiancé and I all live in New York City. I happened to be in Atlanta for business. The fiancé owns a tech company and travels a lot. By some bizarre fluke we both ended up in the same restaurant.

He was so busy sucking this woman’s face, he didn’t see me. He’s never been a supportive, understanding guy, but he makes a lot of money, and my friend absolutely worships the ground he walks on.

What do I do? My friend is marrying this guy in October - in less than six weeks! The wedding, the reception, the dress, the food, the honeymoon, everything is finalized. Worse, they’ve just signed the contract on a very expensive loft in TriBeCa. They want to get pregnant by New Year’s. They've chosen their first child’s name. My best friend is walking around on air she’s so in love. I will never be able to look her in the face again. But I can’t tell her. It will kill her. Her parents will freak out. It’s a mess! Why can’t guys behave themselves?! - Sick to my Stomach

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Miss Sick, Sweetheart,

Tell her. It will be rough; but If Mr. Pantyhands is dining on a Georgia peach six weeks before his wedding, I hate to think what tasty morsels he’ll be sucking when he hits the third year of marriage. TELL HER. Respect your friend as a thinking, human being. Pay credit to her as a rational woman. He’s playing her for a fool; don’t you treat her like an idiot.

I realize that many supremely level heads here on Dear Sugar will be outraged at this advice. They will say you should mind your own business, and not meddle in your friend’s prewedding stresses; but I say, call her now!

As a friend it is the most compassionate action you can take. After all, if the situation were reversed, if she saw your lover shoving his tongue so far down a young lady’s throat it reached her knees - wouldn’t you want to be told?

Tell her the facts so she can make an intelligent decision about her future. In my opinion, it is immoral to conceal the truth. It is your duty as a woman and as a friend to speak up!

P.S. Indeed, I believe every female over the age of 14 should be given a cell phone programmed with a secret number, which she can call and instantaneously report any lying, cheating, two-faced ratwank. I am getting sick and tired of these jerkweeds!

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Group Therapy: Still bitter and needing your thoughts

Thu, 19 Apr 2007 16:00:00 -0700

I was married 8 months ago, but am still bitter about how my guests/friends acted around my wedding. I have thought about this and wondered if I am overreacting, but I really don't think I am, and I don't know what the problem is except that I am hurt. I really don't need people to tell me to let it go, because I know I should to a point. I haven't, and am needing to vent and get advice other than, just let it go.

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Around the time of my wedding, my friends totally turned the other way and became unsupported and caddy. I had 2 showers for 2 separate groups of people. At one of the showers one of my very good friends told me it was all so awkward and weird to be at a shower for me. What the heck does that mean? It isn't a keg party, it is a shower. Also, I overheard one of the girls making fun of my BM dresses. At that shower my friends and bridal party (not the older ladies) acted like it was a pain to even be there. I felt really sorry for my family, and it really hurt me. Oh, and I overheard one of the girls telling another girl that I was having many showers but she was only invited to one. Do people not understand that different showers are for different groups of people and it would be almost rude to invite people to all of them (remember I had 2 only)?? Even my in-laws who I had just met asked me why my friends and bridal party were being so rude to me.

So, I went on like nothing had happened. At my wedding we tried to provide anything and everything that would make our guests have fun and feel comfortable. Several of my friends I have seen dress nicely for other weddings didn't dress up at all. None of my girlfriends took pictures of us together like they ALWAYS do at weddings. Everyone left early so we had to shut the reception down early and I only had a few people left to throw the "rice" and see us off. Also, barely anyone brought us gifts. Maybe 15 people out of 90 did. My family and his co-workers did, but none of my friends brought anything. No cards, no gifts. I don't want it to sound like I was in it for gifts because that was not the case, but come on! No card. I think it is so rude. My bridal party gave us nothing (they didn't stay until the end either), and my friends gave us nothing. I have gone to other people's weddings with these same friends since and I have watched them bring other people cards or gifts. I really don't understand and it is still bugging me. I am still friends with these people, but feel like I want to put less into our friendships because I think they are less quality (not as good of people) than I previously thought. I resent them very much. Help!

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