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Happy New Year!

GiggleSugar — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 04:01:00 -0800

I sincerely hope you're doing better than hung over kitteh! He's not looking too hot! Time for a burger and fries. . .

Flashback: Abba Wishes You a Happy New Year!

GiggleSugar — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 04:00:00 -0800

There are many awesome retro Christmas songs. Bowie singing with Bing Crosby. Johnny Cash singing with June Carter. The Peanuts gang telling us what the true meaning of Christmas is. But there's only one New Year's song, in my book. That's right, it's the four blondes from Sweden singing "Happy New Year." Here they are pronouncing "champagne" with a cute accent, wearing blindingly shiny lip gloss, and musing on what it will be like in ten years - or 1989! Ahhh, good times.

Happy New Year!

DearSugar — Tue, 01 Jan 2008 05:37:24 -0800

Happy New Year to all of you wonderful DearSugar readers out there. Here's to a year filled with love, passion, laughter, great memories, and mind-blowing experiences (wink)!

Enjoy the holiday; DearSugar will be back in full force tomorrow.

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Flashback: Abba's "Happy New Year"

GiggleSugar — Tue, 01 Jan 2008 04:00:00 -0800

How much do I love Abba? I cannot begin to tell you. Here, I'll let them explain it themselves. But first, to get an idea of how old this is, notice that at one point she sings about what things will be like in another decade, or "the end of '89." Wowzers. Happy New Year from GiggleSugar!

Ask a Party Planner: Should I Date Outside My Religion?

TresSugar — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:00:00 -0700

Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. If you have a question you'd like answered on Conventional Wisdom, you can submit it here.

This week, a party planner offers advice to a woman unsure about a new love interest. After you read her answer, be sure to check out our Group Therapy group where I found this question.

Today's Question:

I'm a single 32-year-old woman and I am under immense pressure to get married from my family and community. I have been single for two years since my last relationship, and four months ago I met this guy and started dating him. We quickly got close and we really care for each other. He wants me to be his girlfriend now, however there a few issues with us - he is only 28 and from another religion. If this goes anywhere, then we are sure to face opposition from both our families. We are from cultures where our families mean a lot to us.

We have talked about this being a long-term relationship, but we have yet to figure out if we will end up married since it's obviously too early. I'm wondering if I should date other guys while we figure this out. I really don't want to, but my friends warn me to not put all my eggs in one basket, especially when he is four years younger than me. I also worry that our religions will come between us in the future.

What should I do? Date other guys, or be his girlfriend and see this through?

Signed, Unsure

To see the party planner's answer, read more.

Dear Unsure,

It seems like there are two issues here: first, his age, and second, your religions. Let's discuss.

I think you should not worry about his age. Twenty-eight is old enough to be in a serious, committed relationship if that's what he wants. Like you said, it's early in the relationship, so you can't predict whether you two are going to get married. But there is only one way to find out - by dating him exclusively.

As for the religion issue: this is something to seriously consider. But I think you need to figure out if you're willing to date someone with a different background - is it worth it to you, not your family, to work through the inevitable obstacles (like choosing how to celebrate holidays, or how to raise kids)? As for your family, I think that they will be more supportive than you think. If you're happy, they should be happy for you too. And you say this guy really values his family, so I think it's great that you found someone who thinks his family is important - just like you do.

If you really like this guy, it's worth giving it a chance. Good luck.

Signed,
A party planner

Happy New Year!!

DearSugar — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:00:00 -0800

Happy New Year everyone! Cheers to health, love, laughter, and happiness in the year to come.

With love,

DearSugar
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Ask a Divorced Woman: Can I Save My Marriage?

TresSugar — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:00:00 -0700

This week, a divorced woman offers advice to a woman struggling with her marriage. After you read her answer, be sure to check out our Group Therapy group where I found this question.

Today's Question:
I've been married for a long time, and last year around Christmas my husband told me out of the blue that he didn't love me. I asked him to move out, and he did in February. We started seeing each other again in April and he has now moved back in swearing undying love, and it does feel different as he is attentive, etc.

