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You Asked: Is It Too Late to Mend Our Friendship?

DearSugar — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:30:00 -0800

Dear Sugar,

Last year I went to visit one of my best friends in Chicago. Before I had arrived, she mentioned that she cut her hair really short. A few years ago when I did the same thing, she would tease me about it, so the night I arrived, in joking, I said something about her new "boy" do. I reassured her later that night that I was just teasing, but during my visit I couldn't help but feel that she was distant towards me.
After I left, she stopped returning my phone calls and when I would see her online, she would not respond to my IMs. After about a month, she finally called me to let me know that I had really hurt her feelings. I apologized and I reiterated that I was only joking with her, but I'm not sure I made things better because I pointed out that she had teased me when I had my hair cut that short, too. She reminded me that she's a lot more sensitive than I am and told me I should have known better. I apologized and thought we had worked everything out, but I haven't talked to her in over a year. I left her messages on her birthday, on Christmas, and on New Year's last year, but I haven't heard a peep in response so I decided to give her some space.

I miss her terribly and want nothing more than to have my friend back so should I call her and make another attempt to mend our relationship, or should I just respect her obvious decision not to talk to me and just leave it at that? - Cut Out Constance

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Dear Cut Out Constance,

It sounds like your friend was incredibly sensitive about her new hair cut and, in my opinion, overreacted. Are you sure there was nothing else bothering her? The fact that she's gone radio silent for over a year makes me think there is something deeper behind her anger towards you. It's pretty clear that she isn't going to make the first move to rekindle this friendship, so if you miss her, I say reach out again - you have nothing to lose.

Since she doesn't seem to answer her phone when you make attempts to call, I'd write her an email or send a card. She's explained that she's more sensitive than you so I advise you to take a tender tone - I might not even talk about the incident at all. What happened is in the past now, so try to focus on the future. Let her know how much you miss her friendship and ask what you can do to make things right in the new year, for a new friendship. Unfortunately, friends grow apart, so once you say your piece, it'll be up to her if she wants to mend things - I hope she does. Good luck!

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Do Tell: What Adjustments Did You Make to Start Off '09?

DearSugar — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 11:00:00 -0800

Starting the new year off on the right foot doesn't have to be about New Year's resolutions - it can be taking a new route to work, joining a book club, or carrying a new purse - anything to break the monotony of 2008. I started '09 with a new hair cut so do tell, what personal adjustments did you make to start 2009 off with a bang?

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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Cutting Your Hair After a Breakup

DearSugar — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 09:00:00 -0700

If you've ever gone through a bad breakup, and I'm sure most of you have, then you know change is sometimes the best cure. Since packing your bags and running away from your problems isn't always possible or practical, a quick fix will usually do the trick. And a change that isn't too brash but will make a difference is, of course, getting a haircut! According to Glamour magazine, 31 percent of women polled admitted to chopping their hair after a breakup. While I've definitely had the urge to do so myself, luckily my hairdresser has always talked me down off the ledge. Sure, cutting your hair is a great way to let go of the past, and a great way to feel light and refreshed, but tell me, do you think it's a good idea or a bad idea to make a drastic change to your appearance when you're in such a fragile state?

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Flashback: The Rocky Horror Hair Scare Show

GiggleSugar — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 09:25:53 -0700

The clothing fads and neon color craze of the '80s may be making a comeback, but let's keep our fingers crossed that the hairstyles of the day remain a distant crimp in history. As the pics reveal, the hair may have been teased, but these fools weren't teasing - they took their locks seriously. It's just too bad the fumes from those big ol' bottles of Aqua-Net effed up their sense of 'do and don't. Seriously. Want to see more? Click here.

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Who Wears His Heart on His Head?

GiggleSugar — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 14:30:00 -0700

D'oh! His Mom misheard the lyrics.

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Cowlick + Fading "Step" + Mullet = Child Abuse

GiggleSugar — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 14:00:00 -0700

He may be smiling for the camera, but he's crying inside. Where are the authorities when you need them?

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Dumbasses Of The Day

GiggleSugar — Mon, 04 Jun 2007 16:00:00 -0700

These fools must be really, really bored. This is not hot.

Honesty In Advertising

GiggleSugar — Wed, 30 May 2007 14:00:00 -0700

They really cut to chase at this hair parlor.

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WTF?!

GiggleSugar — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 09:45:14 -0700

It's a curious thing to value sleep over sex. You know this guy ain't gettin' any with this four-eyed monster on the top of his head. What's even more scary is that he's not alone in this effort.

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More Sign Language

GiggleSugar — Tue, 09 Jan 2007 00:02:00 -0800

Mullet removal? Uh, okay. But what the heck is a "fun foil"? Anything that couples my hair with foil, and only costs $25--seems more frightening than "fun" to me.

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