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Do Tell: What's the Last Lie You Told?

TresSugar — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 09:00:00 -0700

I've yet to see Ricky Gervais's new movie The Invention of Lying, but I can't escape the commercials! Every time I see an ad about the movie's imaginary universe where lying is impossible, I wonder: could I go without lying?

I then search my mind for all the big lies or small fibs I might have told in the past. I'm happy to reveal that I'm not guilty of any Don-Draper-sized lies, but I have told a few white ones to avoid embarrassment or hurting someone's feelings.

What was the last lie you told? (And don't forget, you can always get confessions off your chest anonymously in our Confession Booth group.)

Lying Liars and the Lies They Tell

TresSugar — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 09:00:00 -0700

Last night's Gossip Girl episode may have been titled "The Lost Boy," but it should have been called "Nine Lies." Who isn't lying to whom? Blair and Chuck lie to each other to get into the Sotheby's auctions. Georgina - surprise - lies to Dan about her reformed ways. We think Carter lies to Serena, but it's really Blair and Chuck playing a trick. And then Scott, who's been lying to Vanessa, Dan, and Rufus about going to NYU, tells a new lie while trying to come clean on the original one.

At the episode's end, all the lies are exposed and forgiven, and all is well both uptown and downtown. Until next week, anyway. The lies in our lives may not be as exorbitant as those told on GG, but we all tell lies and are lied to. What's the worst lie you've been told by a friend, suitor, or significant other? Was it a deal breaker, or did you forgive?

For more Gossip Girl coverage, check out Buzz's recap, CelebStyle's fashion breakdowns, and the quizzes on Bella, Fab, and Geek.

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News Flash: Men Are Bigger Liars

TresSugar — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 13:00:00 -0700

After scrutinizing 2,000 Britons, researchers found that in general, men lie twice as much as women. On average, they lie six times a day and women lie "just" three times a day.

The most common lie told by both men and women is, "Nothing's wrong. I'm fine." Men, however, tend to lie about how much they've had to drink, and women lie about how much they spent shopping.

Although 83 percent of adults said they can tell if their significant other is lying, body language expert Richard Newman thinks most people can't tell what signs to look for. "They assume that if someone is hiding the truth," he says, "they would hide their face and avoid eye contact. In fact, the opposite is true. Liars usually do everything they can to convince you of the truth, sitting still and looking at you to watch your reaction."

Now I'm trying to think if I've lied yet today . . .

Sunday Confessional - I'm Thinking About Having an Abortion

DearSugar — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 09:00:00 -0700

I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful man who I love dearly. He's currently in medical school and we are spending every last bit of our savings to have the wedding of our dreams. We talk openly about our future, especially when it comes to starting a family of our own, and we decided that we'd wait until he's done with school and his residency, and once we've saved a significant chunk of money. Our wedding is just two months away and I thought my period was late due to the wedding stress, but I was wrong - I'm pregnant.

Having a baby is not something I'm ready for, and it's definitely not the right time for my fiance either, so I'm seriously contemplating having an abortion. I don't know how he's going to react to this news, which is why part of me wants to not even tell him at all. I know that starting our marriage off with a lie is wrong, but could I be forgiven for terminating this pregnancy without telling him? If he doesn't know, will it not hurt him?

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True Confessional - I Lied to My Boyfriend

DearSugar — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 07:30:00 -0700

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"When my boyfriend asked me how many people I've slept with, I lied. The number I gave him actually needs to be multiplied by four. I know he'll never find out, but I feel guilty for lying. Can I be forgiven?"

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You Asked: Did My Boyfriend Cheat?

DearSugar — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 13:17:05 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I went to the doctor today to find out why I was experiencing a painful breakout on my nether regions, and it turns out I have herpes. I have been with only one man for the last two years, and he is the only man I have ever had intercourse with.

I had a serious talk with him today, and he told me that before we started dating, he got tested for every STI, and they all came back negative. I'm so confused because from what I have read online, the initial outbreak usually happens within two to four weeks of contraction, but we have been together for more than two years! Did he cheat? Has this infection laid dormant in him for years? I am scared and confused. Any advice would be a great comfort to me right now. - Taken Aback Abbie

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Dear Taken Aback Abbie,

You are right, the first outbreak of genital herpes usually happens within two weeks after it's contracted, so I'm a little wary of your boyfriend's honesty. It is possible for someone not to know he has the infection - sores can often be present in places where they can't easily be seen - but if he was tested two years ago and got a negative result, it's pretty obvious that he's contracted this STI since then; in other words, he most likely did cheat on you.

