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What Your Music Says About Your Personality

TresSugar — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:00:00 PST

This Sunday is the Grammy Awards, and while some may think music is just entertainment, it may say more about who you are than you think. One glimpse at the top-25 tracks in your iTunes can tell a lot about you. Introversion and extroversion are perhaps the two characteristics that most affect what music people tune into. Though both temperaments will roll - or rock - with their moods and activities, extroverts are more likely to reach for upbeat music that's heavy on vocals while introverts gravitate toward slower tunes with complex movements.

One surprise is that there's no connection between the abrasive lyrics common in rap and heavy metal and aggressive or sexual behavior. Listeners of heavy metal, particularly, have shown to be sensitive and gentle souls. In fact, they have a lot in common with classical music lovers. They're both creative, easy-going, and introverted.

Whether you listen to pop and rap or indie and classical, see what it says about you.

Source: Flickr User -Alina-

Do You Believe in the Birth Order Effect?

Leta Shy — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 15:15:40 PDT

What's in your birth order? Many studies have shown that the family pecking order has a lot to do with how we turn out as adults and which career paths we choose. Whether it's because you've learned the ropes by the time the second baby comes around or for other reasons, have you seen certain quirks from your cuties that can be explained by their birth order? Take a look at the traits of each type - only, oldest, middle, and youngest - and let me know if birth order can explain how your wee ones turned out!

Discover Your Flirting Style - If You Have One

Colleen Barrett — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 14:20:09 PST

I just stumbled upon an academic inquiry into the age-old subject of flirting by the University of Kansas. I love taking surveys, so naturally I clicked away. It's based on the five types of flirts we already know: physical, traditional, polite, sincere, and playful. But the results - while probably correct - don't really sugarcoat things. Clearly, they were not written by a polite flirt!

Above are the results for your TrèsSugar editors, and if you cannot tell by my bitterness the bottom results are mine and the top are Annie's. Yes, according to this survey I am a flirting disaster. Not only do my results say you are not "competent in expressing sexual interest to potential partners," but also "When flirting, it is not very likely that you are: successful." Well, you know, nobody's ever called me a flirt, so maybe it's not that far off.

Now we're wondering how Très readers stack up as a whole, so go take the survey and tell us your results below.

Link Time - Teen Idols Who Grew Up to Be Less Hot

TresSugar — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 13:52:00 PST

Mmmbop! - The Frisky
New celebrity photo trend: debuting your baby in bed with you - LilSugar
How to boost a woman's sexual self-esteem - Em & Lo
Mistakes to avoid when getting dumped - YourTango
A look at divorce and race - Huffington Post
Would you tell a friend if you knew her boyfriend cheated? - Glamour

Why Introverts Make Great Social Influencers

Annie Scudder — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 11:15:59 PST

Introverts' ability to think first and talk later might be their secret weapon when it comes to influencing people around them. Research shows that common traits like better reasoning and decision-making skills, as well as the ability to make longer-lasting relationships, put introverts among the more effective social influencers. Introverts also have increased blood flow to the part of the brain responsible for memory, planning, complex research, and problem solving, helping them take the lead in their personal and professional lives. At work, they can overcome competing with flashy extroverts by using their attention to detail and original thinking to their advantage. The tendency to avoid office politics doesn't hurt either.

To illustrate the power of introverts ,the Daily Mail points to JK Rowling, who was recently crowned Britain's most influential woman. The Harry Potter author is a self-proclaimed introvert, as are, according to the paper, Gwyneth Paltrow, Bill Gates, the Queen, and Barack Obama. I wonder though: are these successful famous people really naturally introverted, or just prone to looking inward because they have so much public attention?

If you have introverted tendencies, do you think they've helped you in your relationships?

Do You Take Criticism Personally?

Annie Scudder — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 04:00:27 PDT

At the ripe old age of 29, Jessica Alba feels older and wiser. While she admits she used to take critical feedback personally, the actress and mother now appreciates and even enjoys it. She told Elle:

"I'd been so afraid of criticism ever since I was young. Every time I'd get a critique or some redirection, I'd always just take it very personally, but now I have no problem with it. It's just a chance to try things a different way."

Jessica has a great outlook, but sometimes staying positive is easier said than done. When someone criticizes your work or personal life, do you resent it?

Link Time - What Your Favorite TV Show Says About You

TresSugar — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 14:00:30 PDT

Do you agree with what your favorite shows say about you? - BuzzSugar
Why your guy's female friends are a good thing - YourTango
Eating disorders aren't just for women - CollegeCandy
7 guys you should never date - Glamour
Famous love letters from history - Glo
Has weight ever impacted your relationship? - Lemondrop
Does the guy have to pay more in a relationship? - SavvySugar

Can a Guy Be Too Nice?

Annie Scudder — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 14:40:17 PDT

Last week, a TrèsSugar community member asked for advice about a guy she was dating. He calls her, makes plans weeks in advance, and even delivered flowers to her at work. So what's wrong with him? Nothing. And that's the problem. The guy meets all her standards, but she says the thoughtful gestures are turning her off. I'm thinking it might be a matter of attraction. If she was into him, she would probably find his actions sweet. Even so, do you think a guy can have everything going for him and still be too nice?

Scientifically Proven: What Your Social Network Says About You

GeekSugar — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 07:30:44 PDT

One of the greatest things, I think, to come out of social media is the fact that we all think out loud online, and that can lead to some very interesting sociological conclusions. Facebook, Twitter, and other social networks give researchers tons of quantifiable data on the state of the human race. For example, remember that study released earlier this month that found that all Facebook users are narcissistic and insecure? Our online selves give researchers access to a gold mine of information that they can interpret and analyze to try and gain insight about society as well as individual personalities. Want to learn more about yourself? For 10 things researchers have learned about you from your online profiles and Twitter activity just

Status messages make us feel more connected with each other.
We are passive consumers of information.
Our movie recommendations matter more at the box office than critic's reviews.
We like people more if they express themselves, both online and in real life.
Our Twitter conversations predict larger social trends.
We value our online friends for practical advice and recommendations.
Who's in our Twitter lists tell people about our personality and interests.
Women make up over half of Twitter users, but men still have more followers.
The top 10 percent most-active Twitter users account for over 90 percent of all tweets.
The most influential Twitter users are often just average Joes, not celebrities.

What do you think? Do these researchers have your personality down, or are they missing the mark? Some of these insights seem like no-brainers to me (of course we feel connected to friends when we learn about what's happening in their lives via status updates, right?), but I do like the fact that scientists are using all our seemingly vapid musings and mundane status updates to help us learn more about ourselves as a society.

Group Therapy: Copycat Friend?

Tres Community — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 06:00:25 PDT

This question comes from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I'm wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem, beyond their teenage girl years - lately I feel as though a close friend is starting to copy my activities and hobbies. There's nothing wrong with shared activities (many people share hobbies, after all!) but I feel like the things that made me original she is now determined to also do - photography, blogging, cooking, marathoning, getting a tattoo to celebrate being 30 . . .

I feel like there soon won't be anything I do that she doesn't also do . . . and I know, it sounds ridiculous to feel like my identity is being threatened, I'm not a kid anymore. Any advice?

Have a dilemma of your own? Post it, anonymously, to Group Therapy for advice, and check out what else is happening in the TrèsSugar Community.