i think every parent regardless of marital status for the sake of themselves and their children, should have a life outside of their children's life, i love and live for my children but i also feel i should get away sometimes, not every weekend maybe once a month, but that's just me

when you're a parent it's time to chill out with all the partying...set a good example for your child, be their rold model instead of someone they'd be embarrassed to hear about when they grow up. i'm not saying stop going out completely, just grow up and act responsible. just my opinion!

We go out and get a bit stupid once in a while (it's sort of inevitable in our neighborhood, as we live a block up from a strip of great bars), but don't really do anything outrageous--mostly just make fun of the desperation in the air and congratulate ourselves on having each other and not having to deal with the dating and mating games

Absolutely we still do. Sometimes together, sometimes separately with our friends.

Nope. I'm not a mother but I am a wife and when I go out without my husband I feel completely guilty for doing things without him. I don't know what my problem is, but I've been like this for a while. I see my friends ever once and a while but we don't get together any more. It could be because he's in the military and I never feel like we have enough time together.

We should all thrive for a healthy balance.

I try to get out just enough, so I enjoy staying in the rest of the time.

i hate it when my friends start a relationship and then fall off the face of the earth!

I don't go out as much as I use to anymore.
Now we do family nights and every now and then me and my significant other have out date night outs without my son.

We need it.
But I don't do dumb stuff like I use too, like dance on polls and drink myself stupid.
I stay civilized now. lol.

i'm newly single, so i'll be going out a little bit more than i did when i was in a relationship, but it didn't even occur to me that people don't go out when they're in a relationship. when i'm in a relationship, i don't go out to try to find someone else or meet new people, just to socialize with my friends & have fun. i went out maybe once a week with or without my boyfriend when we were together. it'd be a totally different situation if i was a mom, though.

I'm proud to say that yes i do!!! I have always HATED when my friends completely dropped of the face of the earth once they started seeing someone....i know how it feels to not see a friend for weeks at a time due to a relationship and so I make sure not to do it to anybody else when I'm in one!

Hell ya, and no problem in hittin the club every once in awhile. Nicole's been in the house forever, she needs a break.

Yeah, I'm the bad friend I guess. But it's not totally because of having a relationship. We moved a little over an hour away from our hometown for our jobs and now we both work full time. With gas prices and our already strained time together... I just don't have time. I do try to keep in touch by phone or internet though. I think I go out about once every three months without my SO and I think it is necessary sometimes.

I feel like, once a person is in a commited relationship then they should stick with it. How would you like it if your significant other was out there having fun like he/she was single? It may be hard but once you have your own family it is your responsibility to take care of it. Always think twice about commitment if you feel like you need to. Have fun while you're single because later on you will regret it!

I never really was a partier and I still am not.. So I am void of this question LOL!

Yes!! I think it's so annoying that some of my friends go out for the sole purpose of looking for guys, and when they get a boyfriend, they stay in EVERY night. They think they can only have one or the other-a social life or a relationship. Your life shouldn't stop just because you have a boyfriend or kids!! But, when you're a mom if you go out like every weekend no matter what, I think that may be a bit much but that's just me.

f*ck yeah I do!

We both go out all the time together. Several times a week!

Why, are we not supposed to do that?

Oh, we're supposed to stay in, watch movies and get fat, arent we?

Damnit, I do everything wrong.

I think its important to find a balance between your boyfriend and friends..I have been in a relationship for over 4 years and still go out dancing with my girlfriends maybe twice a month or so..you can't give up your life just because you are with someone.

of course I do....there should be enough trust in the relationship that there won't be any problems with it. Personally, I'm not much for sitting on the couch all the time and find that I need good quality time with my girls.

We are home bodies! We love it though and I wouldn't change it for nothing...

with my last bf we went out together, we stayed home together and we went out seperately. i think the balance of all 3 is good! i'm not saying everytime we went out was a wild and crazy night but we partied occasionally- sometimes i'd drive so he could really let loose and sometimes he would so i could go nuts. it usually depended on who's friends we were out with (i'd let him party with his friends and he'd let me with mine)

I think its important to have a balance. While I do spend a lot of time with my boyfriend, I make a point of meeting up with friends at least once or twice a week to do stuff. Now it might be different and I am no longer bar hopping and clubbing but I try to keep in touch..dinners a few drinks and etc. My boyfriend does the same...so we are still our own people.

Nope, I have never painted the town red and it's insulting to call those who thoroughly enjoy their lives predominantly with their SO's or families 'hermits'. I am alive. Thank you very much.

My husband and I go out about once a week together. Our son has two sets of grandparents in town who always ask to watch him so it works out well for everyone. On nights we stay home we often have other couples and parents over for dinner and drinks. We're very social people and I don't think that has to stop because we have a child. Of course we're not partying like we did before our son but we still have a good time.

There's definitely a difference between going out to have fun and going out to score...

That being said, I don't feel ashamed one bit about going out without my significant other, particularly since I find it annoying that there are some people who are attached at the hip to theirs (read: Real Housewives of NYC's Alex).

But I don't hesitate to let my man have his own time for going out with the guys either, it's just fair!

I'd like to go out once in a while, but my Beau is so against it he makes me feel like a jackass at the sheer mention of a party or get together with pals.

I have been in a serious relationship for a very long time and the only thing that has changed about my partying is that I'm not trying meet any new guys. I am happy with my relationship but as long as I am 20-something, I won't be changing anything. I go out without him all the time and it's not just with girls, it's with co-workers, groups of guys and girls.....just, my friends. He goes out with his friends too and sometimes we both go out together. It just depends on our schedules. We do spend time together at home every once in awhile, cooking dinner and watching a movie but honestly, I am a more go out and live life type of person. I can't stand people who shut out the rest of the world once they are in a serious relationship!

As long as you don't do it every night, i think once in a while is pretty acceptable

i used to party A LOT when i was younger. and i mean A LOT. ive been in a relationship for 5 years now, and i go out WAY, WAY less. i think its more from growing older/wiser than from "being a hermit" though.

absolutely! when we have kids, we'll probably settle down and party less. but being in a relationship doesn't stop us from going out and partying with our friends at all.

hell yes i still go out. People that stay in are destined for a life of boredom

I've never liked going out. I was a homebody before him and I'm still one now. I will o out once in a while just for him.

I never really went out before I had a lover.

I used to go out with my girls a lot, even when I was in relationships, but as soon as I got together with my now-husband, I knew it was different. We rarely go out anymore, because our priorities have shifted, but when we do we're always together, just so one never has to worry about the other. Plus, we have FUN together! I don't WANT to leave him at home!

I stay home more now that I'm in a relationship but it's because I also have rent and bills and no money.

My husband and I go out with our mutual friends together usually...

I absolutely still go out with my girlfriends. Every couple of months we have a girls weekend where we get together at one of our houses, go out dancing, skinny dip in the pool, stay up late talking and drinking and making delicious food. I have been married for over nine years, I have four kids. It is a good thing for my relationship, and I think it's a good thing for my daughters to see that I am not a martyr, I still have fun with friends and can get dressed up and look nice. It's something to think about and look forward to when I start to feel a bit bogged down by all my responsibilities.