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Little Becky Makes Another Prank Call

GiggleSugar — Thu, 31 May 2007 08:00:00 -0700

Little Becky is up to no good again. This time, she tries to pass as Mariah Carey over the phone and attempts to make hotel reservations at a fancy French hotel. Without even attempting to disguise her little voice, she gets the hotel operators to stay on the line and indulge in her antics. That is, until she gets offensive.

Little Becky's Phone Call

GiggleSugar — Wed, 02 May 2007 09:41:52 -0700

This kiddo is much smarter than I was as a child. School was a pain in the arse, but I didn't think I could do anything about it. Little Becky, however, has schemed up the perfect plan and it involves a demolition company, explosives, and a few nasty teachers. First she makes a phone call for an estimate of the damage to be done and although she may be serious (hey, Mom, time for some therapy for Becky?) this is hilarious.

You Asked: Should I Trust Him?

DearSugar — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and half and everything has been great so far. I've been cheated on in the past but I think I've been doing really well not pressing too hard with my trust issues but the other day I came across my boyfriend's opened Facebook inbox. He had been messaging with a one-night stand he had before we met. The conversation was flirtatious and even though he's always been a very sweet boyfriend otherwise, I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if anything necessarily happened, but flirting online with another woman is just not OK in my book. I told myself I would never let myself get cheated on again but I have no idea how to approach him. Should I break up with him? Give him another chance? I'm so torn! - Online Banter Becky

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Dear Online Banter Becky,

Before jumping to any conclusions, I think you owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to get all the facts. I agree with you that flirting online with another woman is unacceptable, but is there a possibility you could have been reading the message out of context? Are you sure they just weren't being a little too friendly verses flirtatious? Was it a recent message?

Since your boyfriend has been nothing but trustworthy thus far, I suggest you calmly ask him to explain himself and let the conversation flow from there. Try not to be accusatory or he'll most likely act defensive. Of course you don't want to set yourself up to be cheated on again, but before breaking up with him hastily, make sure you have all the information you need to make the right decision. I wish I could tell whether to break up with him or give him another chance, but unfortunately only you can make that decision. The best advice I can offer you is to hear him out and follow your gut - good luck!

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You Asked: Should I Confront Her?

DearSugar — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 03:00:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

My so-called best friend has never approved of my now husband. We used to work together but we're not as close anymore because I changed jobs. I started dating my husband when her and I spent a lot of time together, going out every Friday and Saturday night and we were basically inseparable. I revealed a secret of my husband's to her and she didn't approve of it.

Fast forward to now, almost two years later, we don't talk much anymore because she's always "too busy." I ran into her today while taking my grandma to the doctor. We were sitting in the same waiting room and she came over to show me a picture of one of her guy friends and told me that she wished I was single so she could hook me up with him. Inappropriate much? I was telling my sister about this and she told me that whenever she runs into her, she speaks negatively about my husband, calling him creepy and weird and says that we'd never last. Obviously all these things really hurt my feelings. Do I confront her or let sleeping dogs lie?
- Feeling Burned Becky

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Dear Feeling Burned Becky,

Let me first start out by saying that this woman is not your friend. Her childish ways are hurtful and mean so I am glad to hear that you're no longer as close. With that said, it sounds as though her actions are driven by jealousy. Since you used to be inseparable before you met your husband, she probably feels a little left out - like you chose him over her. If she was a good friend, she would be supportive of you even though she doesn't approve of your husband's secret.

Yes, trying to set you up with her friend even though you're married is wrong, but bad mouthing your husband is even worse so you can do one of two things. Let it go, be the bigger person, and have faith that anyone that knows you and your husband won't listen to the awful things this woman is saying, or you could confront her and let her know how rude and inappropriate her actions have been. Whatever you choose to do, be glad that you no longer have someone like this in your life. I am confident when I say you're much better off without her. Good luck.

Source

You Asked: How Do we Stop the Fighting?

DearSugar — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years off and on. I have done a lot of things to hurt him and break his trust in the past. We love each other very much but the problem is we can't stop fighting. We fight at least once a day and we say and do things that we later regret. We are both very stubborn and always have to be right. We can't end an argument because we both have to have the last word. I've tried getting advice from other people but the answers are not what we are looking for like couples counseling or putting money in a jar every time we get mad. We really need some advice that works. Breaking up is not an option for either of us but the fighting is getting exhausting. We really need some good advice. -- Brawling Becky

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Dear Brawling Becky--

I am sorry to hear about all this fighting but unfortunately, I have some of the same advice as your friends, I think seeing a couple's counselor or a therapist would do wonders for you and your relationship. Are you fighting because there are still deep seeded problems from your past that neither one of you have been able to let go or are you fighting so you can simply make up? Some couples thrive off the drama of arguing, making up, and even being incredibly nasty to each other, but in the long run, that dynamic gets old and tiring, eventually leaving both people in the relationship hurt and wanting more.

Perhaps taking a few days apart from each other will help gain some perspective. Do you have a friend you can stay with or a family member? It sounds like you just need a little distance to start appreciating each other again. If breaking up isn't an option, you're going to have to work together to end your constant battling. Try talking to each other before you reach the point of arguing and think before you say things you will later regret. If you don't get a grasp on what is causing this anger between you two, one of you will grow intense resentment for the other that could in turn destroy your relationship so I suggest getting outside help before it's too late. Good luck.

