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This Experiment Will Shock And Amaze You!

GiggleSugar — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 07:00:00 -0700

Okay, maybe I'm exaggerating, but it's pretty crazy. I'm not usually one to participate in these scientific studies, but after playing, I highly recommend it. It requires concentration and patience, but stick with it. Then tell me what you learned!

Would You Rather Date Someone With a Little or A Lot of Experience?

TresSugar — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 09:00:00 -0700

No two people have identical romantic histories, so when you find yourself with a new significant other, disparate experiences can be an issue. For example, your partner's previous long-term relationship might be a source of insecurity if he or she is your first serious relationship. Or it might be frustrating if your new significant other is a relative novice and doesn't know the ins and outs of serious dating.

Which would you prefer - a partner who's experiencing almost everything for the first time with you or a well-seasoned significant other?

Say What? Sasha Grey Waxes Philosophical

TresSugar — Thu, 14 May 2009 10:56:55 -0700

“It all goes back to existentialism. It's about taking control of your own life, and your own past - not letting anybody do that for you."

- Porn queen Sasha Grey, who stars in Steven Soderbergh's upcoming film The Girlfriend Experience about a high-end prostitute. The 21-year-old has been in the business since she was 18 and has a reputation for being opinionated, well-read, and at the helm of her own controversial career.

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Do Tell: Have You Ever Had an Experience With a Woman?

DearSugar — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 10:00:00 -0700

Tyra dedicated yesterday's show to straight women who have the hots for lesbians, and lesbians who have the hots for straight women - confusing, I know! Though her guests say they typically date men, many of them admitted to having relationships with other women, and loving it!

I think we're all incredibly lucky to live in a time where exploring your sexuality is accepted, so tell me, have you ever had an experience with a woman, even if you consider yourself to be straight?

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Experimented With the Back Door?

DearSugar — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:00:00 -0800

Since sex can be somewhat embarrassing to talk about, I gave you all an opportunity to ask whatever burning questions you had over the weekend, anonymously of course. A lot of you were curious about the booty, and I wasn't all that surprised - anal sex isn't the easiest or most PC topic to discuss! Since it was top of mind for many, I'm curious to know if you've ever experimented with anal sex before, so tell me . . .

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Sunday Confessional: I Won't Experiment in Bed With Him

DearSugar — Sun, 18 May 2008 09:00:00 -0700

I have been in my current relationship for about a year, but I have known my boyfriend for four years. We were friends before getting together, and I actually knew him throughout my last relationship. During the time before we were together and after my last relationship, I jokingly, and perhaps teasingly, made references to the sex life with my ex, who was always convincing me to try something new.

Once we got together I stopped discussing my sexual past; however, if he flat out asked me if I had done a particular sexual deed or position, I would tell him if I had. Basically, he knows more about my sexual history than I would like. We have a good sex life, but recently, he has been putting a lot of pressure on me to experiment with him in the bedroom because he knows that I've tried certain things before. I am happy to oblige with some of his requests, but others I am not interested in trying again.

He assumes that since I was a willing participant with my last boyfriend, I should also be with him. I have tried to make it clear to him that just because I've done things before doesn't mean that I want to do them again, but he's really struggling with this. He is more hurt than angry; he feels like I must be less into him than my previous boyfriend. I feel terrible for making him think he's inadequate. I want to move past this, but I'm just not willing to try some of these things again. Can I be forgiven if I stand my ground on this or am I being selfish?

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Hillary Talks Sexism, Obama's Job Offer, and Mad Men to Vogue

TresSugar — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 10:00:35 -0800

Hillary Clinton finally sat down for a long-overdue Vogue interview. She offended editor Anna Wintour during the primaries by turning down the fashion mag out fear of looking "too feminine." And though she won't be on the December cover, the article is as substantial and satisfying as a cover story.

From night swimming alone to her favorite shows (Mad Men!), we see a side of Madame Secretary that all the vetting in the world would not unearth. See some of what she had to say below.

On visiting countries as a high-ranking female: "You can go to some countries and there's not a woman in the room. They don't even make the effort to give me the token woman minister. . . . And in lots of African countries the honorific for women is 'Mama.' So I had lots of people say to me, 'Mama, what about this; Mama, what about that?'"

