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Group Therapy: I'm Having Trouble in Dating Paradise - Help!

Thu, 05 Mar 2009 04:00:00 -0800

I met this really cute guy a few nights ago. We've gone out on one date so far, and I honestly thought it went really well. We had lots to talk about, lots of stuff in common, and he kept making references to the future, saying things like, "We've got to do this," or "Next time we hang out, remind me to take you here," etc. When he dropped me off, we kissed goodbye and he gave me a big hug.

He texted me the next day, telling me that he had a great time and asked me out again for the next day, which was yesterday. He told me that he'd call me to secure plans but I still haven't heard from him! I was all excited, thinking that we were going to hang out, and now I'm left really confused. How could he seem so interested and then just completely blow me off? Do you think I'll hear from him again? If so, what should I say/do about the fact that he bailed on our date?

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Relationship Protocol: How Do You Feel About Boys' Night?

DearSugar — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

We all know that boys will be boys, but when they are in a relationship, time with the guys becomes all the more important. Just as women need alone time with their friends, men desire the same interaction. But I've noticed a common theme when my girlfriends tell me about their significant others' nights out: they're constantly up to no good, drinking too much, staying out too late, and spending too much money. Of course it's their life and they can live it however they see fit, but when it compromises their girlfriends' feelings, something has to change. So ladies, how do you feel when your significant other goes out with the guys? Is it a cause for contention, or are you a supporter of boys' night out?

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Group Therapy: He Won't Make a Move!

Fri, 27 Jun 2008 03:00:00 -0700

I broke up with my boyfriend of one year about two months ago. Since then, one of my very best guy friends has moved back to the area, and we've been spending a lot of time together. He's 25 (I'm 24), and we've known each other for about two and a half years. We've always had an extremely flirty relationship, and although we've never even so much as kissed, I definitely sense some kind of chemistry between us. All of my friends seem to think we'll eventually end up together. However, I'm starting to have my doubts.

We used to only hang out on occasion, but since my breakup, he regularly calls me just to talk, invites me out almost every weekend, takes me out to dinner, insists on paying for everything, etc. But besides intense flirting, he has yet to make a move. Every night when he drops me off at my apartment, he gives me a hug and nothing more. This would be fine if we were just friends, but I feel like our consistent "dates" have made us more than that.

At first I just thought maybe he needed a little more time to get comfortable, but now it just seems ridiculous. I feel like I'm in high school again! I've never had this problem with a guy before. Is he just not interested? Have I been reading him wrong? I would just go ahead and kiss him, but now that I'm second-guessing his intentions, I would be mortified if I tried to kiss him and he pulled away! The last thing I want to do is ruin our friendship or make it all awkward.

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Do Tell: Do You Consider Yourself Boy Crazy?

DearSugar — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 15:00:00 -0700

My mom always used to refer to one specific girlfriend of mine growing up as boy crazy. Of course, we were young so it wasn't that she was promiscuous, but she definitely loved the attention she got from the boys! Now I'm not going to say that I shy away from male attention, but I can comfortably say that I've never been a boy-crazed girl. What about you? Do tell ladies, do you consider yourself to be boy crazy?

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Group Therapy: I Want Him to Appreciate Me

Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:00:00 -0800

I feel like my best friend, who is also my potential boyfriend, takes me for granted. I can't help but feel like I'm the one always making time for him, calling him, and doting on him. I'm always there whenever he needs me, so it feels like he doesn't appreciate the value that I bring to his life. I want him to realize that just because we're so close doesn't mean that he can just take me for granted or assume that I'll always be around. Sometimes I wish he could just feel what it's like to be in my shoes and feel insecure about our relationship. I want him to miss me! What can I do to balance this scale?

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Do Tell: How Old Is Too Old to Have a Roommate?

DearSugar — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 07:00:00 -0800

A friend of mine is dating a 32-year-old man with two roommates. She lives alone, but 20 minutes outside the city so whenever they go out, she reluctantly spends the night at his place. She has complained to me on numerous occasions that their place resembles a frat house, it's always loud, people come and go at all hours of the day, and she has to worry about being walked in on while she's going to the bathroom.

