http://www.tressugar.com Smart. Sexy. Fun. en http://www.tressugar.com/2340308 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2340308"><img width=150 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/Couple-Sex.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span>We've discussed how a <a href="http://dearsugar.com/578556" target="_blank">friends-with-benefits situation</a> can lead to problems. But if you're single, sometimes you want to be able to enjoy a little nooky with a partner who you actually know, so there <i>are</i> some perks to having a trusted booty call. Of course it's all about finding a balance between physical intimacy and emotional detachment. In the hopes of helping achieve this perfect and elusive equilibrium of the casual hook-up, <a href="http://dailybedpost.com" target="_blank">Daily Bedpost</a> has formulated a list of 25 rules. I picked my favorites below, and threw in a few of my own, too.</p> <ul> <li>Both parties must be either single or in open relationships. </li> <li>Exes you are currently friends with make ideal booty call partners. However, if one party broke the other's heart, pursuing a booty-call arrangement is a no-no (at least for 24 months).</li> <li>If you're not having fun, then by definition, it isn't a proper booty call.</li> <li>Just because the sex is casual doesn't make it an appropriate topic for casual conversation. Be discreet. </li> <li>Don't assume that duration implies relationship progression. </li> </ul> <p><a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/10/how-tobooty-call-with-aplomb-i.php?mbid=sugaremlo" target="_blank">Click here</a> to see the rest of Daily Bedpost's rules, and to check out my additions, just read more.<br /> <br></p> <ul> <li>If you feel yourself getting emotionally invested, don't convince yourself that he's feeling the same way. In fact, as soon as you notice those feelings rising without reciprocation, end things. </li> <li>Don't use someone who has feelings for you as your casual hook-up. Imagine how you'd feel if someone did that to you. <li> <li>Even if you're not sleeping with anyone other than him, get <a href="http://dearsugar.com/1750586" target="_blank">STI tests</a> regularly. (You don't know who else he might be having sex with.) </li> </ul> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2340308#comment Love and Sex Sex friends with benefits booty calls pleasure Daily Bedpost Mon, 13 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2340308 http://www.tressugar.com/2589200 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2589200"><img width=160 height=146 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/50_2008/d8533a9ba35d94bf_gift.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/12/how-togive-a-sexrelated-gift.php" target="_blank">If you're giving a sex-related gift this year, check out these ten rules of gift-giving etiquette</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5105959/sexual-satisfaction--contraception-condoms-yea-birth-control-pills-nay" target="_blank">Are <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tag/birth+control+pill">the pill</a> users sexually satisfied?</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-six-date-traits-to-investigate-on-a-first-date/" target="_blank">Be sure to investigate these six date traits on a first date</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/12/08/how-to-meet-a-guy-at-a-holiday-party/" target="_blank">Check out these tips on how to meet a guy at a holiday party</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/12/one-of-my-friends-skips-her-period-by-taking-her-birth-control-pills-a-certain-way-is-this-safe.html" target="_blank">Is skipping your period with your birth control safe?</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2008/12/poll-do-you-keep-old-photos-of.html" target="_blank">Do you keep old photos of your ex-boyfriends?</a> - Glamour.com</li> <li> <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/12/10/woman-finds-97k-in-restro_n_149861.html" target="_blank">If you found $97K, would you return it?</a> - The Huffington Post</li> <li> <a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22189/61950-nine-tips-make-going-home" target="_blank">Don't miss these nine tips for making going home for the holidays bearable</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/12/the-world-is-so-full.php" target="_blank">Do you ever feel like men are just boys trapped in men's bodies?</a> - Truehookupconfession.com</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2589200#comment Love and Sex Link Time Wed, 10 Dec 2008 14:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2589200 http://www.tressugar.com/2559759 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2559759"><img width=160 height=120 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/49_2008/e5c892173f588667_holiday-party.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20072811/have-a-very-merry-office-holiday-party.html" target="_blank">Before attending your office holiday party this year, check out these dos and don'ts first!</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5100979/dating-advice-from-3rd-graders-the-girls-guide" target="_blank">Dating advice from a third grader!</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2008/12/help-is-it-obnoxious-to-call-m.html" target="_blank">Is it obnoxious to call your fiance, your fiance? </a> - Glamour.com</p> <li> <a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22077/53185-five-tips-help-couples-tackle?CMP=ILC-BigDddyWdgt" target="_blank">Check out these five tips which help couples tackle a tiff</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kira-craft/why-no-one-should-buy-pre_b_147052.html" target="_blank">Should anyone be buying Christmas gifts this year?</a> - Huffington Post</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/12/02/super-abstinent-couple-saves-first-kiss-for-marriage/" target="_blank">Could you abstain from kissing your boyfriend until marriage?</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-break-up-already/" target="_blank">Three reasons why you shouldn't stay in a bad relationship through the holidays</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/11/i-want-to-belong-to-1.php" target="_blank">Do you ever get the feeling that you just want to belong to someone?