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Bitter Ex-Boyfriend Seeks Online Revenge

GiggleSugar — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 02:00:00 -0700

Real cute, but dude - the least you can do is color inside the lines for the sake of demonstrating the teeniest, tiniest amount of maturity. (For all of you grown-ups without a clue who Carnage from Spider-Man is, click here.)

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"Batman" Is Having a Midlife Maturity Crisis

GiggleSugar — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 03:00:00 -0700

It's painfully obvious that Batman's wife left him cuz he's an emotionally underdeveloped tool with the hobbies and interests of a small child. If this tone-deaf rendition of "Patience" by Guns 'n' Roses was intended to bring this manchild's lost love back, then our downtrodden hero needs to hop in his batmobile and ride off into the Gotham City sunset - cuz it's so over.

Found! Douche Gets Dumped

GiggleSugar — Tue, 20 May 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Was the fat comment really necessary? Ladies, we must stick together and focus all our negative energy on the douchebag in the shower. Not only is he a douche for keeping naked pics of his ex on his cell phone while dating someone new, but he's a douche for keeping naked pics of his ex on his cell phone - period. I hope this chick grabbed the DB's clothes on her way out the door. Let's see him tiptoe home in his towel. Or in a dainty baby tee perhaps?

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Hindsight Is 20/20

DearSugar — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:00:00 -0700

Or so they say. I’ve certainly found that to be the case when it comes to old relationships. I always try to take my experiences, good and bad, with me as I move forward in life, but sometimes I still think it would be nice to go back in time and use what I’ve learned to change or avoid things.

It's truly amazing how after a rough break up and some time to recover, suddenly everything becomes so clear. In fact, in most cases, with a little hindsight, I can actually pinpoint the exact moment that everything changed or things started to go downhill. Looking back, can you see the first sign of trouble in your old relationships? What was it?

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Dear Poll: Were You Ever Told It Wouldn't Last?

DearSugar — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 13:00:00 -0800

When Jessica Simpson first started dating Tony Romo, everyone seemed quick to write them off. She had just come out of a string of failed relationships and Tony came under fire for letting Jessica "ruin his football season." Even though they're still together, I feel like we're just waiting for news of the break up, since we all "know" it won't last.

I imagine hearing this kind of sentiment from people can put a lot of strain on a relationship. I'm not sure whether it would make it harder to stay together, or create more determination to make it work. Although I know I would be both sad and annoyed to have people think that about my relationship, I can't lie and say that I've never thought that about other couples. So let me ask you, have you ever been told - or knew people were thinking - that your relationship wouldn't last?

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Sunday Confessional: I Cried to One Guy About Another

DearSugar — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 09:00:00 -0800

I've been seeing Adam casually for about three months. While we both have feelings for each other, our relationship is mostly physical, and we don't think of each other as a couple. About a month ago I met this new guy, Joe, who I felt immediately attracted to. He ended up taking me out on a few dates, and I felt very happy, but I just couldn't get a good read on his feelings before he had to go away for two weeks.

Meanwhile, I was still seeing Adam. I didn't tell him that I had strong feelings for Joe, but I did mention that I was dating someone else. One night while Joe was out of town, I ended up staying with Adam. While Adam was in the shower, I got a call from Joe. Normally, I wouldn't have taken the call, but I was really excited to be hearing from him. Unfortunately, he was calling to break it off with me. I said I understood, but when I got off the phone I was really upset.

When Adam got out of the shower I burst into tears. The next day, when I was still feeling depressed, I got a call from Adam. He told me that he was very hurt by my actions and thought it was incredibly selfish of me to whine to him about another guy. He then proceeded to end our relationship and tell me he couldn't be friends either. I tried to apologize but it was no use. Should I be forgiven or do I deserve this?

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You Asked: He Wants a Break But Still Wants Sex

FitSugar — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 17:00:09 -0800

Dear Sugar,

I stopped talking to my boyfriend for about a week and a half, because I felt like he had no consideration for my feelings. He is always too busy for me, and I don't feel like I am a priority in his life. We have been together for three years, and when I try to talk to him about this and tell him it doesn't make me feel loved, he says I'm crazy and he doesn't want to listen to it. I feel like relationships require work, and he thinks that they don't.

A week has gone by with no talking except for fighting through emails. We finally talked last night, and he told me this is hard for him because he is still in love with me. He thinks we need to take a break for a couple months, so we don't fight, but says we should still have sex. He says he can't even think about being with someone else right now because he is so sexually addicted to me. I asked if he would go to counseling, but he said not right away, that we need this break. I'm confused. I know we've been fighting a lot but I don't see the purpose of being separated for months. Is he just trying to get out without hurting me more, or do you think he really wants this time to evaluate what he feels in his heart?

He came over last night. He wanted to have sex but didn't know if it would
be a good idea because he didn't want me to get sad. So I pretended it was just sex. Afterward he kept telling me he loved me over and over and wouldn't let me go. He kept hugging and kissing me, and told me he bought my daughter stuff for Christmas. I feel like if this is how it's going to be, I'm just going to try and live like we aren't getting back together. I'm not going to let him think I need him even though I told him I loved him back last night. I'm just going to be independent, finish school, go out with my friends, etc. I never thought it would come to this. Any advice?

-Heartbroken and Confused

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Dear Heartbroken and Confused,

You have been with this guy for three years and you feel like he doesn't appreciate you, and when you try to talk to him about it, he won't listen to you? Then he says he wants to take a break, but still wants to keep having sex with you? I know it's hard to see when you're the one in the relationship, so I'll be the one to tell you. This guy has no respect for you. He's acting immature and selfish, and if he won't try to make this work, then he obviously doesn't care about this relationship.

