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Exploring Guyspeak: "Dude"

GiggleSugar — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 16:00:00 -0700

I've been known to use the word "dude" every now and again- to refer to a dude. But in guyspeak, the word can be used as a noun, adjective, or verb. And in some instances, such as with the dude below, it suffices for the whole of one's vocabulary. Duuude.

Giggle Links

GiggleSugar — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 12:00:00 -0700

I wish these Self-Help Books were real! -Radar
The 10 Craziest Competitive Sports (You Never Heard Of) - One Mans Blog
If men had breasts, they'd appreciate them. - FitSugar
This imitation brand missed the point when choosing an imitation name for itself. - College Humor
Clay Aiken: just in time for Halloween! - Gallery of the Absurd
A note from the doctor: guyspeak translation. - eBaum's World
J-Hud's Oscar-winning song gets turned into a child's anti-abandonment plea. - Best Week Ever
Nobody's perfect: except Cornelius here. -Itty Bitty Kitty Committee

Busted! - I Found My Boyfriend's Porn Stash

DearSugar — Fri, 23 Jun 2006 14:28:58 -0700

Dear Sugar
I just found a folder filled with pornographic pictures of Asian girls in my boyfriend's computer. I'm already openly and admittedly insecure, so finding this stash has only made me feel fat, ugly and bad about my self image.

I know that it's normal for guys to have porn, but I hate the way it makes me feel. Am I psychotic if I ask him to get rid of it? What should I do? I don't want to seem too controlling. Horrified Helena

Dear Horrified Helena
Just to give you a little bit of perspective let me "guy-speak" for a moment.

Men don't understand why girls freak out about porn. They think that no matter what - you won't be able to stop them from thinking about other chicks; all you can hope to do is contain them.

They see the porn as a release. It's not a slight to you, and it doesn't mean that they have any desire to cheat on you. It's just fun - and guys like to "sin with themselves".

On the other hand, seeing as I am a woman, I understand, but I don't agree. When I find porn it looks like this big flashing sign to me, I think, "oh gross!"

Porn should only be used as an arousal tool for couples. When guys are sneaking it alone, I view it as an offensive objectification of women and it makes me feel like I'm failing at being able to satisfy my own man.

But for arguments sake - guys and gals need to agree to disagree on this one. Men are either going to hide it from you or be honest with you about it - but all guys do it. And any one who says that they don't, is lying.

So ladies, I am sorry to say, this is likely one battle not worth fighting. Setting limits is OK, but demanding that he go cold turkey is like trying to keep Paris Hilton out of the tabloids - it just ain't happening.