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Website of the Day: PMS Buddy

GiggleSugar — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 13:00:00 -0700

This is one of the most genius ideas I've ever heard of! PMSbuddy.com is a free online PMS reminder. Basically, you can either sign up to stay aware of when significant ladies in your life are about to ride the red dragon and act insane in the membrane (so you can be all, "Oh, now I understand."). Or, you can alert people when it's getting close to ~~that time of the month~~ that moment when you might b*tchslap someone for no reason or start crying during an episode of Home Improvement. I think PMSbuddy will end up saving several relationships for me. Thanks, guys!

Website of the Day: Pantalaine, Provisioners of America's Finest Plural Clothing

GiggleSugar — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 03:00:00 -0800

I so want to believe that Pantalaine really has been "Provisioners of America's Finest Plural Clothing" since 1950, but something tells me that they are just getting their jollies making fun of the unfortunately real Slankets and Snuggies out there. Having said that, I kind of like the idea of mutated accessories and clothing that encourages interaction with our fellow humans. Want to know what I'm talking about? Then, read more

Just take a look at the awesome plural clothes in the gallery below. Feeling distant from your mate? Skip couples counseling and instead throw on the hug jacket. Get closer to a friend with handholding mittens. Become one with a book, even, with the mittens book jacket! Oh, Pantalaine. I can't wait until your online store is up and running.

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Introducing: Unnecessary Blurring

GiggleSugar — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 13:00:00 -0700

The Internet has nothing better to do than punk with people's pics these days. No photo is off limits, nobody is sacred, and there are absolutely no boundaries. Decapitate a baby? It's been done. Decapitate an old lady and give her a cat head for kicks? Done. So the three-dude pileup shown above was an easy target, and unnecessary blurring was the gag. It's a little harsh, but your mind was going there anyway - so what's the harm? Visit You Got Blurred for more unnecessary censorship.

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Who Doesn't Love a Damn Ugly Dress?

GiggleSugar — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:00:00 -0700

Whether the bride made us do it or there was a lapse in our own judgment, we've all been caught ~~dead~~ in an ugly dress. Unfortunately, there's usually evidence to remind us in the form of a prominently displayed picture hanging on mom and dad's living room wall. UglyDress.com is an archive of fugly frocks and, chances are, you'll find someone wearing something 10 times uglier than that geometric eyesore you donned for your sister's wedding. (Feeling brave? Visit the site and enter its ugly dress competition!)

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Another Internet Milestone: Cat Ladies

GiggleSugar — Fri, 30 May 2008 04:00:00 -0700

If you thought ManBabies was an important milestone in the history of the Internet, then hop over and take a look at Cat Ladies. Some loony tune kitty lover had enough sense to know that there are two types of people in this world: those of us who have "real" babies and those of us who treat our cats as if they were "real" babies. For the latter group, this loony tune kitty lover created a head switcheroo photo site on the net. It was only fair. Visit the Cat Ladies website for more photoshopped purrrfection.

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Meditation, Anyone?

Tres Community — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 07:00:00 -0800

This post was written by member Honey Knows and comes from The Couch group in our TrèsSugar Community.

I've never done a lot of meditating, but I think it might be time to start. In these turbulent times, I know so many people who are looking for an anchor (or maybe a life preserver?) with nowhere to turn. Perhaps meditation can provide the peace that external influences seem bent on robbing us of these days. Do you meditate? If you do, what type of meditation? How has it helped you?

The website LearningMeditation.com seems basic (and free!); however, please feel free to add any resources you find helpful.

There's lots of great stuff going on in our community - join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar!

Hump Day: I Have Little Desire to Have Sex Anymore

TresSugar — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:00:00 -0800

Welcome to Hump Day, TrèsSugar's sex advice column. Are you confused about sex? Do you have trouble having an orgasm? Is there something you'd like to try but you're worried it's too weird? Send your questions to TrèsSugar, and our friend Dr. Charlie Glickman from Good Vibrations will offer his sound advice!

Today's Question:

“When my husband and I first got married, I was so in love with him that we had sex what (for me) seemed like a lot (a few times a week). But now, three years into it, I feel like my baseline libido, which never was much in the first place, has flatlined. I simply have no interest in sex mentally or physically. My husband keeps asking me if there’s someone else, but in reality, I don’t want sex at all - with anyone. I’m worried he’s going to leave me, this is causing so many problems between us. Any advice?”

