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Lying About Your Child’s Age

LilSugar — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 09:00:22 PDT

When it comes to fudging the truth, are kids or adults the experts? Tweens find ways to round up their age to sound older than their actual years while their parents try to slow the aging process and round as their own birthdays pass. At the park the other day, I overheard a woman admitting she flat out lies to her gym about her child's age so they will admit her to the daycare. Her friend claimed they skirt the 2-year-old airline regulation by begging their son not to speak when asked how hold he is - an interesting tactic considering most airlines require a birth certificate upon arrival. Nevertheless, the conversation got me thinking – do you fib about your wee one's age?

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Awkward! I Feel Guilty For Believing Hateful Gossip

TresSugar — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 04:00:00 PDT

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario for you that she needs you to weigh in on.

"I recently discovered that a friend had been lying and conning me for about eight years. As the friendship dissolved, I realized she'd played everyone in her life against the others, to the point of telling people I had been abusing her daughter.

During the friendship, she told me horror stories about a friend that I met through her. As with most con artists, her lies were based on readily available information, making them seem very plausible. Because of this, I told the mutual friend I thought she was neglecting her son and being a bad parent. Now that I don't believe a word this con artist has ever told me, I feel a tremendous amount of guilt and regret having accused and lectured the mutual friend.

This mutual friend (who is still friends with the con artist) cut off all ties with me, but should I reach out to her and explain everything or let it rest? The ex-friend has been telling terrible lies about me since I stopped talking to the mutual friend."

DearSugar Needs Your Help: His Trash Talking Is Getting to Me

DearSugar — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 09:00:00 PST

DearSugar and Irked Izzy need your help. Her ex-fiance is badmouthing her and it's recently hit too close to home. Should she let it go, or confront him and stir up all those emotions from her split?

Dear Sugar,

Last February, my fiance, who I had been with for six years, called off our wedding that was only four months away. I am eternally grateful that he did this because it turns out that he was very wrong for me, but he wasn't very nice about our breakup and he left me completely high and dry. He refused to pay my parents back for any of the deposits for the huge wedding they were throwing for us; however, I let bygones be bygones.

I recently met a friend of my new co-worker who, lo and behold, dates my ex. Before we put two and two together, she went on to tell me about him, that he was once engaged, and she proceeded to run her mouth about his ex: me. Everything she said was a total lie, obviously fed to her by him, and I was left mortified. While I know the truth about our relationship and breakup, it still angers me to no end that he's lying to people about it. What should I do? Talk to him? Tell this girl the truth? Just forget about him altogether? I'm at a loss. - Irked Izzy

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Dear Poll: Do You Have an Office Gossip?

DearSugar — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 09:00:00 PST

No matter how much you try to avoid it, gossip is an ever-present part of life. It can be mean and hurtful if what you're gossiping about isn't true, but at the same time, it can be kind of fun to share news and other personal tidbits of information with your significant other or best friend! Gossip around the office, however, is a whole different story. While it's inevitable, it can put someone's reputation in jeopardy. In my past office experiences, there's been one token office gossip that everyone knew to avoid, so tell me, do you have one in your office too?

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True Confession - I Keep Their Secrets

DearSugar — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 07:00:00 PDT

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"I have some pretty strange friendships with the married men in my circle of friends. They tell me all about their affairs but I don't say anything to their wives. Am I as much at fault here?"

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Have You Ever Lied to Your Family About Your Living Situation?

DearSugar — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 09:00:00 PDT

You could have cut the tension with a knife last night on The Hills when Heidi's mom made a surprise appearance for her daughter's birthday. Apparently she was unaware that Spencer had moved back in and was disappointed, to say the least, to have been kept in the dark. Although Heidi's mom's distress was mostly due to her daughter's dysfunctional relationship, I know not all parents are accepting of their kids cohabitating with their significant others before marriage. So if you're parents fall into that category, tell me, have you ever lied to them about your living situation in order to share an address with your significant other?

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Lil Tip: Make Makeup Work For You

babysugar — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 11:00:13 PDT

There's something magical about makeup that makes youngsters swoon. Perhaps it's their desire to mimic mommy, but lads and lasses alike often love applying blush and eye shadow to their baby faces.

My daughter recently broke out in a rash and I needed to apply special lotion to her face and body. Wary, she shied away saying, "No, no mommy!" Thinking on my feet I said, "It's your makeup." In an instant sat up straight and let me lather the cream onto her peachy cheeks. Smiles all around, I know now that makeup is a powerful bribing tool - even for 20-month-old tots.
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What Lies Do You Tell Your Children?

LilSugar — Mon, 19 May 2008 07:00:32 PDT

I tell my kids that there's a Santa Claus, that the tooth fairy is small enough to fly under a pillow and that the Easter Bunny sometimes sprinkles carrots in their food when they aren't looking. In other words, I lie.

For the most part, I am honest with my kids to a point that is sometimes much to my own mother's chagrin. My daughter understands that cancer kills people because she's been to the funerals of a few of its victims. She knows that kids disappear because she caught a clip of coverage on Madeline McCann. And, that people can break each other's hearts, because friends have come over to talk about their relationship woes. When she asks questions, I tell her the truth in an age appropriate way and the same goes for my son.

To see why I feel fibs are justified,

read more. The world is such a crazy place, I think it's OK for my children to believe in the handful of things that keep them innocent - a jolly old guy sliding down our chimney, a sprite stealing teeth and a rabbit crazy about carrots. What do you lie about?

What's the Biggest Lie You Were Told About Motherhood?

LilSugar — Thu, 08 May 2008 09:00:24 PDT

A friend of mine called me after she gave birth to her daughter and asked, "Why didn't you tell me all the crazy stuff that happens?"

The truth was, as the first in our group to have a child, I had no one with whom to compare notes. And, I didn't want to scare anyone.

I wasn't sure if everyone spotted for months after giving birth or if it was just me who stood in grocery store line two weeks postpartum thinking that my life had changed forever.

And, I didn't know becoming Dolly Parton a few days after delivering was the norm.

To see what happened,

read more. It was an unintentional lie of omission, but once I had my friend to consult it made being a mom (and bringing a subsequent child into the world) all the easier. When someone said contractions don't hurt or that life after babe is a breeze, we'd call their bluff. And, make sure to tell our childless friends all the gory, frustrating, beautiful, unattractive and awe inspiring details of motherhood so they can prepare. While everyone has a different experience once they are with child, most women can recall a fib or two they were told about child bearing or rearing. Tell us yours. Source

Are You Honest When Your Friends Ask About Their Weight?

DearSugar — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:00:00 PDT

I don't like to lie, but sometimes I won't tell the whole truth in order to protect someone's feelings. Like when a friend asks if I think they look amazing in an outfit that I wouldn't be caught dead in, I might just point out the elements of it I do like.

It gets trickier when a friend asks you if you think they've gained weight or if you like their new boyfriend. If the honest answer is the negative one, it can be a very hard terrain to negotiate. I aways wonder how other people handle these sorts of predicaments so ladies, how do you deal with these kind of questions? Do you tell your friends the truth when they ask even if it might hurt their feelings?

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