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True Confessional - I Lied to My Boyfriend

DearSugar — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 07:30:00 -0700

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"When my boyfriend asked me how many people I've slept with, I lied. The number I gave him actually needs to be multiplied by four. I know he'll never find out, but I feel guilty for lying. Can I be forgiven?"

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You Asked: Should I Tell Him About My Plastic Surgery?

DearSugar — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 12:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

This past Summer, I finally took the plunge and had a nose job. It wasn't anything too drastic - I just removed the bump I had always hated - and though most people cannot pinpoint what's so different about me, I feel like it has made a huge impact on my self-esteem. I have only told my closest friends and nobody else has asked.

So my question is really about my new boyfriend. He didn't know me before I had the rhinoplasty so is it something that I should tell him, or is it one of those things that doesn't really matter? I don't know why, but I have the urge to tell him as this was a big life-altering experience for me. But I don't want to give him the wrong impression - I'm not a vain person by any means. What do you think? - Wanting to Confess Carry

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Dear Wanting to Confess Carry,

Whether you're for or against plastic surgery, it's a personal decision that you should not be ashamed of. Clearly it did wonders for your self-esteem, so while I understand that you don't want to shout this news from the rooftops. If you have an urge to tell your boyfriend, I say go for it - after all, he'll probably figure it out sooner than later as old photos don't lie!

Yes, plastic surgery often comes with negative stigmas, but if your boyfriend is going to judge you for doing something for yourself, he might just not be the guy for you. Good luck!

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Dear Poll: Do You Tell Your Friends What They Want to Hear?

DearSugar — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 07:30:00 -0800

He's Just Not That Into You has been out for a week now, but I can't seem to get it out of my head! The clips in the beginning of the movie, where the women make excuses as to why the guy didn't call, were actually my favorite part. They come up with every reason in the book, ranging from "you're too pretty for him" to "he's waiting for you to call him"!

Though I happen to feel that honesty is the best policy, I'll admit that I've fibbed to my friends before to lessen the blow of the inevitable. What about you? Have you ever told a friend what she wanted to hear even though you knew the real answer was that he was just not that into her?

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You Asked: Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

DearSugar — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 11:30:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

I have a somewhat unique problem. While I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and know that he loves me in return, my parents don't approve of him. There has never been a falling out between them, and I still don't have a clear understanding as to why they dislike him; they just tell me to trust them because they "know best." My parents demanded that I break up with him, which I did for a while, until I realized how miserable I was without him.

We are now back together but my parents are in the dark about it. I feel sick inside knowing that I am betraying them, but then again, I'm thrilled to have this amazing guy who loves me more than I had ever imagined. I want everyone to get along, but I don't know how to make that happen - my parents are incredibly stubborn. Do you have any advice? - Torn Tory

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Dear Torn Tory,

Your parents having such strong feelings about you not being with this man raises a few red flags to me. While I don't doubt the fact that your boyfriend loves you, I'm left assuming that your parents know something you don't and they are simply trying to protect you. Since you don't have a clear understanding as to where they are coming from, a talk is definitely in order.

Ask your parents to be honest with you so you can get to the bottom of this once and for all, but remember that you'll have to be honest with them too, and that means coming clean about being back together. If they don't have a good reason why you shouldn't be together, explain to them why it's so important to you that they back off. Your happiness is what matters here so if this is all about a clashing of personalities, hopefully in time they'll be able to come to a middle ground. However, if your parents do have evidence to back up their ill will for this man, listen to what they have to say. Your parents might be older and wiser, but at the end of the day, the choice is ultimately up to you. Good luck to you.

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DearSugar Needs Your Help: His Trash Talking Is Getting to Me

DearSugar — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 09:00:00 -0800

DearSugar and Irked Izzy need your help. Her ex-fiance is badmouthing her and it's recently hit too close to home. Should she let it go, or confront him and stir up all those emotions from her split?

