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When the Game Show Gods Intervene. . .

GiggleSugar — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 08:00:00 -0800

Game show peeps can give the dumbest answers, either cuz they buzz in before thinking, take a shot in the dark, or just don't know what a "decade" is. But as dumb luck would have it, some answers are so wrong, they're right. And some golf swings are so bad, the game show gods interfere and a miraculous hole-in-one appears. Behold and bow down.

Ask an Older Woman: Help! My Friend's With a Married Man

TresSugar — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:00:00 -0800

Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. If you have a question you'd like answered on Conventional Wisdom, you can submit it here.

Today's question: One of my good friends has been seeing a married man for about a year. He also just happens to be her boss. When we get together, she bombards me with the details of their relationship. He tells her he's never been happier, and that he'll leave his wife for her soon (yeah, we've heard that one before!) and she seems to believe him. My problem with this whole thing is that not only am I sick of listening to her, and of course could tell her so, but I've lost respect for her. Is it wrong to break up with a friend who's doing things I find morally reprehensible? Is there anything I can do to get through to her that what she is doing is horrible for her, not to mention this man's wife?

Signed, Confused Friend.

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Dear Confused Friend,

Ahh, the folly of youth. For every bad relationship I bored my friends with, I in turn listened to details about men (or women) they were with who didn't deserve them. It's part of being a friend.

My best advice to you is to be honest with your friend. You don't mention if you've told her how you feel, or if you did, how she reacted. If you haven't, now is the time to start. Tell her you care about her, but you think that contributing to cheating is morally messed up, and that in the end she's probably just going to get hurt. (I guess "the other woman" sometimes ends up with the guy, but who wants to end up with a cheater?) Also, sleeping with your married boss? Pretty dumb. Do other people in her office know? This is not good for her professional life either. I'd tell her that, too, although it's hard to imagine an adult who doesn't know this.

If you really like this friend and this is the only thing she's done that makes you question her character, ride it out and hope she comes to her senses. There's only so much advice we can give people. If you've told her how you feel and she continues with this affair, that's her decision. If she steers you toward this topic when you hang out, just let her know you don't feel comfortable listening to it anymore.

Sometimes, though, if friends do sketchy things, those acts are a window into the rest of their sketchy selves. I had a friend who not only cheated on her husband once, but throughout their marriage, and I began to notice that her behavior towards him mirrored her behavior towards me and everyone else. She was selfish, narcissistic and unable to ever admit fault. We'd had fun partying together when we were younger, but as we grew older, I realized I needed to respect my friends. After a blowout fight when she said horrible things to me, I took it as my cue to get out, and I dumped her.

You're in a tricky situation, but honesty is the best policy. If you can't be honest with her, maybe you aren't really great friends to begin with, in which case slowly turning down her invitations to hang out and discuss him should send her a message. Good luck!

Game Show Contestants Say the Darndest Things!

GiggleSugar — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 03:00:00 -0700

Remember the game show contestants who scored big thanks to dumb luck? Well, factor out the luck and all we had was a whole bunch of dumb - which is the case with the following vid. The contestants below were under cruel time constraints, so their thinking was probably rushed and compromised. But whatever. We'll still laugh, ridicule, and make fun of them anyway cuz Alabama is definitely not a city in the state of Georgia. If the contestant had a map, then maybe she'd know that fact. (Right, Miss Teen South Carolina?)

Lighten Up: What Your Name Would Be If You Were a Palin. . .

CitizenSugar — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:30:33 -0700

The Palin clan, Track, Trig, Willow, Bristol, and Piper (um, just listed by memory, look out!) are as well-known for their unique monikers than almost anything. While there are stories behind all of the names, the boys might have gotten theirs just so they'd appear all the more manly. One name expert says, "Short names like these are given by people who want their kids to be masculine. She's athletic, she's coached kids, so maybe that's part of her value system." Want some of that value system in your own name, cursing your own dumb luck for not being born a Palin?

Wait no more! This brilliant afternoon time-suck is the most fun you'll have with Sarah Palin all year. Promise. Just enter in your own name, and out comes your if-Sarah-Palin-named-you name. Let's just say, as a proud "Hen Waffle Palin," I'm sure I'd fit right on in on the campaign trail. What's your Palin name? Maybe it'll be so good, you'll want a tattoo of it . . .

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Headline of the Day

GiggleSugar — Wed, 28 May 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Airport Bungle Gives Passenger $10,000 in Drugs

Somewhere in Tokyo, a passenger who just got off his flight is either really stoked, or like, totally wigging, man. Seems a dumb police officer decided to stuff $10,000 worth of some fine cannabis into an unsuspecting passenger's bag as a test for his drug-sniffing dog. Well, Fido failed, and "the officer also forgot which bag he put it in," a customs office spokeswoman said. Ruh roh! "If by some chance passengers find it in their suitcase," some wishful thinker said, "we're asking them to return it." Good luck! The airport's customs chief said the situation was "deeply regrettable." Hmmm, I think it really all depends on who opened up their suitcase. Click here to read more about these KeyStoned cops.

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You Asked: Am I Just Young or Dumb?

DearSugar — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

I've been seeing a new man now for just over a year and a half, and he is starting to be different. He is 14 years my senior (I'm 20), and we have lived VERY different lives. He is used to dating strippers, and models-not my physique at all. (I’m 5’5” 140lbs -very athletic/muscular build) When we first started getting to know each other, I was dating someone else and we went out as friends. My ex was very mean to me and cut me down every chance he got. One night I had enough (after he publicly humiliated me in front of all our friends) and I broke it off. Soon after I started dating this guy.

He told me everything hook line and sinker that I wanted to hear-telling me that I was beautiful, my body is fine/hot, that I didn't need a guy like my ex in my life and that I could do so much better. Now, this far into our relationship, he’s telling me that he's not all that attracted to me anymore, but that he loves me and wants to work on it. It's gotten to the point that he is giving me ultimatums (lose 20 lbs or it's over between us). He only tells me this after being to a strip club, or running into an ex. On the flip side, if he isn’t telling me that I'm unattractive or fat, he is telling me how much he wants me to be his wife, and have a family with me. I have had only one seriously relationship before him, so I don't know if I'm just young and dumb and wanting so badly to be in “love”, or is this normal behavior? --Confused Caroline

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Dear Confused Caroline--

You're not dumb at all Caroline, but I have to be honest here, I think you're doing yourself a huge disservice by staying in a relationship with this man. First off, why is he hanging out at strip clubs and seeing his ex-girlfriends all the time, especially without you? Has anything changed that is making him all of a sudden treat you this way? I happen to feel his ultimatum is absolutely unacceptable -- nobody should be commenting negatively about your weight, especially someone who loves and cares about you. If this man wants to be your future husband, he needs to let go of his controlling and manipulative behavior.

Since you have only been in one other relationship before, I can see how you wouldn't realize this is a borderline abusive relationship. You deserve to be with someone that worships you for the person you are -- the person he fell in love with a year and a half ago. While I am sure you care deeply for this man, you need to care more about yourself right now.

Have you tried talking to him about how his words are making you feel? Perhaps you can suggest couples counseling? If nothing changes, I wouldn't wait too long before cutting the cord before you waste any more time on a man who clearly doesn't deserve you. Good luck.

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