http://www.tressugar.com Smart. Sexy. Fun. en http://www.tressugar.com/6326288 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/6326288"><img width=113 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/ed3/301/3019466/47_2009/f2c10d3c075d2984_Picture_32.large.jpg'></div></a><p><i>This post comes from <a href="http://group-therapy.tressugar.com/" >Group Therapy</a> in our <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/community" >TrèsSugar Community</a>. Feel free to add your advice in the comments!</i></p> <p>I'm 20 years old and have been dating this guy for four years. Last night, I was using his computer and I saw that he searched for plus size lingerie. My feelings were instantly hurt. I felt so fat! I think that my boyfriend should not make me feel like that! He has never called me fat or anything, but just the fact that he looked at plus size lingerie says that he thinks it! If I ask him if he thinks I'm fat or anything he, of course, denies it. He says that if he thought I was ugly he wouldn't be with me. So, what now? Am I just overreacting? I am so hurt!</p> <p><br><br></p> <p><i>There's lots of <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/community" >great stuff going on in our community</a> - join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar! </i></p> http://www.tressugar.com/6326288#comment Getty Love and Sex Weight Body Image Advice Group Therapy Community Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:00:04 -0800 TresSugar http://www.tressugar.com/6326288 http://www.tressugar.com/5992702 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/5992702"><img width=160 height=120 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/ed2/301/3019466/45_2009/e324d4274fae84be_200209002-001.large.jpg'></div></a><p><i>This post comes from <a href="http://group-therapy.tressugar.com" rel="nofollow">Group Therapy</a> in our <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/community" rel="nofollow">TrèsSugar Community</a>. Feel free to add your advice in the comments!</i></p> <p>Sex once a week or every two weeks - is this normal? I feel like my boyfriend has lost interest in me. I've tried to spice it up a bit, but I don't know what else to do! I talk to him, and all he says is that I take the fun out by asking and nagging him about it all the time. So I try not to say anything and then nothing ever happens, or after a week or so he just wants oral. We have some of the best sex I've ever had and I'd be fine having sex daily - I'm so attracted to him! We live together and have for about a year now. Sometimes I wonder if that takes the spice out of it. I try to not just be a roommate though and to still be the girlfriend I was before. He just isn't very affectionate either; maybe that has something to do with it. I find it difficult to try to turn on someone who I can't make out with anytime of the day or touch him without him freaking out. What is his deal?! Do I dare say anything about him going to the doctor for Viagra? He's only 26!</p> <p><i>There's lots of <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/community" rel="nofollow">fun stuff going on in our community</a> - join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar! </i></p> http://www.tressugar.com/5992702#comment Love and Sex Sex Advice Group Therapy Community Tue, 03 Nov 2009 14:03:31 -0800 Tres Community http://www.tressugar.com/5992702 http://www.tressugar.com/3030535 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/3030535"><img width=160 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/16_2009/55d98aff37ef9418_stk104924cor.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>I've been seeing a guy for a little more than a month and we're pretty crazy about each other. Everything is going great, but he smokes every once in a while and he thinks I don't know about it. Even though he tries to hide it, I can smell it and I can't stand it. He came over last night and I could hardly stand to kiss him and my room stunk when he left.</p> <p>I don't want to pass up this relationship because of the smoking, but I also can't carry on this way. What's the nicest way to ask him to quit? </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.]</p> <p><span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/3030535#comment dating Group Therapy grouptherapy Love & Sex smoking Tue, 14 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/3030535 http://www.tressugar.com/3011832 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/3011832"><img width=106 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/15_2009/dc5753fc4d5ed4b3_medfr06448.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>I had been dating a guy for two months and I couldn't have asked for a better relationship; other than the fact that he was too career-oriented and ambitious and always put his work first. I have a very demanding career as well so I made it clear to him that it was OK if we didn't meet up every night after work. When it came down to it, he felt too pressured to spend time with me, so he dumped me over email and blocked me on Facebook, IM, and all other technologies. I'm incredibly hurt because he didn't even give me the respect to end things in person or at least over the phone. I guess I am looking for closure, but will I ever get any?</p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.]</p> <p><span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/3011832#comment email confused Group Therapy grouptherapy Love & Sex DUMPED hurt Fri, 10 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/3011832 http://www.tressugar.com/3008222 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/3008222"><img width=107 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/15_2009/8f0dd0c3655db561_200237401-001.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>A couple of months ago I had a one night stand with an older bachelor. It was after a crazy night of drinking and when I woke up, all I wanted to do was get out of his disgusting apartment as quickly as possible. I couldn't find the ring I was wearing and mentioned it to him, but left without it. Since that night he's contacted me a couple of times and expressed an interest in taking me out, however I have no desire to see him ever again. But, over the weekend, he sent me an email telling me he had found my ring! Although the ring was costume jewelry (it was a gift from my mom), I would like it back. What's the best way to go about this? Can I ask him to mail it to me? Should I have him drop it through my mail slot? Should I meet him somewhere? What's the etiquette for something like this? </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" >click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" target="_blank">here</a>.]