The problem I have is that he slept with a work "friend" when we spilt up, and he still works with her. She is looking for another job, but he is not because he is trying to get funding for an MA from his employer. I have aired my dislike at them working together. I just need outside input on the different paths I can take. Should I throw him out or just bide my time and wait. I love him but hate this situation.

Signed,
Confused

To see the divorced woman's answer, read more.

Dear Confused,

It seems like you are having a hard time trusting your husband, and based on what has happened, I don't blame you.

Your husband told you out of the blue that "he didn't love you." This statement makes it hard for you to trust that he won't just change his mind again in the future. Then, once you split up, he had a relationship with someone else that he still sees every day. While it's true he didn't technically cheat, I think you are completely rational for taking issue with this.

It is eating away at you knowing that he works with this woman and it will probably keep you from repairing your marriage. You can give it some time, but if after a few months she is not gone, you should tell him to get a new job. If he doesn't make an effort to get away from this woman, then you should question his level of commitment. I'm happy you feel that he is more attentive now that he has come back, but I think you need to spend more time focusing on your needs.

In the end, I think you should take things one day at a time until you determine whether or not you feel complete in the relationship. I'm sure you have a lot invested in this marriage, so don't feel guilty for trying to make it work. But if it can't work for you, don't be afraid to move on.

Signed,
A divorced woman

Happy New Year!

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Jan 2007 08:00:00 -0800

Hi Everyone,
Happy Happy New Year to all of you! I hope that you have partied responsibly and that today you get to share your time off with those that you love.

I'd like to send a special shout out to my nephew who turns four years old today. Happy Birthday cutie pie. Cheers to a special 2007!

All the best,
DearSugar

Ask a Newlywed: Can I Confront My Dad About His Girlfriend?

TresSugar — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 04:00:00 -0700

Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. This week, a newlywed offers her advice to a woman concerned about her father's younger girlfriend. If you have a question, you can submit them here.

This week's question:

My parents have been divorced nearly 20 years. Since then, my father remarried and was then dumped by his new wife. Now, two years later, he is dating a young woman only 24 years old. I'm 21! I am glad to see him finally so happy but can't help but feel disgusted at this. At 52, he's more than twice her age. I hate the idea of my dad being the kind of man who schmoozes up to young women. I also hate the idea that my dad would be attracted to someone who could be a friend of mine from school.

Do I confront him about this and tell him how I feel? Is it even my business? Or is it OK for me to feel so awkward and awful about this?

Thanks,
21

To see the newlywed's answer, read more.

Dear 21,

It's normal to feel uncomfortable in this situation. In fact, feeling completely indifferent would be a more surprising reaction.

You should explain your feelings to your father in a respectful way. You can tell him that you are happy he has found someone, but that it will take you some time to get used to the fact that he is dating someone close to your age. Your dad might not be aware of how you feel, so if you don't tell him, he could remain clueless.

Since I don't know your father, I can't guess how he will react. I don't think you should expect him to change his actions or dump his new girlfriend, but he might say something about the relationship that makes you feel better, or at least helps you understand him. Either way, it seems that your family is important to you, so it is worth it to communicate your uneasiness so you don't continue to secretly resent your father.

Signed,

A Newlywed

Head of the Class: How Was Your College Transition?

TresSugar — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 11:00:00 -0700

One day you're in, and the next day you're below New York's 14th Street where, as Blair puts it on last night's Gossip Girl, "there's no class system." Is anything going right for poor Blair on her first day of college? Her gift bags and maid fail to impress her dormmates; her archenemy is her roommate; and that sushi/sake party is an epic fail. Seems like the former queen bee of the Upper East Side is struggling to get her well-heeled foot in the doors of NYU.

Worst of all, rags-to-riches and former social outcast Dan and childhood friend Vanessa find instant popularity. This role reversal might force Blair to confront the age-old - or old-age! - question: have I already peaked?

Nah. She's way too narcissistic for such negativity. So despite losing her headband, which I am pretty sure symbolizes her crown, I am confident Miss Blair will find her way to the head of the class of 2013. Besides, if I remember college correctly, nothing that happens the first week stands for four years.

Did you experience a role reversal in college, or were you just happy to be free from "roles" altogether?

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