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It’s pretty common for sexual frequency for couples to lessen after a couple of years. It’s not always just the stereotypical “things are becoming routine” situation. Shifts in hormones can occur as time goes by and those shifts can affect sexual desire. Lots of people have a low interest in sex for any of a number of reasons. It’s not necessarily a sign of any kind of problem and if that has been your pattern for a long time; that may be simply how your sexuality is.

Do you consider your lack of interest in sex a problem? If you do, you might want to see if there are any medical issues causing it. You could have low testosterone for example. While we generally only think of it as a male hormone, women also have some testosterone in their systems and it’s often related to interest in sex. Sexual desire is quite complex and sometimes, the answers aren’t as easy as that, but it could be worth exploring.

Whether you think that your low desire is a problem or not, it sounds like your concerns center on how you and your husband talk about it and what his and your expectations are. Differences in desire can be one of the more tricky relationship challenges and almost all couples face it at some point or another. When you consider how much we (as a culture) equate sexual desire with relationship health, it’s no wonder that many of us feel a lot of pressure around it.

While I would NEVER suggest to anyone that they engage in sex that they don’t want, the two of you might want to explore other ways to connect physically. After all, it doesn’t have to be sex or intercourse. For example, would it work if you gave him backrubs? What if he masturbated while you help him or ran your hands across him? And are there ways that you would like to receive physical contact? As another possibility, are there ways in which the two of you could make room for him to get his sexual needs met, such as giving him solo time at home for some self-pleasure?

Whether you find your low desire a problem or not, you could also find a sex-positive therapist. One of the most helpful things that a therapist can offer is tools for talking about tricky topics and a safe space to do it in. Plus, sometimes an outside perspective can be really helpful. There are plenty of great people who know about sexuality issues and lots of them can be found on the website for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Anyone in their directory has passed a rigorous certification process, which gives them the foundation to be as helpful with sexuality topics as possible.

Ultimately, the best advice I can offer you is to be honest with each other about what’s going on for you and how you each feel about it. With that as the foundation, the two of you can start looking for new ways to be together that work for both of you.

Today Is National Depression Screening Day

TresSugar — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 13:10:39 -0700

Some of us say, "I'm so depressed" and refer to situational depression - something happened that bummed us out. But for some people, undiagnosed clinical depression can affect quality of life and lead, in extreme cases, to suicide if untreated.

Today is National Depression Screening Day, so if you're worried you may have more than a passing case of the blues, go to this website to find out where in your area you can get free and confidential screening for depression. The screening doesn't diagnose depression but helps lead you to qualified professionals who can provide a full assessment. You can also take their online assessment questionnaire.

Cats Respond to "A Day Without Cats"

TresSugar — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 12:30:00 -0700

Humor website Urlesque unilaterally declared today A Day Without Cats on the Internet. The “feline overlords,” as they described them, are kinda playing nice. They’ve agreed to lay low, courtesy of Stuff on My Cat. But they don’t like it one bit.

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Awkward! He Liked Me Until He Saw My Facebook Page

TresSugar — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 07:00:00 -0700

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario for you that she needs you to weigh in on.

I met a guy on a matrimonial website (a little different from a regular dating website as the intention is for long-term relationships leading to marriage). Anyway he and I exchanged pics (he lives in a different city), and liked what we saw of each other so started texting and calling each other. It only lasted a month or so but he definitely expressed interest as I initiated first contact and all contact thereafter was initiated by him. So two weeks ago, he asked if I could add him to Facebook. Normally, I’m not comfortable with adding people I don’t know that well but I went with my gut feeling added him. Once I did, I saw that he’s very family oriented. Almost all his pics were of him with his family etc. I felt self-conscious of mine because a lot of my pics were from a few years ago, when I was a bit of a party girl. I’m still a social person, but I don’t really go clubbing much etc. now and I was concerned that my profile only reflected the me from a few years ago. Since I added him, we still have contact after but it seems to have scaled back significantly. He used to call or text every few days and now I haven’t heard from him in a week. How should I handle this?

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