</p> <p><span style='font-size:10px !important;'><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> <p><br clear=all></p> http://www.tressugar.com/3008222#comment Group Therapy one night stand grouptherapy Love & Sex Tue, 07 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/3008222 http://www.tressugar.com/2999431 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2999431"><img width=106 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/14_2009/d6f73bb5e713bf3b_56678997.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>My friend has been talking about losing 10 pounds. I'm interested in fitness and health so I gave her a few suggestions, but her eating habits could use some more work.</p> <p>I know that losing weight is a delicate subject so I don't want to offend her by offering anymore unwanted advice, but she keeps complaining about how the scale never budges. Should I say anything or should I just mind my own business? </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="//dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">here</a>.]</p> <p><span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2999431#comment diets Group Therapy grouptherapy Health & Fitness Mon, 06 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/2999431 http://www.tressugar.com/2995218 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2995218"><img width=160 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/14_2009/9b2f1a5ac53dc941_57564231.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>I have been single for sometime now, and I am wondering about the rules of sleeping with someone in the beginning stages of dating - mainly whether or not to fake an orgasm. I didn't fake it with the last person I was intimate with. Instead, I explained to him that I had a very hard time orgasming through penetration alone, and he seemed to be a little offended and suggested that I actually fake it! We continued dating and found other ways to get me there, but now that I'm on the market again, I don't know which approach to take. What do you think? </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.]</p> <p><span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2995218#comment Group Therapy grouptherapy Love & Sex Faking Sat, 04 Apr 2009 10:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/2995218 http://www.tressugar.com/2990067 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2990067"><img width=160 height=106 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/14_2009/01f3322ef5dfaa9e_200262648-001.large.jpg'></div></a><p>I'm currently in an interracial relationship and I'm really annoyed at the odd looks we occasionally receive while out and about. My boyfriend is white and I am Middle Eastern-looking (Turkish/German) so we do have different skin color. I am upset that this seems to matter to some people and it is starting to make me feel bad about myself, and I've always been really proud of my interesting look!<br /> <span class="inline left"></span></p> <p>I think this may also be hitting a nerve with me just because my boyfriend previously dated a very standard American-looking girl and I am starting to feel like they looked better together. I don't want my insecurity to affect our relationship, so does anyone have any suggestions on how to get over this? And also maybe what to say to someone who gives us dirty looks? </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.]</p> <p><span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2990067#comment relationships Group Therapy grouptherapy Love & Sex insecurity Fri, 03 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/2990067 http://www.tressugar.com/2992004 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2992004"><img width=160 height=106 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/14_2009/1fe930a911a233b2_200225532-001.large.jpg'></div></a><p>I woke up this morning to a text message from my sister telling me she that she had to cancel our plans for tonight, and for some reason, I can't shake the disappointment I feel. </p> <p>Recently I've noticed that I'm becoming more and more sensitive to last minute cancellations. Last week when an old girlfriend who I hadn't seen in over a month called to cancel our same-day plans, and I was so disappointed I almost cried! While I understand that people get busy and things come up, I can't help but feel bummed out when my friends bail on me. How can I deal with the balls life throws at me without feeling so down? Am I being too sensitive? Does this mean I'm lonely? </p> <p><span class="inline left"></span></p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" >click here</a> or submit your own question <a href=" http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" >here</a>.]</p> <p><span style='font-size:10px !important;'><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> <p><br clear=all></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2992004#comment Group Therapy grouptherapy All About Me cancelled plans friendships Thu, 02 Apr 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/2992004 http://www.tressugar.com/2983859 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2983859"><img width=158 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl2/0/3362/14_2009/54819277026edcb6_200133258-002.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and things are going really well. I’m on the pill and would be happy to skip the condoms once we get there, but only if I know he’s been tested for STIs. What’s the best way to ask if he’s been tested, or to ask him to go get tested? What’s the best wording? I don’t want to offend him by implying that he's promiscuous, but at the same time, I want to be safe. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! </p> <p>[EDITOR'S NOTE: To read more GROUP THERAPY, <a href="http://teamsugar.com/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow">click here</a> or submit your own question <a href="http://dearsugar.com/node/add/blog/grouptherapy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.]<br /> <span><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Source</a></span></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2983859#comment testing Group Therapy conversation grouptherapy Love & Sex STIs Tue, 31 Mar 2009 04:00:00 -0700 http://www.tressugar.com/2983859