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I See the Vagina Monologues Is Branching Out

GiggleSugar — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 01:00:00 -0700

Not sure what else to say, except, even a little black dress can't make this performance classy! Her mother should be proud.

What Kind of Moaner Are You? NSFW

DearSugar — Fri, 12 Oct 2007 08:00:00 -0700

Whether you make a ton of noise during sex or not, everyone has a type of moan they can relate to. This is a hilarious snippet from The Vagina Monologues. If you've never seen a live version of this, grab your girlfriends and go immediately.

Be sure to watch this video when you're not at work. All the moaning may get you fired!

To see it, read more

So tell me, which moan is most like yours? The Irish Catholic moan? The Jewish moan? The Vaginal-Clit Combo moan? The Mountain moan? Or maybe you have your own special moan you'd like to tell us about.

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The Vagina Monologues on The View

GiggleSugar — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 03:00:00 -0700

The ladies on The View are doing nothing to advance the world's comfort level with the word "vagina." If anything, I think they're sending us back a few decades.

V-A-G-I-N-A!

GiggleSugar — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 11:30:00 -0800

Holy Guacamole! Jane Fonda, as many of you may have heard, was on The Today Show with Eve Ensler promoting her appearance in The Vagina Monologues. While trying to explain why this was an edgy thing for her to do - being from Georgia, I guess - she jokes about how she might as well have been invited to perform in "C**t." Needless to say, she got a lot of flack for it, including some good-natured ribbing from Letterman, as you'll see here. What kills me, though, is not that Jane used the "C" word in jest, but that David Letterman can't even bring himself to say the word "vagina." C'mon, man, you're old enough, right? All together now (cue Fergie): V-A-G-I-N-A!

Hump Day: My Boyfriend Doesn't Like Giving Oral Sex

TresSugar — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:00:00 -0700

Welcome to Hump Day, TrèsSugar's sex advice column. Are you confused about sex? Do you have trouble having an orgasm? Is there something you'd like to try but you're worried it's too weird? Send your questions to TrèsSugar, and our friend Dr. Charlie Glickman from Good Vibrations will offer his sound advice!

Today's Question:
"I'm in my early 20s and just started dating this guy I feel wildly attracted to, but he says he doesn't perform oral sex ever. He says it's 'too subservient,' and he doesn't like the taste. He definitely likes to receive it, and I kind of like to give it, but I feel torn. Is this normal? OK? Or is this guy a jerk?"

To hear what Dr. Glickman has to say, read more.

Some people adore giving oral sex and others have zero interest in it. I suggest letting go of the idea of “normal” and focus on what works for both of you. Is your boyfriend a jerk? If he’s generally considerate about most things, or if he mostly acts in ways that shows that he cares for and respects you, then I think that’s a very different situation than if he’s generally rude, selfish, or self-centered. Take a step back from the oral sex part of the equation and make an honest appraisal of all aspects of your relationship.

Assuming that he’s not a jerk, there are a few possibilities oral sex turns him off.

Some men have absorbed the message that vaginas are "dirty." If we (men and women) weren't taught somewhere that vaginas were icky, Eve Ensler wouldn’t have felt the need to create the Vagina Monologues. And even when we intellectually know that those messages aren’t true, they are incredibly tenacious. Does your boyfriend seem like he’s turned off by your vulva in general or does he avoid seeing it or touching it? If so, perhaps there are some deeper issues at play. On the other hand, if he enjoys pleasuring you in other ways, then perhaps it’s a sexual preference, rather than vulva-phobia.

Oral sex can have connotations of submission for many. Ask him what he finds “subservient” about it. If it’s about a specific position, maybe there’s a different way for you to do it, like 69ing, or having mutual oral sex, since you’d each be “serving” the other. Another possibility is that your boyfriend might be concerned about being good at oral sex, but afraid to ask for directions.

Fortunately, there are some great books and DVDs to help him out, if lack of knowledge is what’s blocking him. Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1 - Cunnilingus is an excellent how-to DVD with lots of great tips and suggestions. If you or he prefers a book to a DVD, there’s Violet Blue’s Ultimate Guide To Cunnilingus. I’m also a fan of She Comes First: The...Guide To Pleasuring A Woman, although it’s not only about oral sex.

With all of these possibilities, the best advice I can give you is to ask him for more information about why oral sex doesn’t float his boat. The more you know about what’s going on for him, the easier it’ll be for you to decide what you want to do.

PSA From a Vagina's Point of View

TresSugar — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 11:00:00 -0700

Time was, vagina was a word you didn't hear often, unlike the word penis. (Where did this come from - vagina phobia? Dislike of the actual word vagina?)

Now, vaginas are having monologues, ads imagine boys having vaginas, and in this PSA for cervical cancer, a vagina has what film theorists call a "point of view." In film theory parlance, anything you see on the screen comes from one character's point of view, unless it's an omniscient perspective. In this PSA for Cervical Cancer Awareness Week, we see a vagina's POV during the dreaded but necessary pelvic exam. What's next? A feature length film on the adventures of Virginia the Vagina?

GiggleSugar Best of the Week

GiggleSugar — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 04:00:00 -0700

If Demi Moore and Christina Aguilera can do it, so can we. WRONG!
Vagina Monologues: The Musical.
Remember Manimal? Or trying to forget it?
Tattoos officially, finally, totally jumped the shark here.
Toilet paper wedding dresses, caviar dreams.
Johnny Has Two Daddies. And one of 'em is cool as sh•t.
This adorable dog wants to help the kitty in the computer. But he doesn't know how...
Buy one, get me free!