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You Asked: Their Friendship Hurts Me
Dear Sugar,
I've been with my fiance for two years now. He is the absolute love of my life, so when he recently proposed, I didn't hesitate to say yes! Before we dated, I dated his best friend for four years.
You Asked: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Dear Sugar,
I am in a relationship that has been incredibly intense since the day we met. We lived together, but our relationship has suffered many blows. My boyfriend began to lose his temper in ways I'd never seen before — he became mildly verbally abusive and he's frightened me on several occasions.
Handle This: She's Being Emotionally Abused
The new guy your best friend is seeing has rubbed you the wrong way from day one. You’ve always been nice to him, but you get a very sketchy and somewhat controlling vibe from him.
Most recently you witnessed some strange scenes between him and your friend where it seems he’s intentionally putting her down in a condescending manner.
You Asked: I Can't Stand My Family
Dear Sugar,
I'm a 23-year-old, recent college graduate living with my mom and her new husband. My mother and I have had issues with our relationship for years. I've always been her scapegoat whenever she needs to vent, which is almost every day.
You Asked: Should Love Be This Hard?
Dear Sugar,
I met this guy over a year and a half ago. We fell for each other instantly, intensely, and passionately. However three or four months in, it was clear (from our constant clashing) that we differed in personalities, likes and dislikes, opinions, communication styles, you name it.
You Asked: I Have a Violent Streak
Dear Sugar,
My boyfriend and I spend wonderful times together, but always after a great weekend or outing he goes into work mode and gets completely busy and distracted. I on the other hand have an idle mind, and I end up thinking a lot about our relationship — how I think it should be. I want to be able to see him every single day.
You Asked: This is Abuse, Right?
Dear Sugar--
You would think I would know these things by now but I'm very confused. Maybe this is the way relationships are supposed to be. But I don't think so.
Emotional Abuse Does NOT Belong in a Relationship
Let me say this out loud - Mental Abuse is STILL Abuse. A person does not have to hit you or hurt you physically in order for it to constitute as abuse.
Someone who is emotionally abusive often feels worthless themselves, and uses their relationships to create a feeling of personal power and control over someone else.
National Domestic Violence Hotline
I just found out this unfortunate statistic: in America, at least 1 in every 3 women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Abuse is NEVER okay - period. No one should ever be subjected to an abusive relationship, but unfortunately it's a reality and sometimes figuring out how to get out is hard to deal with alone.
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