Dear Sugar,

Last February, my fiance, who I had been with for six years, called off our wedding that was only four months away. I am eternally grateful that he did this because it turns out that he was very wrong for me, but he wasn't very nice about our breakup and he left me completely high and dry. He refused to pay my parents back for any of the deposits for the huge wedding they were throwing for us; however, I let bygones be bygones.

I recently met a friend of my new co-worker who, lo and behold, dates my ex. Before we put two and two together, she went on to tell me about him, that he was once engaged, and she proceeded to run her mouth about his ex: me. Everything she said was a total lie, obviously fed to her by him, and I was left mortified. While I know the truth about our relationship and breakup, it still angers me to no end that he's lying to people about it. What should I do? Talk to him? Tell this girl the truth? Just forget about him altogether? I'm at a loss. - Irked Izzy

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True Confession - I Lied to Everyone About My Affair

DearSugar — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 07:30:00 -0800

I had a nine-month affair with a married man when I was 19 years old and he was 29. This was five years ago. After the truth came out, I told everyone I had no idea he was married, but truth was I knew the whole time; I was just too selfish to end it. I feel sorry for the pain I caused his wife, but can I be forgiven for being so naive?

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Has a Friend Ever Falsely Accused You of Something?

DearSugar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800

Last night's episode of The Hills was one of the most dramatic yet. We saw Lauren and Audrina's spat over Justin Bobby unfold before the show aired, but watching how it really went down made me realize just how ridiculous Audrina's accusations were. While I understand her reasons behind confronting both Justin and Lauren, their first denial should have been good enough for Audrina to simply drop the issue. I've never been falsely accused of something by a friend before, so I can only guess how frustrating it must be to defend your word against someone else's. Have any of you ever been accused by a friend of doing something you had absolutely nothing to do with?

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Sunday Confessional: I Told My Friend She Looked Bad

DearSugar — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800

A good friend of mine recently broke up with her live-in boyfriend of three years. Though it was her decision to end things, it was still a difficult choice to make; she still really cares about him. All her friends have been there for her and she's done a great job moving on. In an effort to put the past behind her, she wanted to make a change, so she committed the cardinal breakup sin of changing her look. She'd always had long, dark, beautiful chestnut hair and without consulting any of us, she went to the salon, cut it short, and dyed it blond!

She invited me over to come see her new locks and I was speechless - she looked like a completely different person! I could tell that she loved it and I could see a new sense of confidence in her face, but I absolutely hated it. In my opinion, she looked 10 times better before. When she asked my "honest opinion," I gave it to her. I told her it wasn't my favorite look on her. She got incredibly upset, told me I was an unsupportive friend, and asked me to leave her house. Now I'm feeling horrible for hurting my friend's feelings, but I didn't know what to do; she asked me to be honest! I've called her, written her emails, and sent text messages apologizing, but she won't return any of my efforts. I know I should have just lied under the circumstances, but can I be forgiven for speaking the truth?

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Would You Tell a Friend If You Thought She Was Making a Bad Decision?

DearSugar — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800

Audrina moved out of the house she shared with Lauren and Lo last night on The Hills, and while her move should have been an exciting moment for her, it seemed a bit tainted with the looming decision of whether or not Justin Bobby was moving in with her. She seemed to have jumped the gun a bit and while her friends were obviously worried about her intentions and expectations with the move, only one of them spoke up! Sure, it's her life and the decision was already made, but ladies, tell me, if you thought your friend was making a bad decision, would you tell her?

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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Mistakenly Accused Someone?

DearSugar — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Around here we talk a lot about how important it is to trust your instincts, which I’m a huge supporter of. We have those instincts for a reason! But every once and a while wires get crossed somewhere along the way and we misconstrue what are gut is telling us. I know this has happened to me before, and my incorrect instincts have led me to make a false accusation for which later, I felt rather foolish. I’m sure it’s more of an exception than a rule, but have you ever accused someone of something they didn’t do?

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