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Tip No. 7: Surviving Valentine's Day When You're Coupled Up

DearSugar — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 04:00:00 -0800

Happy Valentine's Day everyone!!

Whether you're single or coupled up, I hope you are able to both share your love and be loved on this special day!

Patty Brisben is back, offering up her 14th and final tip on how to survive Valentine's Day, so to see what she has up her sleeve today, read more.

Valentine's Day is at the height of cold season and one of the best ways to boost your immune system is through massage. Couple the Pure Romance soy-based Burning Desire candle with the Hot Heart Massager to simulate a hot stone massage in the comfort of your own home. Massage has also been noted to have therapeutic qualities and helps to open the doors of communication between couples!

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Tip No. 2: Surviving Valentine's Day When You're Single

DearSugar — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

Since Valentine's Day is just two weeks away, I'm thrilled that Patty Brisben is back to teach us a few things about how to weather this holiday made for lovers, no matter what your relationship status is. I hope her first tip resonated with you, and if you want to see what she has to say today, simply read more.

Spoil yourself! Buy yourself that new Spring edition designer purse or shoes you've been ogling online or something else that will freshen up your wardrobe and make you feel sexy!

To see all of Patty's tips, click here.

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Tip No. 1: Surviving Valentine's Day When You're Single

DearSugar — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:30:00 -0800

Intimacy expert Patty Brisben brought us some great tips on how to avoid a sex slump during the holiday season, in addition to helping us figure out how to get the romance back afterward, and I'm thrilled to say that she's back! Since another holiday is approaching - this one dedicated to lovers - I thought it'd be helpful to have Patty teach us a few things about how to weather this international day of love no matter what your relationship status is. She'll be offering 14 tips from now until Valentine's Day, so enjoy!

To see Patty's first tip for the single gals, read more.

People often mistakenly believe that intimacy can only take place with a partner, but I'm here to tell you that this just isn’t true! There are all sorts of bedroom accessories that will give you a little pick-me-up on Valentine’s Day, or any time of the year for that matter. Sexuality starts with you, and that means discovering what makes you feel good and giving yourself pleasure regardless of whether you're single or attached.

Be sure to check back with us next week to see Patty's second tip!

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5 Ways to Get the Romance Back After the Holidays

DearSugar — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 06:00:00 -0800

Avoiding a sex slump during the holidays takes some work, but it can also be difficult to reconnect with your special someone after the holiday stress is behind you. In case you missed any of Patty Brisben's advice on how to do just that, I'm here to recap her five helpful tips on how to get the romance back after the holiday stress is behind you. Enjoy! Source

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Avoiding a Holiday Sex Slump Roundup

DearSugar — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 06:00:00 -0800

I was fortunate enough to have intimacy expert, author, and founder of PureRomance.com, Patty Brisben, join forces with DearSugar for the past two weeks to offer up some helpful tips on how to avoid a sex slump in your relationship this holiday season. I hope you took her advice to heart before it was too late, but in case you missed anything, here's a roundup of her first five tips. Enjoy! Source

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Tip No. 4 For Getting the Romance Back After the Holiday Stress Is Behind You

DearSugar — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:30:00 -0800

Check out Patty's fourth tip on how to bring the romance back to life after the holiday stress is behind you below:

For those of us who live in the colder climates, we often deal with sky-high energy bills; so why not crank down the heat after the holidays and use it as an excuse to get even closer under the covers!

To learn more about Patty, click here and to visit PureRomance.com, click here. To see her tips on how to avoid a sex slump during the holidays, click here!

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Tip No. 3 For Avoiding a Holiday Sex Slump

DearSugar — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 10:00:00 -0800

Patty Brisben, of PureRomance.com fame, is back to offer up another tip so we can learn how to avoid a sex slump of our own and master how to bring the romance back after the holiday stress is behind you. Check out her advice below:

Creativity has long been linked with sexual appetite, so share a creative project with your main squeeze - make personalized ornaments, bake holiday cookies, cook a romantic meal with one another, or decorate the Christmas tree. Even a small project like decorating a tree comes with challenges (making sure the tree doesn’t lean, that all the lights are working, etc.) and believe it or not, taking on a task and working through all the quirks together can often spark a little romance. You’ll both benefit from feelings of teamwork when you’re able to take a look at the final results of something you took on and accomplished together!

To learn more about Patty, click here and to visit PureRomance.com, click here. To see her previous tips, click here!