Unfortunately, what's done is done, and I'm terribly sorry that you've been put in this situation, but now you have to decide how to proceed. Obviously you need to have another serious talk with your boyfriend, but I also suggest you get tested for other STIs and talk to you doctor about medication and treatment options for the herpes you do have.

I know that you're scared right now, and I wouldn't be surprised if you start to experience feelings of betrayal and sadness too, so turn to your loved ones for support. Good luck to you.

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Sunday Confessional - I Can't Stand To Be Around My Friend and Her Baby

DearSugar — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 09:00:00 -0800

My best friend recently had a baby. She and her husband tried for years to get pregnant, so when it finally happened for them, she was over-the-moon excited. Since she's had her beautiful baby boy, she's gone above and beyond the call of mom duty, and has completely let all her other relationships fall by the wayside.

As a mother myself, I know how time-consuming caring for a child is, but she has taken things to a whole other level. She's become a huge germaphobe and is reluctant to take her baby outside of her house, she constantly talks in baby voice, and all she ever wants to talk about is babies.

If her friends want to see her, we have to go to her (which is fine at first), but when we do go over, we have to go through a lengthy process of washing our hands and disinfecting everything that comes in contact with the baby. I love my best friend with all my heart, but I have to admit that it pains me to be around her and her child. It's gotten to the point where I make up stories to avoid them and I'm starting to feel incredibly guilty about it. Can I be forgiven?

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Sunday Confessional - I Stole From My Grandfather

DearSugar — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,
I did something horrible and I feel terrible about it.

My grandfather recently asked me to get him some cash from the ATM by his house. He gave me his pin number and instead of getting the $100 he asked for, I took out another $400 for myself without his permission. I lost my job a few weeks ago so money is tight, but I know that is no excuse to steal from my own grandfather, who, mind you, has always been extremely generous to me.

I haven't told anyone about this but I'm petrified that he will find out. I love my grandfather; he is the nicest, most kind man I've ever known and I don't know why I ever took advantage of him like I did. Can I be forgiven for making a mistake I'm truly sorry for?

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Dear Poll: Do You Tell Your Friends What They Want to Hear?

DearSugar — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 07:30:00 -0800

He's Just Not That Into You has been out for a week now, but I can't seem to get it out of my head! The clips in the beginning of the movie, where the women make excuses as to why the guy didn't call, were actually my favorite part. They come up with every reason in the book, ranging from "you're too pretty for him" to "he's waiting for you to call him"!

Though I happen to feel that honesty is the best policy, I'll admit that I've fibbed to my friends before to lessen the blow of the inevitable. What about you? Have you ever told a friend what she wanted to hear even though you knew the real answer was that he was just not that into her?

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Sunday Confessional - I Lost the Bracelet My Boyfriend Gave Me!

DearSugar — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

My boyfriend and I celebrated Christmas together for the first time last December. Though we are both watching our spending, we decided to go all out. I got him an awesome new suitcase that he had his eye on, and he got me a beautiful bracelet from my favorite boutique. I couldn't have asked for a more thoughtful gift - I absolutely love it and I wear it every day!

The other night, on our way home from drinks with friends, my boyfriend looked down at my wrist and asked me why I wasn't wearing the bracelet. My heart sank - I was wearing it - it must have fallen off. In an effort to not upset him, I told him that I had forgotten to put it back on after I got out of the shower.

First thing the next morning, I called the boutique where he got it and asked if they had any more left. They didn't, but the sales woman told me they could special order another one for me. I gave her the green light, but it won't get here for another two to three weeks. I don't know how I long I can make up stories before he finds out the truth, but since I lied to my boyfriend's face when he originally asked me where it was, I feel like I need to keep up the charade as long as I can. I don't condone lying and have made that very clear ever since we first started dating, so can I be forgiven for being a complete hypocrite?

Submit your own Sunday Confessionals here and see if you are forgiven!

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