If I were you, I'd cut off all relations with this guy. Don't talk to him. Don't email him. Don't see him and definitely do NOT have sex with him. He's toying with your emotions, and even though you said that it was "just sex," it's not true. You have a history with this man, so anything you do with him involves your feelings.

It's time to give yourself the respect you deserve by not allowing this guy to be with you anymore. It will be really difficult to break up with him for good, but it's the right thing to do. A break will only hurt you and draw this out longer than it needs to be. Do what you said. Be independent, finish school, spend time with your friends. Don't give this guy any more of your precious time. He doesn't deserve you.

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You Asked: Do I Love Him or Not?

DearSugar — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

I dated a guy all throughout college, we were definitely in love and things were great. When we graduated, it became increasingly harder to make things work -- mostly on my end. I wanted to do things that I had planned for years, like travel. He needed to work so he couldn't join me (he tried), but regardless I wanted to travel without him. I am not sure how to explain it, I still loved him (love) but I began to want more...other people, different scenery, adventure. I told him I wanted a break while I traveled and he sadly agreed. It sort of worked out. I briefly dated other guys but I still had contact with him. We didn't exchange info about who or if we dated. For some reason, even though I was still totally in love with him I started to pull away, ending in our breakup a few months ago.

I got back to the U.S. coincidentally close to his birthday. We had not talked in about a month, and he had no idea I was back, so I texted him saying happy birthday. Ever since then (about 5 weeks) he text messages me 1-2 times a week saying things like, "Missing you today" or "Your favorite show is on channel 7." Then 2 weeks ago he texted that he still loved me and hopes somehow "things work out." I don't get it.

What does he want? Where is this going? I know I should ask him but I honestly don't want to deal with that huge "talk". I am trying to eliminate stress from my life and "just be" for a while. I still love him and miss him everyday too, however, I just want to be alone. I want to be with him for so many reasons yet not with him for others. How can I reconcile those two feelings?

--Spirited Sarah

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Dear Spirited Sarah--

Love is a strange thing, it isn't always black and white. You may love him, but the timing might be off, and that's ok, but you have to be honest with him. It sounds like you're calling the shots here, remember you were the one who went off and left him, and I'm sure he missed you and was completely devastated, so you threw him a bone. Now that you're back in the U.S., he's thinking that you can go back to how things were before you went away. He obviously still loves you and wishes you two were still together.

It sounds like you do love and care for this guy, but not enough to want to be with him right now. If that's the case, you've got to tell him that. You have to have "the talk" with him, you owe him that -- be honest about your feelings, let him know you simply want to be free to experience new people and places right now because somehow he's thinking that there's still a chance you'll work things out. If it's meant to be later down the road, it will happen, but let him go experience new people and places too if your heart isn't where his is right now. Good luck.

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You Asked: I'm Heart-Broken, HELP!

DearSugar — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

I feel devastated. My boyfriend broke up with me today. He was my first boyfriend and honestly the one that I thought I would end up with. We met in our last year of high school and broke up two years later. A year later we got back together, and now today we broke up. A 5 1/2 year relationship - done. Initially, I had decided to take a break, just because I was beginning to feel like he wasn't appreciating me anymore, not being romantic, calling me or going out with me as much. We had a talk and he confessed that yes, he felt like he needed to date other girls to make sure that I was really the one. He said that he still cared for me, and that even during this break, he would feel jealous if he heard that I went out with other guys.

Well, he emailed me today to tell me the devastating news, that it was really over. Overall, I still believe he is a good guy, and his rationale makes sense to me, but I honestly thought that we would just end up happily together. My question is, how do I get over him? Will I get over him? How do I move on? What do I do? And then, he still wants us to keep in touch, to maintain a friendship. Can that be done? I am honestly too hurt to even consider a friendship. I'm just really upset, devastated, and just feel really empty. Cheer me up, Sugar.

--Heart-Broken Heather

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Dear Heart-Broken Heather--

Breaking up with someone you love is probably the worst feeling you can have. It's going to take a lot of time to "mourn" your relationship, and my best advice is to surround yourself with friends who will make you feel better. Do the things you love to do. Keep yourself busy with a new hobby or with work. Go to the gym, to the book store, to the movies, or shopping! Get a massage, get your nails done, get a new haircut. Remember that you need to take care of yourself right now.

If he still wants to be friends, and you find that much too difficult to bear right now, then maintain your space. Don't see him, don't talk to him, don't email him. Do what you need to do to get him out of your mind. At least you can feel good knowing that he obviously still cares for you deeply if he wants to stay in touch with you, but please don't just sit around thinking he'll want you back because then you'll never get over him. Move on by deciding to move on.

Know that everyone has felt as sad as you feel right now. Without heartache, true love wouldn't feel so amazing. With some time apart, it'll give you a chance to think and reflect on your relationship and your own future. Remember how you didn't feel appreciated or loved as much as you thought you deserved? Well, maybe once you feel ready to date again, you'll meet someone who will give you what you need. You're still young and now you have the chance to date and experience new relationships. Think of this as a welcome opportunity to find even deeper love. My heart goes out to you but I know you will get through this and be a stronger woman because of it.

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Found! A Good-Bye Note

GiggleSugar — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 07:00:00 -0700

Cat didn't get her tongue. Meow! (But it's no stretch to fall in love with a LOSER. Haven't we all?)

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