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Washing Machine for Sale? A Prank Call

GiggleSugar — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 13:57:47 -0700

A used washing machine for sale at the low price of $25? Someone's obviously selling a lemon and the caller below is gonna make some fresh squeezed lemonade. He's calling in response to an ad for the machine, but he doesn't have any inquiries or interest. He's just being polite. That's all. (Remember fiendish little Becky? Yeah, this ain't her style.)

A Little More Burly And Now I'm Curly

DearSugar — Fri, 08 Dec 2006 10:00:00 -0800

Dear Sugar
I just turned 35 and over the past three years I have put on roughly 20 lbs. Since my weight gain, my hair has drastically changed and is now coarse and curly. I've always had a little bit of a wave to it, but nothing like this. My hair used to grow like a weed and now it feels like forever in between my haircuts. Is there any connection between my weight gain and my hair? Hair Bent Becky

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Dear Hair Bent Becky
Has your body been through any other changes besides weight gain? I have found no direct correlation between weight gain affecting your hair chemistry. The quality and quantity of your hair is genetically determined, however there are some extenuating circumstances that could affect changes in your hair cycle.

Are you on any medication? People who have been on Chemotherapy often times find their hair grows back curly and significantly thicker. If that doesn't apply to you, have you recently turned grey? Grey hair is known to grow in coarse, but not necessarily curly.

Hair cells have growth periods and rest periods and our hair grows pretty consistently at the rate of about a half an inch a month. If you feel like your hair isn't growing as fast, your follicles might be in the rest phase. I hope I have been of some help to you. Hormones are probably to blame for this sudden change, but if you are still concerned, I suggest consulting your doctor or a hair expert.

Aren't you hitting on the wrong girl?

DearSugar — Fri, 01 Dec 2006 08:05:16 -0800

Dear Sugar
My childhood friend has been dating her boyfriend for over two years and they seem to be very much in love. I don't know much about him, only what she has told me, as we all live in different cities. The other night, a big group of us went out to dinner and dancing for a mutual friend's birthday. We all had a little too much to drink and I noticed that my friend's boyfriend was watching me from across the bar.

I tried to let it slide, but it seemed like every time I turned my head he was right there. I started getting weirded out so I told my boyfriend. He thought I was over-reacting. I tried to let it go, but I could tell that what I was feeling was powerful. Later, on the dance floor, out of nowhere my friend's boyfriend came up to me, took hold of my head and started kissing the back of my neck.

I was disgusted and immediately shoved him off of me and ran over to tell my boyfriend. All my friends saw the kiss except for my best friend. The news spread like wild fire and he of course blamed everything on me. He told my friend that I was making advances at him all night and leading him on. Unfortunately, my friend believed him.

The following day I called her several times but she never answered. I kept calling and I even stopped by her house, but she wouldn't talk to me. I am heart broken that she is taking his word over mine. We have been best friends for over 15 years and I am devastated. Why is she acting this way? Should I apologize even though I did nothing wrong to try to mend this friendship? Bummed Out Becky

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Dear Bummed Out Becky
I am really sorry to hear about your predicament; what an awful situation. Fighting with your best friend can feel like the worst feeling in the world. What bad timing that everyone saw her boyfriend's sleazy moves but her. I think you have done the right thing by reaching out to her. Have you heard how she is doing from any mutual friends? Do you know if they are they still together?

Since you did nothing wrong, I would not apologize or own up to something you didn't do. If you want to mend the situation, you can let her know how sorry you are for this situation and try explaining to her that it is very hard for you as well. Since she is not answering your calls, try writing her a letter or sending her an e-mail explaining your side of the story.

Let her know how much her friendship means to you and how upset you are by this horrible misunderstanding. Reiterate that you would never purposefully hurt her. Do your best to try to make her see that you are not the one to blame.

Sometimes people need their space to work through trying times. I think all you can do, if she does not respond to your efforts, is wait for her to be ready. Hopefully, for your friend's sake, she will realize that her boyfriend is not worth her time and you are her true friend. Good Luck.

Bloated And Miserable

DearSugar — Thu, 25 May 2006 12:10:06 -0700

Dear Sugar
I am on birth control and I feel like I'm permanently bloated! Is this ever going to go away? It's been about a month and a half...I just want to go back to normal. Will it normalize? And if not, what can I do to minimize it? Bubble Bellied Becky

Dear Bubble Bellied Becky
I feel your pain - being bloated is really uncomfortable. But don't worry because it should go away soon. A little while back, I wrote to On The Pill Jill about ways to control bloating when you start "the pill". Reducing your sodium intake is the first thing you should do. In addition, drink tons of water over the next few days to help flush out your system. I know this is going to sound gross, but are you going to the bathroom regularly? Constipation is a leading cause of bloating. If you are still feeling uncomfortable or in pain, you should see your doctor to hopefully rule out having a digestive condition such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome (but that is worst case scenario). There is a new drug out on the market now called Zelnorm which targets the ABC's (abdominal discomfort, bloating and constipation). It's worth looking into if your bloating does not diminish.

GiggleSugar Best Of The Week

GiggleSugar — Sat, 05 May 2007 10:36:15 -0700

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The Whizzle Chizzle.
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The difference between men and women.
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Little Becky needs to lose phone privileges.