</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> <li><a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/12/impertinent-question-what-do-y-8.php" target="_blank">What do you think of sex on the first date?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://video.ivillage.com/player/?id=784861" target="_blank">Is your job the reason why you're single?</a> - iVillage</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2559759#comment Love and Sex Link Time Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2559759 http://www.tressugar.com/2538224 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2538224"><img width=146 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/48_2008/32cf07d4363735c1_1124-dont-ditch_li.large.jpg'></div></a><ul> <span class="inline left"></span></p> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-30-things-a-woman-should-not-try-before-30/" target="_blank">Check out the 30 things single women should <i>not</i> do before turning 30</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2008/11/how-to-throw-your-man-into-the-party-mix?slide=1" target="_blank">Holiday dating dos and don'ts</a> - Glamour.com</li> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/11/is-text-sex-cheating-you-decid.php" target="_blank">Is text sex cheating?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5098067/girly-golddiggers-are-reeling-from-the-recession" target="_blank">Girly golddiggers are reeling from recession</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087506/one-night-stand-dos-and-donts.html" target="_blank">Check out these one night stand dos and don'ts</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/11/sex-in-high-sch.html" target="_blank">Sex in high school - What's normal?</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.dollymix.tv/2008/11/is_foreplay_overrated.html" target="_blank">Is foreplay overrated?</a> - DollyMix</li> <li> <a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22065/60692-do-men-really-hate-curls-" target="_blank">What do men really think of curly hair?</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/11/i-had-to-check-your.php" target="_blank">Have you ever forgotten the name of your booty call?</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> http://www.tressugar.com/2538224#comment Love and Sex Link Time Wed, 26 Nov 2008 14:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2538224 http://www.tressugar.com/2514182 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2514182"><img width=160 height=117 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/47_2008/1e3dcbff3f712e54_Picture_1.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/11/is-a-onenight-stand-worth-it-y.php" target="_blank">Is a one night stand even worth it?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087450/save-your-marriage-after-a-job-loss.html" target="_blank">Save your marriage after a job loss</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/11/18/in-bad-economy-breaking-u_n_144535.html" target="_blank">Breaking up is even harder to do in a bad economy</a> - The Huffington Post</li> <li> <a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/11/has-the-interne.html" target="_blank">Has the Internet changed the way we flirt?</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/single-ish/2008/11/breakups-do-you-need-to-have-t.html" target="_blank">Do you need to have the last word in a breakup?</a> - Glamour.com</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-how-to-get-through-the-first-30-days-of-your-30s/" target="_blank">How to get through the first 30 days of your 30's</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22065/60315-biggest-dating-mistakes-make" target="_blank">Check out the biggest dating mistakes women make</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/11/12/prostitution-empowering-or-victimizing/" target="_blank">Is prostitution really that bad?</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/11/i-am-perfect-for-you.php" target="_blank">Have you ever not understood why he can't see how perfect he is for you?</a> - Truehookupconfessions</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2514182#comment Love and Sex Link Time Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2514182 http://www.tressugar.com/2490117 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2490117"><img width=160 height=130 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/46_2008/9dc29b4c1ad4f2cd_lying-in-bed_sm.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2008/11/readers-dilemma-sex-really-hur.html" target="_blank">What do I do if sex hurts?</a> - Glamour</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-poll-sexual-misconceptions-about-women/" target="_blank">What's the most common sexual misconception of women?</a> - The Frisky </li> <li> <a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/11/teens-having-fe.html" target="_blank">Teens are having fewer abortions, but why?</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/11/07/tv-shows-birth-control/" target="_blank">Check out the six shows we could use as birth control!</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5084168/old-dried-up-broads-less-bitchy-than-young-babes" target="_blank">Women become less bitchy with age</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20086739/is-divorce-becoming-a-luxury.html" target="_blank">Is divorce becoming a luxury?</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/0,,doyenne_rq82,00.html?dst=rss%7Cls" target="_blank">Four signs a man's ready for marriage, and four that he's not</a> - iVillage</li> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/11/impertinent-question-what-was.php" target="_blank">What was your best sex ever?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/11/i-purposely-targeted-a-job.php" target="_blank">Have you ever gone for a job because of a guy?</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2490117#comment Love and Sex Link Time Wed, 12 Nov 2008 14:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2490117 http://www.tressugar.com/2471887 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2471887"><img width=107 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/45_2008/47364d72f5982874_dishwashing_glove.