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Sunday Confessional: Mad About My Sister's Pregnancy

Tres Community — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 01:00:21 PST

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I'm so annoyed my sister is pregnant, considering I'm supposed to get married in 6 months. She just announced it. Way to steal my thunder.

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Jake Gyllenhaal on How His Sister Helps Him Love Women

TresSugar — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 11:30:50 PDT

"I admire her and continue to admire her. That might play into the reason I don't have much of a problem letting the women I've worked with shine. I love women."

- Jake Gyllenhaal tells Esquire UK that admiration for his sister Maggie has helped him honor all women. Just another benefit of having a sister!

Were You the Favored Child?

Colleen Barrett — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 04:00:28 PDT

Parents aren't supposed to have favorites, but they totally do. Sometimes it's as simple as birth order and personality, as complex as a personality connection, or as unfair as gender. So let's talk about unfairness. A survey, which spoke to 2,500 moms in the UK, determined sons really are mommas' boys.

Though one-half of moms (or should I say mums) acknowledge it's unfair to treat children differently, 90 percent confessed to doing so. They're twice as likely to be more critical of daughters, resorting to Britishisms like "stroppy" (touchy) to describe girls. Meanwhile boys are "funny," "playful," and, of course, "cheeky."

So whether you have brothers, sisters, or both, tell us if you felt like the favored child by either parent. Or not.

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The Benefit of Having a Sister

TresSugar — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 14:30:55 PDT

Siblings teach us how to maintain friendships, get along with different people, and resolve conflict, but sisters do all that while making us happier.

Researchers at Brigham Young University followed 395 families with more than one child - with at least one between 10 and 14 - for a year. Regardless of age differences or birth order, those with sisters were less likely to feel unloved or experience negative emotions like loneliness, guilt, self-consciousness, and fear.

As for the negative effects of sibling rivalry? While hostility is associated with a greater risk of delinquency, the skills learned from working out problems is invaluable. In fact, the greatest indicator of problems later in life has nothing to do with fighting at all, but a lack of affection between siblings - whether it's a sister or a brother.

Grab Bag! When a Younger Sister Gets Married First

TresSugar — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 13:15:29 PDT

Would you care if your younger sister got married first? - Lemondrop
What is "header face?" - The Frisky
Hot men you can see in theaters this Summer - BuzzSugar
And here are Summer date movies your guy might actually watch - GuySpeak
Overseas love or boyfriend? - YourTango
Texting is not communicating - College Candy

Source: Flickr User Jessica Higgins

Have You Ever Dated the Same Person as Your Sibling?

TresSugar — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 06:00:47 PST

Last week, one of my pals here at Sugar HQ told me a frightening story. While talking to her younger sister, she mentioned a nightmare date she went on with a guy she met online. As she started describing the guy and his aggressive touchy-feely nature, her sister wanted to hear more. Turns out the sister had been out with the same jerk a few times before! My friend was less than pleased, especially since this man probably knew they were related and never said anything. Still, not all siblings-dating-the-same-person stories are the same. Just like with friends, your sister might recognize that her ex could be your perfect match or vice-versa. Have you ever dated the same person as your sibling?

Do You Have a Lot in Common With Your Siblings?

TresSugar — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 13:00:07 PDT

The Knowles sisters both looked fierce today in Japan, where they are promoting handbags for Disney. Beyonce and her younger sister Solange both like to sing, but they seem to rock different personal styles and public personas. For example, when Solange shaved her head last month, the Twitter-happy sister explained to her tweeps: "i. just. wanted. to. be. free. from. the. bondage. that. black. women sometimes. put. on. themselves. with. hair." (Punctuation hers.) And Beyonce says that she turns to her sister, who happens to be a mother, for lessons on life: "She gives me a lot of advice because she's had some life experiences that I've never had." When it comes to you and your siblings, are you mirror images of each other or more like exact opposites?

Sunday Confessional: I Lost My Sister's Favorite Jacket

DearSugar — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 09:00:00 PST

I'm a forgetful person by nature and my older sister takes every opportunity possible to call me irresponsible.

Friday night her boyfriend surprised her and took her away for the night to celebrate their anniversary. She asked me to feed her cat while she was gone since I have a set of her keys, so while at her place, I browsed through her closet. I decided to borrow her leather jacket that I've always loved to wear out that night - I figured she'd never realize it was gone!

Later that evening, I went out with my friends, admittedly drank too much and went home with a guy I had been flirting with all night. In the morning, I rushed out of his place in order to get back to my sister's to feed her cat. As soon as I got out of the cab, I realized I had left her jacket in the backseat! My heart sank; it's her favorite article of clothing and she didn't even give me permission to borrow it! I've been guilt-ridden for the past two days and have no idea what to do. My sister is going to be furious with me and I just can't face her disappointment, even though I know I deserve it. I haven't mentioned it to her and I'm contemplating not saying anything at all. Can I be forgiven if I let her think someone else took it or that she herself lost it?

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Women's Colleges Try to Sell Liberal Arts in Middle East

LibertySugar — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 00:00:55 PDT

Five American women's colleges are taking their admissions presentations overseas - to the Middle East. School officials have been speaking with young women in Bahrain, Jordan, Kuwait, Oman, and the United Arab Emirates.

The appeal to Middle Eastern women is paradoxically natural and awkward. Single-sex education is the norm in the Middle East; however, liberal ideas espoused on traditionally free-thinking American female institutions do not find a home in the conservative region.

Middle Eastern women attending a "Sister" say they enjoy the invigorating political climate on campus. But, one thing did shock many at first - open displays of homosexual affection. One student said:

At the beginning, there were times when I’d have to close my eyes and say, "O.K., I’m at Mount Holyoke, and it’s different." But that lasted only a week or so, and now I have so many friends who are openly gay, and it makes no difference.

Ironically, the biggest challenge for the admissions officers isn't appeasing fears that the schools will be too wild, nor the opposite - convincing them that they are not nunneries. Instead, the schools must sell the value of a liberal arts education, as opposed to a professional degree. Do you think they can pull that off in the Middle East?

You Asked: Why Is He Always Here?

DearSugar — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 06:00:00 PDT

Dear Sugar,

I live with my sister. She has a boyfriend, and they've been together for almost a year. At first, she would go stay at his house and he would come stay at ours on limited occasions, but now he comes over almost daily. Instead of leaving in the morning like he used to, he's been hanging around until mid-afternoon. When we first moved in together, I had no idea that I'd have two roommates, and truth be told, I'm sick of it! He eats our food, uses our bathroom, and they are always all over each other and he just takes up way too much space. Do you have any suggestions to help me deal with this situation? - Needing Space Stacia

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Dear Needing Space Stacia,

Since I live alone, I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to have an unwelcome third party always in your personal space. Have you talked to your sister about your annoyance? Even though your roommate is your sister, she still needs to respect your needs.

Try sitting her down to set up some apartment ground rules. Let her know that this is your home too and that it isn't fair to you to have someone constantly around when you don't necessarily want him there. Since her boyfriend has a place of his own, suggest they stay at his house a few nights a week. Also, if he's taking up bathroom time in the mornings, ask her to have him get ready for his day at his own home so you don't have to be put out. I advise you not to come off angry or bitter, as that will only create drama in the house. Approach the situation with diplomacy and she'll be more willing to accommodate you. Good luck!

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