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Mad Men: Why Is Vacation Sex So Good?

TresSugar — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 11:15:00 -0700

Last night on Mad Men, dapper Don Draper has to go to Rome on business, and seemingly on a whim, Betty asks if she can accompany him.

Once they're in Rome, something happens to Betty. She glams it up, flirts with Don, and their stultifying marriage seems to get an erotic adrenaline shot to the heart. It's as if they get to meet each other for the first time all over again. In fact, in one sequence, Betty waits for Don at an outdoor cafe, and when he sees that a couple Italian men are trying to pick her up, he pretends to horn in on their pickup. He sits down, begins chatting with her, and the Italian men, disgusted, leave.

Predictably, as soon as they get back home, Betty stiffens up and rebuffs Don's romantic overtures, telling him bluntly that she hates her life at home. He gives her a gift, a charm of the Roman Colliseum, and her deflating response is, "So every time I look at it I'll remember the time we had in Rome."

It would be wonderful if we could bring home the excitement we have with our partners on vacation. Although not all of us turn into stone cold Betties upon our returns home, there is something about traveling that can bring out our best. Why is vacation sex so good, and is it possible to keep the excitement going?

(For more Mad Men, check out BuzzSugar's 5 Maddest Mad Men moments from last night's episode.)

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Do You Have More Sex on Vacation?

TresSugar — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 13:30:00 -0700

Whether you're single and looking to mingle or getting away from it all with the old ball and chain, vacations can be highly conducive to good sex. But just because Summer travel season is over doesn't mean the fun should be too. Do you get more action on vacation?

What Do You Think of Returning to a Childhood Vacation Spot?

TresSugar — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 14:00:00 -0700

A friend told me last night that every year of her childhood, her family went to Toronto for vacation. For some reason, Toronto as a vacation spot surprised me, but then she said it was a city where her parents spent a lot of time before they had kids. They loved it and wanted their children to love it, too. "Well do you love it?" I asked, waiting for a no. "I do! I love Toronto."

And with that my entire concept of family vacations changed. Every Summer, except for one crazy one in Niagara Falls, my family went to the same beach in the same town on the same street. And while I have fond memories of my parents letting me eat/drink/have whatever I wanted for that one week, I also remember being restless and bored, wanting to explore while my parents wanted to relax. While I wouldn't turn down a (free) trip back today, I am not nostalgic for those beached days. I'd rather go to a city, like Toronto.

What about you?

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Do Tell: What's the Perfect Romantic Getaway Spot?

TresSugar — Wed, 13 May 2009 14:30:00 -0700

Being paired up comes with some perks - and whisking each other away on a romantic getaway is one of the best! Ditching your routine for some relaxation and adventure, while sneaking in the kisses and hand-holding you never have time for, makes for a lovely vacation.

If you could jet somewhere with a love interest, be it a budding relationship or a long-term lover, where would you go?

You Asked: Is Our Anniversary Ruined?

DearSugar — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

My fourth wedding anniversary is coming up at the end of this month. Every year, my husband and I try to take a vacation around this holiday. The problem is I plan the trip every year but have a lot going on with work right now and the stress of planning is just too overwhelming. I conveyed this to my husband and he said he would take on the task. I was a little apprehensive at first, maybe due to my own issues with control, but I got over it and agreed. Well here is the problem; we are now two weeks away from our anniversary and he has yet to plan anything! Last night, we looked online at some places within driving distance, but truth be told, I am a little upset that he didn't make more of an effort to plan something special. I fear that now, I will have to come up with something last minute. Why is it so hard to get a man to make plans?! - Disappointed Dina

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Dear Disappointed Dina,

I don't need to tell you that men are a different breed than women, and unfortunately, many men lack the planning gene. Of course it's disappointing that your husband hasn't already booked a wonderfully romantic getaway, but could he be surprising you with something? Is he the type to fake you out, lead you to believe that he didn't plan anything, all the while having something amazing up his sleeve? If that's just wishful thinking, your anniversary trip can still be great even if it is planned last minute.

Since you're obviously frustrated, tell your husband that you're upset that he didn't put forth more of an effort. If you hold onto your anger, it could turn into resentment rather quickly, so I suggest nipping it in the bud ASAP. Once you have that off your chest, take an hour or two each night to research your options and go from there. Lately it feels like there aren't enough hours in the day for anyone, so if you have to push out your trip by a week or two, do it if it means going someplace really special. In other words, don't just settle on a destination you can drive to if you usually use this vacation time to jetset somewhere unique. If you take the last-minute route, be sure to search the Internet for deals - many times traveling last-minute pays off. Good luck and happy anniversary!