On President Obama's job offer: "I was stunned after the election when President Obama asked me to consider this. . . . I really was very unconvinced. I did not think it was the right thing to do. I didn't want to do it. I just really had a lot of doubts, and I kept suggesting other people: Well, how about this person! How about that person! This one would be really good! But then a friend of mine called me and basically said, 'How would you have felt if you'd been elected and you'd called him and asked him to do this?' And that really made a big impression on me. How do you say no? And so . . . I said yes. And here I am."

On Mad Men: "That's how it was! That's why the women's-liberation movement was so shocking. It was like news from outer space"

See what else she had to say after the jump.

Hump Day: How Can I Become Multi-Orgasmic?

TresSugar — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:00:00 -0800

Welcome to Hump Day, TrèsSugar's sex advice column. Are you confused about sex? Do you have trouble having an orgasm? Is there something you'd like to try but you're worried it's too weird? Send your questions to TrèsSugar, and our friend Dr. Charlie Glickman from Good Vibrations will offer his sound advice!

Today's Question:

"I keep hearing about women who can have 'multiple orgasms' and I can't figure out exactly what this means. Does it mean a woman who can have more than one orgasm in a night? One orgasm after another with little downtime? (Is that even possible? Most women are so sensitive after having an orgasm!) Anyway, if it exists, is there a way I can become multi-orgasmic?" To hear Dr. Glickman's response, read more

Part of the challenge in defining “multiple orgasms” is that different people use the term to mean different things. For some women, it means more than one orgasm during a single sex session, whether they’re 5 minutes or 30 minutes (or more) apart. For other women, it means one after another, without much time between them.

You’re right that many women are extra sensitive after an orgasm, but not everyone. In fact, some women find that they can just keep going, especially if they change what they’re doing. For example, someone might find that she can have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation and then switch to penetration for a second one. Or maybe she might have one orgasm from oral sex, take a break for a bit with something else to keep the passion up, and then go back to oral sex for a second orgasm. And there are women out there who don’t need a break after one orgasm before they start building towards a second one.

Not all women can become multi-orgasmic, but many women can. Some women find that their ability to be multi-orgasmic can change over time, too. So if it doesn’t happen for you now, don’t stress about it. You may find that in a few years, something changes and suddenly, it falls into place.

One really great place to look for more info on how to do it is Mantak Chia’s book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman. He approaches sex from the Taoist tradition, which works with sexuality as a form of energy that we can learn to channel, harness, and expand. If you’re familiar with energetic practices such as yoga, this perspective might be familiar. He has a book for men and one for male/female couples, too.

Another place you could look for information about this is Tantra. While most people only know about Tantra as a laundry list of sex positions from the Kama Sutra, there’s actually a lot more to it than that. Tantra is a set of practices that teach you to work with your sexual energy and it can help you expand your ability to experience pleasure, deepen intimacy, and have multiple orgasms. There are some good books like Urban Tantra and Tantric Sex for Women, as well as some DVDs.

In my experience, the best way to learn about Tantra is through experiential workshops because these are techniques that are much easier to understand when someone is demonstrating them. Most Tantra classes are fully-clothed and many are designed for people to come solo, while others are for couples. You can find out more about Tantra or look for workshop teachers on www.tantra.com.

One thing that I do want to be clear on: not everyone can become multi-orgasmic. If it doesn’t happen for you, there’s nothing wrong with you. I’ve seen a lot of people become very goal-oriented about it and they often end up sabotaging themselves because they’re not actually enjoying the sex that they’re having. So I encourage you to try it out and see what works for you, but don’t get so caught up in it that you forget to have fun. Otherwise, what’s the point?

Have You Ever Made a Sex Tape?

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700

Thank you all for participating in Maxim magazine's sex survey so far - I'm sure their male readers have learned quite a bit about what women want and expect from them! To finish off this fun series, I have one more question for you to answer before taking the rest of their survey here.

As we all know, some couples like to experiment in the bedroom, and since your secrets are safe with us, tell me, have you ever made a sex tape?

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Grab Bag: Some Women May Be Allergic to Sperm!

TresSugar — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 12:00:00 -0800

Doctors think some women are allergic to sperm. - Glamour
These newlyweds have 181 years between them. - Lemondrop
Sex diary: sports widow complains of a dry spell. - The Frisky
Flashback: when being popular meant you "couldn't afford to be skinny." - Jezebel
Experiment: approach every cute guy you see and ask for a date. - Em & Lo
5 female hints guys don't get. - Your Tango
Harp cover songs: you know you want them! - Urlesque
Does the GOP have a woman problem? - Double X

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