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Have You Ever Exacted Revenge After a Heartbreak?

TresSugar — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 16:42:43 -0700

In an amazing choreographed sequence on last night's episode of Glee, Mercedes tells her fellow glee club pal, the flamboyantly gay Kurt, that they need to make it official that they're dating. Instead of setting the record ~~straight~~ gay, Kurt says he's in love with another girl in their group. Mercedes's response? To bust the windows of his car.

I love the Jazmine Sullivan song "Bust Your Windows." There's something hilariously incongruous about the out-of-control sentiment and Jazmine's calm singing and the almost retro tune it's embedded in. Love makes people do crazy things.

Dancing With the Stars - Team Melissa!

DearSugar — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 11:00:00 -0700

I don't know about you, but I'm watching Dancing With the Stars this season merely to see ex-Bachelor contestant Melissa Rycroft shake her groove thing. After her embarrassing public breakup with fiancé Jason Mesnick, let's face it, she deserves her time under the spotlight! Of course, we don't know what really went on behind closed doors, but I'm still finding myself on Team Melissa. What about you? Are you routing for her to succeed, too?

Sunday Confessional: I Took Revenge

DearSugar — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700

A year ago I started dating a guy I met through a work conference. He was living across the country, but was in the process of transferring to my office for a promotion. We immediately fell for each other and decided to deal with the long distance for a few months before we could be together. During that time we kept things alive by doing a lot of online flirting - he even sent me some naked pictures of himself.

Due to the nature of our company, we decided to keep our relationship quiet even after his move. As it turned out, he was in another online relationship with an ex-girlfriend. I didn't figure this out until nine months later, after we had already discussed moving in together and making our relationship public. Fortunately we didn't, and I promptly dumped him for his betrayal - he didn't even seem to feel bad. I was heartbroken and decided to get back at him.

I created a fake email account, took one of the particularly unflattering nude pictures that he had sent me, and forwarded it to every person I could think of in our industry. When I came into the office the next day, the rumors had already started. Obviously I received a nasty response from my ex, but I just ignored it. In a few days the whole thing drifted away and for a moment, I felt satisfied, but then I found out that his boss had demoted him and was sending him back to his old office. Now that the consequences of my actions are clear, I feel torn. Can I ever be forgiven for this?

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Handle This: You Come Face to Face With Your Ex's Infidelity

DearSugar — Wed, 28 May 2008 13:00:00 -0700

After the admission of your boyfriend's affair, and the discovery of pictures of him with the other woman on a weekend getaway, you've finally called it quits. Though the last few months have been rough, you've just recently started to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In fact, you've finally begun to socialize again and get back to way things used to be.

During one of your first nights out with friends, you're having a great time until you see the girl from the pictures - your ex's lover, sitting at the bar buying drinks. She doesn't seem to notice you, and even though you know you shouldn't, you're just dying to say something to her, so ladies, how would you handle this?

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Blogging About Breakups

DearSugar — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 07:00:45 -0700

On Friday, The New York Times addressed the phenomenon of using the Internet and blogs to write about and process fallen relationships or take revenge on a disgraceful ex. The article notes:

For the blogger, the writing can be therapeutic . . . For some ex-spouses, revenge is not the point. Writing about divorce can be good for readership.

Of course, I can't help but think about the notion of the Internet as a tool for both revenge and therapy. Although I know that more than a few of us have taken revenge, is it OK to use the Web - where everything is easily and indefinitely accessible - to act out our personal vendettas? And though I always recommend journaling as a therapeutic method, I wonder if it's wrong to use a public venue for such a personal process. What do you think? Is the Internet really the place for breakups and divorces?

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Do Tell: What's the Worst Thing You've Done to Get Revenge?

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 07:00:00 -0700

A few weeks ago I posted a Group Therapy all about revenge. This woman's boyfriend cheated on her, and to get him back, she reported his illegal business to the IRS but then feared that she had gone to far. Now for those of you who believe in karma, any kind of revenge is probably crossing the line, but sometimes people need to know that there are consequences in life, right? Now I'm not one to go out of my way to get revenge - I believe more in what goes around comes around - but what about you? Do tell ladies: What's the worst thing you've ever done to get revenge on someone?

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Group Therapy: Oh How Revenge Is So Sweet - But Did I Go Too Far?

Thu, 03 Apr 2008 03:00:00 -0700

I met "G," we dated, had some hard times, and then things got really rough. He was the move too fast type. I was the slow it down and enjoy the ride type. Long story short, he cheated on me every chance he got. We got pregnant, I lost the baby, and he was completely unsupportive. "G" cheated during the whole relationship, and the final straw was when friends of mine saw friends of his at a club. A girl was flirting with "G" and he disappeared. He was nowhere to be found. I don't need to be a genius to figure out what he was doing.

He's a very money-driven man, so to get revenge on him, I reported his side business, on which he pays no taxes, to the IRS. Everything I reported was the absolute truth and things I had witnessed or he said directly to me, and in no way did I lie. But did I go too far?

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Girlfriend Writes Off Her Ex

GiggleSugar — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 11:00:00 -0800

And a good night's sleep. So much for not airing our dirty ~~laundry~~ mattress in public.

Thanks, College Humor!

Wife Gets Her Some Revenge!

GiggleSugar — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 01:00:00 -0800

I don't blame this lady one bit. Her husband sent her flying face-forward to the ground and had the nerve to put the prank on the Internet. Before long, her embarrassing tumble was all over the web and became a bona-fide viral hit. It's now time for a little payback; I hope the hubby likes the taste of humble pie. . .

Dear Poll: Would You Want Revenge?

DearSugar — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 08:00:00 -0800

Did any of you watch Cashmere Mafia last night? I'm still not sure how I feel about the show, but the issues these women are dealing with could happen to any one of us. If you've seen the first two episodes, you know that Juliet's husband has been having an affair. Once she found out his infidelity wasn't only happening on business trips, it was time for her to put the gloves on. She vowed to her husband that she was going to get even - she'd engage in her own affair, with one of their friends, and he wouldn't know when or with whom.

Enter Juliet's friend Caitlin. She took it upon herself to set her up with Bobby Walsh, an old business-school friend and perfect victim for her evil plot. Even though they only exchanged a kiss, I wanted to ask you how you felt about getting even like that? Sure, Davis made his bed so he's going to have to deal with the consequences if he wants to save his marriage, but do you feel that two wrongs make a right when it comes to matters of the heart?