While I know it's expensive to live in the big city, what I want to know is, how old is too old for a man to have a roommate? Is it a turn off for a grown man to share a bathroom and kitchen with someone else besides his girlfriend?

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Group Therapy: Single and lonely

Tue, 17 Apr 2007 03:00:00 -0700

So I have a few things going on. I am 25 and single. And really tired of it. I have dated but nothing has worked out. I am trying the online thing, but nothing really good is coming out of it. I am just really tired of being alone. To top it off, one of my friend's birthdays is coming up and I dated her brother a few months back. He now has a new gf. So I basically have to go to this bday party and act normal and nice, when inside it's going to be killing me that hes with someone else and I am still alone. I am just not looking forward to it at all. Anyone have any words of advice or know where I am coming from?? Thanks everyone!

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You Asked: How Can You Tell?

DearSugar — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 12:30:00 -0700

Hello DearSugar Readers --

I received an email last week and have been thinking long and hard about how to respond. I've decided this isn't something for me to answer alone, and I'd like to ask all of you to offer your opinion and advice about this rather universal and eternal question. I imagine we'll have a kind of community encyclopedia when we're done, and perhaps this young woman will have herself a roadmap, too. Maybe poll your girl friends, guy friends and your partner, or ask them to comment, too. The dream is to make this as comprehensive and detailed as possible! And thank you in advance, and as ever, for your passionate engagement!

Warmly,
DearSugar

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Things He Should Know: Locker Room Only

DearSugar — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 06:01:00 -0700

When you first start dating someone, you both stay on your best behavior. Later, it's soothing the way you feel comfortable doing anything in front of each other, and how entirely yourself you can be. But if you want to keep the romance alive, fellas, there's a small list of things you might want to share strictly with your buddies. We promise to keep some stuff strictly girl friend, too!

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As the honeymoon period recedes and you begin revealing more everyday behaviors, things like belching, passing gas, picking your nose, cutting your toenails in bed, and talking about bodily functions should be off limits, unless you clear it first with your gal. The tips below might help you fly right.

Get to know what foods make you gassy and avoid them if you're planning to spend the night with your lady
The most common culprits are broccoli, beans, onions, garlic, spicy foods, dairy, fried food, soda and beer, and anything with carbonation
Eating too fast wreaks havoc on your stomach and creates a lot of gas. Slow down your eating and make sure to chew your food properly
To avoid an upset stomach, eat in a calm environment. Don't eat on the road or standing over the sink. Enjoy your meal and chew with your mouth closed. Not only is it a no-no, but chewing with your mouth open lets in excess air, which can cause gas
Antacids are your friends. Beano, Tums, and Gas-X are all effective and easy to find over the counter. Keep them handy

I don't mean to cramp your style or kill your fun, fellas, because we love the clown in you as much as the gentleman. But some things are best expressed when the ladies aren't around.

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Were You Ever Attracted to Bad Boys?

TresSugar — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 11:00:15 -0800

With her rocker eyeliner, all-black wardrobe, and perfected eye roll, Gossip Girl's Jenny Humphrey isn't exactly fitting in with the prissy kids at her prep school. It's obvious that she needs a bad boy by her side, and on last night's episode that's just what she gets.

Jenny meets up with a Belgian diplomat's son, who happens to be drug pusher. She seems turned on or at least intrigued by his rebellious side and ends up helping him with some sales. Luckily, original bad boy Chuck Bass (they know his name even in Europe) is there to save Jenny from the dangers of drugs. But now that she's had a taste of the fast life, I suspect she'll be back for more, especially since she already has the wardrobe.

Although Jenny's appearance in the episode is otherwise pointless, it did remind us that sometimes we can be attracted to bad boys - even if it's completely stupid. Have you ever had a thing for troublemakers?

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