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Do Women Get "Blue Balls" Too?

DearSugar — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700

A couple weeks ago I posted about whether blue balls were a real condition: When a guy becomes aroused, blood rushes to his nether regions and an erection is born. If he doesn't have an orgasm, many guys claim they're left with an unbearable feeling below the waist known as "blue balls."

So is there some equivalent condition for women? To find out read more.

Yes, women can experience the same thing. This feeling is both physically irritating and emotionally frustrating. It's a type of vasocongestion, which basically means swelling of tissues due to increased blood flow. For women, there's no specific term for this issue. I think it has to do with the fact that scientifically speaking, it's no big deal for a woman not to have an orgasm since the purpose of sex is to have babies. A female orgasm doesn't make that happen, but a guy's does, so that's why his orgasm may be considered more important. I also think that it's become socially acceptable for a guy to climax every time he has sex. Maybe men thought that if they came up with a name for this condition, we'd feel more obligated to "cure" the problem, but puleeze - women deserve to orgasm just as often as men!

The good news is that although it may be tough to fall asleep with your mind on sex, the physical aching quickly subsides as soon as the blood flow to the area decreases. With both men and women, you don't have to worry about this feeling causing any harm to your privates. If you're experiencing "blue balls," there's no reason why you can't just take matters into your own hands, if you know what I mean!

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Are "Blue Balls" Real?

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700

I'm sure many of you can relate to being persuaded into having sex because your guy claimed he'd have painful blue balls if you didn't. So is this just a lame way to try to seduce you, or are blue balls an actual issue?

Let's first talk about what they are exactly. It's a slang term for aching testicles, which occur when a guy gets aroused but doesn't have an orgasm. When he becomes sexually excited, blood rushes to his genital area and the arteries carrying blood enlarge, but the veins are more constricted. This uneven blood flow traps blood in his penis which causes him to have an erection. His testicles enlarge about 25 to 50 percent, but once a man ejaculates, his arteries and veins return to their normal size rather quickly. If he doesn't ejaculate, however, there will be a lingering, heavy or aching sensation in his testicles, known as blue balls - the name comes from the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in his testicles.

So are blue balls harmful? To find out, read more.

Experts say the discomfort is minor and it doesn't last long, but this feeling is likely exaggerated because it's coupled with the disappointment of not being able to orgasm. You should know that in no way do blue balls cause any physical complication or harm to his business, and you shouldn't feel like it's your job to cure him. It's become a socially accepted idea that when a guy has sex, he has to orgasm, but try not to feel pressured into going all the way or pleasing him so he's sexually satisfied if you're not ready to take that next step.

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Cute Alert: Samudra the Baby Elephant Playing With a Blue Ball

GiggleSugar — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 09:00:00 -0800

Just like all babies, baby Samudra, the 5-month-old elephant at the Oregon Zoo, likes to play. In this video, she's just hanging around with mom until someone throws her a blue ball. And off she goes! I love seeing the baby versions of big animals - clumsy and adorable.

Ask E. Jean For DearSugar: What Have I Done?

E Jean Carroll — Thu, 29 May 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Dear E. Jean,
I haven’t dated in a while and have put on a little weight. I’ve tried everything to take it off - nothing works. So to get myself motivated, I decided to look on Match.com just to see what was out there. When I signed up, my roommates (and their digital camera) were out of town. I did not have any pictures of the slightly larger, current me, so I used older, slimmer pictures. (I know, it’s a lame excuse, and I can say nothing in my own defense.)

To my horror, guys are in a race to get my number and talk to me! I have four guys very interested! Help! Do I tell them the pictures are not current? Or do I meet them anyway and hold my breath? And finally, do you have any secret to losing weight? - Dateless in Manhattan

To see E. Jean's answer read more

Dateless, You Doofbrain: Oh please. Tell the lads you’re as “plump as a porpoise” and meet them for coffee. Who knows, they may find you twice as alluring. Or you can say you’ll meet them next month and lose the weight.

Either way, stop plaguing yourself.

Who cares what men you’ve never met think of you? (Well, OK, OK, you do care, but you don’t desperately care.) The moment you start actually paying attention to what the buggers think - if they like you curvy or slim, smart or supersmart, white or black, young or younger, blonde or brunette - you’re doomed. It’s when you don’t give a big flying figdoodle what they think - that’s when they can’t get enough of you.

P.S. Balls. Trust me. Giant Balls. Balls you sit on. Get rid of your chair at work and sit on a big ball. It’s terrific for your back and posture And you burn tons more calories per hour because you are bouncing and rolling. Hell, just trying to sit on the damn things - and not fall on your rump - will work your core.

Auntie Eeee sits on a big (blue) ball to watch TV and another ball (also big and blue) to work at my desk. Yes. I have blue balls all over my house. This is my secret to losing weight.

To see more advice from E. Jean visit Elle magazine and AskEJean.com

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DearSugar — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 04:00:00 -0700

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Oscar Rescues His Drowning Tennis Ball

GiggleSugar — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 02:00:00 -0700

Oscar's beloved plaything is drowning, and he can't do anything about it. Barking is no good, paddling the water only sends the ball floating in the opposite direction, and his good-for-nothing owner won't dive in for the rescue. The life of the ball is in Oscar's paws, but there's just one problem - he can't swim. Or can he? Watch Oscar brave the deep blue waters of his backyard pool to save the only tennis ball he's ever loved.

Check Your Balls!

GiggleSugar — Wed, 26 Dec 2007 03:00:00 -0800

I love how ads aimed at women are so dainty and delicate. Maxi-pad commercials hint at actual menstrual blood with an artistic red dot (or blue liquid). This PSA for testicular cancer is aimed at men-or their "balls," anyway. Watch this testicle get pummeled by a hockey player and you'll see what I mean.

Thanks, Ad Freak!

Now On Maury: Woman Afraid Of Cotton Balls

GiggleSugar — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 10:45:00 -0700

Every once in a blue moon we get a dispatch from the Land Of Weird, aka "The Maury Povich Show," purveyor of bizarre phobias like pickle phobia and peach phobia. Now another weirdo comes out of the woodwork to give us...Cotton Phobia. I love how as soon as she reveals she's had a recurring nightmare about a man made of cotton balls, Maury, naturally, brings one out. Please don't become a therapist, Maury.