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/11/how-toclean-a-sex-toy-in-10-st.php" target="_blank">Learn how to clean your sex toys</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-the-donts-of-pda/" target="_blank">The Don'ts of PDA</a> - The Frisky </li> <li><a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/11/obamas-in----wh.html" target="_blank">What does Obama mean for sex ed?</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/11/04/more-women-seeking-no-strings-sex/" target="_blank">More women are seeking no-strings sex</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087323/obama-inspires-sex-acts.html" target="_blank">Obama inspires sex acts</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2008/11/poll-do-guys-notice-manicures.html" target="_blank">Do guys even notice manicure and pedicures?</a> - Glamour</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5079387/yup-bullies-really-are-sadistic-jerks" target="_blank">Bullies really are sadistic jerks!</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/11/i-dont-know-what-to-3.php" target="_blank">I can't tell if I want a relationship or not</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2471887#comment Love and Sex Link Time Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2471887 http://www.tressugar.com/2448183 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2448183"><img width=129 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/44_2008/3fbd7e313ddf96d2_bethditto103108.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5072249/study-shows-overweight-women-have-the-most-sex" target="_blank">New study shows that overweight women have the most sex!</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-safe-sex-makeup/" target="_blank">Safe Sex Makeup</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/10/impertinent-question-what-make-2.php" target="_blank">What makes a good blow job?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li> <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/10/30/how-much-would-you-pay-to-avoid-talking-to-an-ex/" target="_blank">How much would you pay to avoid talking to an ex?</a> - Lemondrop</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087237/10-places-to-have-sex-before-death.html" target="_blank">10 places to have sex before you die!</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/32388/57758-haunted-ghosts--4-way" target="_blank">I'm haunted by my boyfriend's ex's ghost!</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/10/i-dont-have-the-courage.php" target="_blank">Do you have a hard time saying I love you?</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> <li> <a href="http://www.dollymix.tv/2008/10/dolly_poll_would_you_sell_your.html" target="_blank">Would you ever sell your eggs?</a> - Dolly Mix</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2448183#comment Love and Sex Link Time Fri, 31 Oct 2008 13:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2448183 http://www.tressugar.com/2419688 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2419688"><img width=160 height=130 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/43_2008/a7b72654bf0e8f0d_period.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-debate-this-sex-on-the-crimson-wave2/" target="_blank">Debate this: sex on the crimson wave.</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.dollymix.tv/2008/10/does_your_coffee_habit_affect.html" target="_blank">Does your coffee habit affect your bustline?</a> - Dolly Mix</li> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5068287/single-chick-hopes-to-score-hubby-with-super-bowl-personal-ad" target="_blank">Single girl hopes to score a hubby with a Super Bowl ad!</a> - Jezebel</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087172/when-it-comes-to-long-term-love-do-looks-matter.html" target="_blank">Do looks matter in long-term love?</a> - Tango</li> <li><a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22065/57576-call-?CMP=ILC-BigDddyWdgt" target="_blank">When will he call?</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/10/sometimes-i-miss-the-hot.php" target="_blank">Do you ever miss just making out?</a> - Truehookupconfessions.com</li> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/10/impertinent-question-what-do-y-7.php" target="_blank">What do you think of sex standing up?</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> </ul> http://www.tressugar.com/2419688#comment Love and Sex Link Time Fri, 24 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2419688 http://www.tressugar.com/2377209 <a href="http://www.tressugar.com/2377209"><img width=160 height=160 src='http://media.onsugar.com/files/upl1/1/12981/38_2008/weight.large.jpg'></div></a><p><span class="inline left"></span> <ul> <li> <a href="http://jezebel.com/5064508/does-this-relationship-make-me-look-fat" target="_blank">Does your weight fluctuate with your relationship?</a> - Jezebel</li> <li><a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22307/57242-victim-singlism-work-?CMP=ILC-MoreFromWdgt" target="_blank">Have you ever suffered from singlism at the office?</a> - Divine Caroline</li> <li> <a href="http://www.tangomag.com/20087076/recession-porn-romance-novels.html" target="_blank">Soothe your recession woes with a romance novel</a> - Tango</li> <li> <a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/10/advice-what-sex-toys-can-you-r.php" target="_blank">Great grandmothers sometimes need sex toys too</a> - Daily Bedpost</li> <li><a href="http://gurl.typepad.com/sex_ed_blog/2008/10/time-magazine-t.html" target="_blank">Time magazine's take on teen girls isn't too far off</a> - gURL sex ed blog</li> <li> <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-dating-donts-dating-advice-not-to-follow/" target="_blank">Dating advice you definitely shouldn't follow</a> - The Frisky</li> <li> <a href="http://www.truehookupconfessions.com/2008/10/i-will-40-in-a.php" target="_blank">The sexual perils of a big age difference</a> - Truehookupconfessions</li> </ul> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://www.tressugar.com/2377209#comment Love and Sex Link Time Fri, 17 Oct 2008 15:50:00 -0700 DearSugar http://www.tressugar.com/2377209