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Tip No. 2 For Avoiding a Holiday Sex Slump

DearSugar — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 07:30:00 -0800

I'm so excited to tell you that intimacy expert and author and founder of PureRomance.com, Patty Brisben, is joining forces with DearSugar to help us keep the fires burning in our relationships during one of the most stressful times of year - the holidays! Patty will be offering one tip daily for the next two weeks so we can learn how to avoid a sex slump of our own and master how to bring the romance back after the holiday stress is behind you.

Check out Patty's second tip below:

Commit to one date a week throughout the holiday season - even if it means getting a babysitter or dropping the kids off at the grandparents’ house. No excuses!

To learn more about Patty, click here and to visit PureRomance.com, click here. To see her previous tips, click here!

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Tip No. 1 For Avoiding a Holiday Sex Slump

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 07:30:00 -0800

I'm so excited to tell you that intimacy expert, author and founder of PureRomance.com, Patty Brisben, is joining forces with DearSugar to help us keep the fire burning in our relationships throughout one of the most stressful times of year - the holidays! Patty will be offering one tip daily for the next two weeks so we can learn how to avoid a sex slump of our own and master how to bring the romance back after the holiday stress is behind you.

Check out Patty's first tip below:

As we all know, different types of food have an effect on the libido; this is something especially important to watch over the holidays when many of us over-eat. People tend to be emotional eaters and the holidays are without a doubt an emotional time; better to stock your shelves with some healthy snacks to choose from! Try healthy foods that boost your libido like bananas, celery, avocado, asparagus, basil, figs, pumpkin seeds and garlic.

To learn more about Patty, click here and to visit PureRomance.com, click here.

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Slow Sex Movement Guru: On Romance and Sex

TresSugar — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 13:15:00 -0700

"I think that when you actually have raw intimacy, it isn’t sex, it isn’t romance, and it isn’t spirituality - it's just a pure connection."

This is the first in a four-part series of interviews I had with Nicole Daedone, who is emerging as the leader of the slow-sex movement and who founded the OneTaste urban retreat center in San Francisco. OneTaste invites men and women to learn about mindful sexuality by participating in workshops, yoga, and (for residents only) controversial "OMing" sessions in which men stroke women to orgasm during daily morning sessions. To read the first part of the interview and to see a Nightline segment on OneTaste, OMing sessions and Nicole, read more.

TrèsSugar: What is the goal of the OneTaste retreat center?
Nicole Daedone: I get apprehensive about using the word "revolutionize," but it's to revolutionize the way we look at sex. I think that we've gotten extremely distant from the actual "it" that it is and that it's gotten kind of pathological the further away we've gotten away from the source of it. That's why I like the idea of slow sex. You know, in the same way that we've industrialized food, we've industrialized sex. We've lost the meaning and the meaning really is simple: it's the most elemental energy that allows two people to come together and tune into their own body at the same time, which is a pretty profound thing. I think that we've lost track of that.

TS: In the age of the Internet and easily accessible fast food sex, I could see why slow sex would be important. But I was really struck by a comment on your website when you say that romance and all the expectations around it can also get in the way. I think a lot of heterosexual women feel, "I try to have sex to connect with this person, and sometimes the man is using sex to disconnect from me." So I was curious how you think that women's ideas about romance might actually create a problem, too.
ND: My experience is that romance is, to put it in Buddhist terms, the "near friend." It's when it's so close but it's not the "it" that you're looking for - but it's enough to keep yourself comfortable. And that if you go to the deeper, value-neutral sexuality, you can have romance as a byproduct. But if you go to romance, you aren’t going all the way and you don’t get the value-neutral energy that you can use the sexuality for. And so what I’m interested in is having people go to the raw, rich, nutrient place of sexuality and then learn how to use it for a deeper purpose.

TS: So you would say that the romance part is a delusion in a way?
ND: I don’t know that it's a delusion, but I think that it can be an obstacle in that it can be misused as a means of actually decreasing intimacy. So if I have this idea about who you are and I just keep trying to stuff you into that idea, and not actually discover who you are or have curiosity, that's the biggest danger of romance, that I have an idea of what I want and I keep trying to fit you into it. I don’t relate to the parts of you that don't correspond with the idea.

TS: We're so used to pathologizing male sexuality ("all they’re looking for is sex" or something like that) that I think there is a way in which we don't think about how, for some women, "all they’re looking for is romance" and that, too, may rob them of a true experience with the person.
ND: Exactly. I think that when you actually have raw intimacy, it isn't sex, it isn't romance, and it isn't spirituality - it's just a pure connection.