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Where Do You Stand? Traveling Together

DearSugar — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:00:00 -0700

We all know that living with someone brings a completely new level of understanding to the relationship. You learn how the other person lived when you weren't around, and it becomes as clear as day whether or not you're a compatible couple. There are other circumstances that conquer the same goal though, and one that I find very telling is vacationing together, from conception to completion. Being able to communicate and plan, cope with small spaces, handle jet lag, and deal with any blunders along the way can be incredibly significant in a relationship - I'm sure you've all heard a horror story or two about a couple going on a dream vacay, only to return broken up! Perhaps I put too much emphasis on travel compatibility, so tell me where you stand on this matter. Is it as telling for you as it is for me?

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You Asked: Should I Quit My Job?

DearSugar — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I really dislike my job; I might even go as far as saying I hate it. I work for a hotel at the front desk, and not only do I have to deal with rude guests all day, but I have to deal with rude and inconsiderate co-workers as well. I have been with the company for over a year, but I've never felt appreciated and I dread going to work every day. I would quit, but I am taking a week paid vacation in November and I am moving to a different state in March, so I feel like maybe I should just stick it out until then. I'm afraid that if I leave now I wont be able to take my vacation, plus I can't really afford to go a week without pay. And I'm also afraid that if I leave after my vacation, it will look bad on my resume to only have had a job for four months. What should I do? Stick it out and be miserable for the next six months, or run while I can still salvage my sanity? - Disgruntled Dede

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Dear Disgruntled Dede,

Being unhappy at your job is a terrible feeling so I'm sorry you're restless, but since you have so many things going on in the next few months, it's probably best to just stick it out. The job market is incredibly tough right now so if you quit after your trip in November, there's no guarantee that you'll be able to find something else, especially if you're just going to be moving four months later.

Since you know there's a light at the end of the tunnel, do whatever you need to in order to make the most out of the next six months - if there wasn't an end date in sight, I would definitely tell you to hit the want ads! Starting each day with a bad attitude will only make the situation worse, so if you keep it all relative, chances are these next six months will fly by. Good luck and remember that March will be here before you know it!

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How Would You Feel If Your Significant Other Vacationed Without You?

DearSugar — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 07:00:00 -0700

Over the weekend, John Mayer was spotted in Cabo without his new girlfriend, Jennifer Aniston. Seems as though he was relaxing with his band mates and while I understand that distance can make the heart grow fonder, I have to say that I'd have hurt feelings if I were in her shoes. Of course, we don't know the circumstances in this situation, but how would you feel if your significant other went on a celebratory vacation without you when everyone else's wives/girlfriends were there? A lot of you think solo vacations are a do but what about for your partner? Does your opinion change when it's him going on vacation without you? Weigh in and tell me your stance on this kind of scenario.

Flynet

You Asked: Will Something Come of This?

DearSugar — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I have a guy friend who asked me to be his guest on an all-expenses paid trip next weekend. We have been friends for about a year, but I'm curious to see if it will develop into something more while we're away. I've always been very attracted to him, so how can I tell if he's into me too? I don't want to put myself out there first and get hurt. - Interested Izzie

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Dear Interested Izzie,

Before you go on this trip together, I think it would be a good idea to make sure you're on the same page. Since the jury is still out on whether or not men and women can just be friends, I'm leaning toward thinking he's interested in you as well, but before jumping to conclusions, I think a talk is in order. A vacation is supposed to be fun and relaxing, so getting there and being let down will no doubt put a huge damper on the weekend.

Being fearful of getting hurt is a perfectly normal apprehension, but chances are, he feels the same way. You have to assume he feels something for you - why else would he ask you on this trip? - so if I were you, I'd approach the conversation in a cheeky manner. Flirtatiously ask him if you'll be sharing a bed, or ask him if this will be a romantic weekend or an adventurous one; if you give him some inkling that you're interested, he'll most likely do the same. Follow your instincts on this one, as they most likely won't lead you down the wrong path. Good luck and have fun!

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A Do or a Don't: Solo Vacation

DearSugar — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:00:00 -0700

I like alone time, but the idea of going on a vacation by myself, even for a weekend, kind of scares me. So when a friend recently told me that she was planning a solo trip to France, I thought she was kidding. Imagining someone traveling alone just for the sake of being alone seemed incomprehensible. As soon as she got back, I demanded to know every last detail of her adventure.

I won’t lie; I thought she would say that I was right, taking a trip without company is no fun at all. But instead, she loved it! She was on her own schedule, had plenty of time for introspection, and met some amazing people along the way. I’m not a convert of the solo vaca (yet), but are you? Does the notion strike you as eye-opening or just plain terrible? Or, are there any of you who have already done it?

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